Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I apologize in advance for generalizing, and I am sure not all men are like this, so please just accept this as a rant, I need to vent!
I am 34 and I had many partners (around 16) and all of them sucked. Some sucked from the beginning never bothered learning, some sucked but learned over time, and some weren't even aware of how much they sucked thinking they rocked my world!
Alright, we know that my generation of boys didn't have enough eduction on sex and most didn't have good father figures, but it is 2023 I am not buying into these excuses anymore. You can learn anything on the internet!
There is a vast difference between men and women when it comes to sex, and it seems like men are just complete idiots that fail to remember this. I am talking about BASIC things! I am yet to meet a man who likes forplay. They don't like it, they do it for women. Actually not even for women, women are completely irrelevant when it comes to anything, they do it to either impress her or smooth out the penetration. For men, it is all about blowing the load. And as fast as possible! Until it charges again and then do it again. It is like they are programmed to do this, like they MUST blow it no matter if world is ending, like no control! They watch porn and masturbate super quickly to it, then go to a woman and masturbate super quickly on her, basically. Male arousal is completely different then female's, most guys think that if a woman is super wet then that means she is to ready orgasm, lol. Well, at least that one was wet, how about 90% others that are fucked dry? I can't even count how many times a man would jus to force his dick into my dry pussy, not realizing why it's not getting in.
If you ask both a man and a woman, what is for them a bad sex, men will say bad sex is when they didn't cum, and women will say bad sex is when it hurts (and almost every incourse hurts in some positions). I came to just one realization why are women so unsatisfied sexually: they settle for selfish jerks! Yes this world is full of selfish male lovers who simply do not care. I refuse to believe that men are biologically so freaking bad at sex, it must be the selfishness. Women are silent about it because they don't know any better, and it is so sad. So, so sad. So if one woman would reject a guy for his lack of sexual skills or willigness to learn, there's another one just around the corner ready to take it in dry for 2 minutes.
Another problem is their insanly huge, unrealistic egos. That thing is scarier then anything! If you tell a man that something is not working for you sexually, be prepared for that ego to smack you right back in your face - by getting ghosted.
Looking at my experience and of my female friends, we all agree that around 90% of our sexual partners sucked big time. And if you google about it, it makes your stomach turn on how wide this issue is in general.
You know what? I am done. If I was completely honest, I experience WAY MORE please when I masturbate. How sad is that! I have stronger emotional connection with my dildo then with any grown ass man. So what's the point in sex? I mean, I am amazed how little men care about women's pleasure, amazed! How can someone be a good person and not reciprocate the favor of orgasm? I would be having really hard time walking away from someone who is left unsatisfied, I simply cannot do it, the guilt would eat me away! Even if it's a one night stand, I mean it's still a person. So my conclusion is that any man who cums (and then falls asleep or goes home) and woman just stays there without orgasm, is a bad person. A really, really bad person.
I know many girls will comment how this is not true and how your partners give you pleasure, but just think very good about it, and about all your ex partners, you will know what I'm talking about. There number of times a man had "bad" sex is same as the number of times a woman had "good" sex.
I do not want to hear any more excuses. We fucked it up, ladies. It's our fault! Actually, the ones who are not educated enough is us women! We created simps and pussies with the feminism and equality shit. I beg you ladies, do not settle for less! I will never again fake an orgasm or be nice about lousy treatment. I don't care about their ego, their not getting a time of day anymore before making me cum. I'm just done with lame, evil people.
What Girls & Guys Said
18 75Well you would have no trouble with me. I love to learn if the communication is open. I’ll give you an example - my wedding night. (Now I don’t know if this has any bearing on this story but my wife is traditional Chinese. I’m sure she knew how sex worked but she didn’t even masturbate according to her. Matter of fact when we were dating she experienced the full power of her clitoris when I licked her clitoris giving her her first orgasm. She enjoyed that immensely. 😉). Now - My wife and I were both virgins and she was really excited. My 6.2 inch long erecting penis was ready to go and I was wearing a condom - Safety first! 😉. I kissed her and then gently squeezed her breasts and sucked on her nipples making them as erect as my penis was. She gently pulled my head up with both her hands and said put your penis into my vagina. I positioned myself and she gently grabbed my penis and directed it in. I gently and slowly inserted myself and……boy was she wrong! Just the head of my penis went in and it felt like a truck entering as tunnel too small for it and scraping the sides. She winced and said take it out quick! I did and to reinstate the mood we did 69 and I gave her an orgasm. In her panting state I asked her do you want to try again? She said yes. I said do you want me to put some lube on just in case? She said good idea. Well I did and we tried again. Nope! I got in a bit more than just the head of my penis but she winced again and said take it out it’s burning me! I got some toilet tissue and cleaned the lube up as best as I could. She was still weak from that 69 orgasm I gave her. She thanked me and she said she was sorry. I said don’t worry we got a Lot of time to make it work. 🙂. She kissed me and said she was tired but she knew I needed to orgasm. She said I’m so sleepy I’m sorry I can’t help you. You need to go sit on the toilet and masturbate. Well I took off the condom and threw it away in the trash. I then followed her advice and sat on the toilet and wrapped some toilet paper around my penis and masturbated and ejaculated into the toilet paper. I cleaned up and flushed the semen filled toilet paper down the toilet. I got into bed beside her and she was asleep. I kissed her and looked at my new wedding band and her not disappointed what happened but happy she is my wife.
Fast forward a few months we repeatedly kept trying penis in vagina sex. We went to ob-gyn and asked what went wrong, why she wasn’t getting wet. Doc said try other lubes. Which we did. And she has the nuvaring put into her. Finally we got one a lube and Success! We were both happy but I was on top and she just laid like a bump on a log - no movement. I said girl you got to move with me so there’s mutual feeling between our bodies. Well bless her she tried but she gave out of energy and told me to continue. Well I finally did it - I ejaculated into her vagina successfully. I said I think I did it! She said she thought she was supposed to feel when I ejaculated into her? I said don’t believe everything you read or hear from other people. She said are you sure you did? I slowly pulled my penis out still erect and she saw it glistening covered in semen and she said wow you did it! Congratulations! I said thanks but We did it! She said yes I know you and your penis did it. I lightly laughed and said No We did it - You and me. She smiled and kissed me. She then took a shower and it’s so small it can only fit one person. I waited for my turn and cleaned my penis as best as I could with toilet paper and flushed the toilet paper down the toilet. She got out and I took my shower while she peed on the toilet and I’m guessing that all my semen was expelled while she peed and flushed it all down the toilet.
I can post more like when it was time to have our son if you like 👍🙂
I'm kind of new to sex (only 2) girls and the relationships were short. I just graduated high school. I have to agree with you om a few things. When I lost my virginity 5 months ago I was nervous but psyched at the same time if you know what I mean. Fortunately my girlfriend at the time had had sex with her previous boyfriend and was on the pill. We had sex 3 times that afternoon and it was wonderful. The first time I did not last too long... imagine that. But what helped me the next several times we had sex and with my 2nd girlfriend was that they gave me some input as to what felt good, or to slow down, try more foreplay etc.
I'm sure they did not orgasm any time but they seemed to enjoy themselves and have fun. I still like solo sex... because one can just focus on our own body. I have a lot to learn and will always appreciate feedback.
Not really caring about the woman's fulfillment and learning about female anatomy. It takes time and effort to do so. With that I learned how to make women squirt, which isthe most POWERFUL orgasm they can have!
So if all men suck at sex, how are you gonna go get the sex you want?
I don't buy into this "feminism = bad" propaganda.
Interesting take and there's many reasons for this but here are a few of the most common ones.
1. The average guy doesn't get laid. Studies show that about 30% of men under 30 are virgins or haven't had sec in a week.
2. Sexual goals are different A man's Sexual goal is to cum a women's sexual goal is to feel am emotional attachment to the person she let inside her.
3. Men have a scarcity mindset- Most guys are scared to try new things because they're worried that if the Girl says no they'll lose access to sex.
4. Most women aren't good at sex - I've been w/ over 275 women in my life and only a handful of them stand out. Typically women are pretty boring in bed.
5. Sex education is all about prevention - You mentioned sex education however sex education does not teach men how to please women it teaches them how to protect them from disease and pregnancy
275 women! You probably have or have had every disease in the book!
@Cristinaissweet Ty for sharing, no as of my last appointment w/ my primary care physician I have no diseases. Why do you believe that I would? Do you think women are riddled w/ diseases?
I’m surprised you haven’t met a guy educated or one that enjoys foreplay. Why even have Sex if you don’t enjoy foreplay and seduction and aftercare and all the parts of intimacy. These guys are ignorant and really missing out.
Have you even had guys who played and roleplayed or experimented with food or ice or heat? Did all your exes just shove it in when they got hard? Like a 30 min make out session with heavy petting seems basic to highschool dates.
Foreplay is the key to any great sex being male I know this its part of who I am.. if your not being fullfilled then find a better man,, there are lots out there ,, maybe look for someone that is older.. hope you find what you need.. I was there with my x for a while lol
There are some men that are bad at sex. They are only looking to blow a load and move on. It seems like that is the type of guys you are sleeping with. Maybe if you were a little more selective on the guys you were with, you might find a guy who is more passionate about sex. That's the guy that will go to the end of the world to make sure the woman he's with has orgasms.
Fuck what a retarded, odd rant. I can't be bothered to point out all the very stupid and dumb last part of the take. Im not surprised you went anon, you do not wan to know how stupid, pathetic you are. Science shows how unlikely women are to orgasm through sex alone. Some can't at all. It is practically impossible. Besides you should put the effort in. You want an orgasm but are happy to have a go at men for wanting one. It is a two way thing.
You are just frustrated really. Next you will be saying if a man does not make a woman cum it is rape
Some know how to use the dick and pleases a woman correctly otherwise they aren't that good
I think if sleeping around has caused this issue.
Ever heard of a dead fish. Its a two way street.
3 out my 4 partners just wanted to lay there. Hell I gave up sex after my first girlfriend because I never climaxed during sex. I thought if this is what sex is I'd rather jerk off. I like foreplay, the nut is so much stronger when I'm mentally aroused. The only one who didn't just lay there was my next partner. Sex with her was hours of us teasing each other over the course of the day before a couple of hours of foreplay. I'd never penetrate until i'd get her thighs quivering in anticipation. We had amazing sex for the next two years. The next one let her insecurities ruin it. I remember our first time vividly. After making out for 15 minutes I started to kiss down her body and when I got to just below her navel she says "I see you found my fat role". There was no fat role. A nice mood killer. She didn't want to perform oral sex nor have it done to her. She didn't want to try any position other than missionary. My next was much the same except she'd strong arm my mouth with her tongue. That was about her only contribution. Didn't want the lights on, where is the fun in that. A pitch black room being suffocated with a tongue. My point is most people suck at sex. I think often of my second. So much fun.
Practice makes perfect
Honestly, I've never understood it. It's obvious when something is working and when it isn't, it's not too difficult to pivot if you need to start doing something else. You gotta be patient and read what's working. It's simple, but most men can't think beyond what feels good to them (and that might only take them 5 minutes!)
Some people just don't care as long as they get theirs.
Men suck because they dont care about us during sex. Try a woman, their better
If you needed to apologize for generalizing, why did you do it in the first place
Says who? Your just fucking around with inexperienced boys that don't know shit.
Sorry anonymous. Most of us men are cocked and loaded. You get us excited, we are shooter load and roll over and go to sleep. Can't help it if we don't know what we're doing to appease women. We men are simple creatures. We're not complicated you may have show us a million times. Please be patient with us. I've been with my companion for 44 years and each time we have sex, I still can't please her every time.
I think the ones they're bad at it are selfish and only caring about their own needs! That would be some bad sex!😁