Sexual Relationships 
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Lately this has been concerning me a lot more these days. I guess because it seems to be that I grow less and less sexually excited. Or that maybe it takes specific women or specific things to really arouse me. But it does bother me. Some of the details in this post are personal but I'm opening up about them because maybe someone can help.
For about the last year or so I've seemed to be less and less interested in sex, even though I want to be. I've worried about all the things they talk about: am I having low testosterone? Have I reached that point where they say men's sex drive starts to decline? Is my diet bad? Etc. I don't think it's a testosterone problem because I've been to the doctor in the last some months and they never noticed anything like that, nor did the nurses when I went for labs later on and they didn't report finding anything low. The only problem the doctor said I had was low vitamin D, which she did give me a prescription for. For a minute I thought maybe that was part of the problem, but I took the vitamin D and I still had little interest in sex and wasn't easily turned on.
I have no trouble getting an erection and I do masturbate, but even that requires being in a particular mood for. I keep feeling like maybe my problem is stress or other things going on in my daily life that do give me anxiety. My work life exhausts me. I feel unhappy more often. I have little time for myself and doing anything fun or enjoyable. I feel like there's no glow in life anymore and like nothing really thrills me. I remember how the morning could feel so good, how the smell of spring could light you up, how fun and youthful life could feel. But now it's like nothing really excites me anymore. It's like there's a cloudiness in my mind.
And this has also happened to my sexual excitement. I feel like women don't really thrill me anymore, or only particular ones. And when I say women don't thrill me anymore I don't mean I'm turning gay or anything, trust me. I mean that it seems like every woman is just another one. A hot one here. A hot one there. Been there, done that. Nothing new. Even though inside I still like all these women and find them to be hot, but I can't seem to get excited about them anymore but want to. Every now and then I will see one or meet one with an incredible body, great breasts, great skin, that really does get me particularly hard, but it's not as common of an occurence as it used to be.
Partly this lack in sexual interest is also due to what I like, need, and want in a woman that I'm just not finding in many of them. And I mean character-wise. I'm at this place where my sex drive does often depend on the vibe a woman is giving me, regardless of how she looks. Even if she's the sexiest thing on the planet with huge boobs and a great body, if she's acting like a bitch, is rude, stuck up, or has poor social skills and behavior, I just get turned off. I'm not interested in any sex with women like that. One of my male co-workers was even telling me he's the same way.
But still aside from that, I should still be having all-day boners like I used to. I work in an environment where I'm exposed to many sexually attractive women on a regular basis, and yet I rarely care. It even seems like my mind is suppressing it because of all the stress I deal with and all my other cares, and I hate it. I've tried different things to see if it'll get me back in the mood. Eating more vegetables. Essential oils for improving sex drive. Masturbating to thoughts of different sex acts. Hell, even watching porn from time to time. On occasion one of these will do the trick for a moment, but doesn't last.
What is wrong with me? And have any other guys out there at a young age ever been through this kind of thing?
#NoInterestInSex
What Girls & Guys Said
41 43You expressed some symptoms of depression which has a side effect of low libido, so I would see a therapist and go from there.
a lot to read
For a man , a decreased / low or no sex drive is a blessing , men typically have far higher sex drives than women , combined with much more restricted sexual access than women. Nothing to be concerned about , my T levels are quite normal , they are lower than when I was younger , to be expected really. Stress does kill libido , it did mine , even the typically strong male libido.
I see the the loss of my Male Curse as a huge blessing , also my situation as a single dad means permanent celibacy anyway , good riddance to an unwanted biological burden and distraction.
Does sound like you have mild depression by the way , I have fought this , along with PTSD from Army service
I agree and am jealous. As we age the benefit to wanting to hump like rabbits is far diminished. At my age it is also an unnecessary distraction and burden.
Maybe your low sex drive is normal? Everyone is different.
It isn't. I used to be wayyyyy hornier than this.
Doctor methinks
Because there are more important things going on then just sex. once you get a certain age your priorities is set up different.
I agree with this answer completely. There's a reason why so many young people on this site ask questions about "virginity" as if it's the most important thing that they'll ever accomplish in life -- it's because they have nothing going on in their life and they just don't realize it.
Exactly, no responsibility what so ever. no bills just at home with mommy and daddy so they have all day to masturbate a d worry about sex. when we get older we dont have that luxury
It happened to me at your age and even though I am a female it happens. I was not “getting wet” and some particular guys only can make me wet as off today. I tell you from experience that the older we get, we start to unconciously seen life different (getting more mature) and with that our priorities or interests in life as well. You are going to be one day only focus not in appereance but in heart and soul, looking maybe for love instead of sex, for me in example looking for peace and emotional stability and so on... you have nothing wrong, this is life. Your erections are NOT going to be like a teenager anymore, your desires will be totally different and what you really like will be what turn you on in a heart beat because you are not that kid that somebody put their hands in your lap and u will be excited right after, it won't work like that anymore. It needs more than that, also at that age even drinking hurts, there is no more drinking until 5:00 am , probably midnight and we tired already... it all change for the good if you look at it with positivism.
I reached a point where sex without love bores me. It is a good thing, because the wrong women have no sway over me.
Probably cause you have slept around
Sounds like your growing up man lol if men hit this point earlier in life we'd have a better society
Have you had casual sex when you were younger?
Okay this is how I’ve felt my whole life. I’m a young woman but still. I don’t find masturbation pleasurable, I don’t care to have sex and while I do find a lot of guys attractive, it’s all admiration. If one of them showed interest in me, the thought of kissing them comes to mind but I don’t need or care for sexual activity. I don’t take antidepressants, I exercise somewhat regularly and am in good health. I want companionship and a partner but I don’t want/need sex. Maybe I haven’t met the right guy? But a 25 year old should have more of a drive.
Sex doesn't means exactly the same thing to women as it does it men. If i may, it sounds like to me your issues isn't that of desire sex (that comes afterwards for women), your issue is trust in regards to any of the men that do chase you if any of them have at all.
@Kyle_Apricot yeah that could be it
After 30 you are not more in your sexual prime. And if everything is dull and nothing exiting anymore does sound a bit like depression.
Break the routine
The more you fret about it the worse it will get. So give it a rest. Things will pick up a again when the time is right.
Okay.
Not sure
It is best if men can remain like Jesus and Paul and flee from sexual temptation.
Now a days social workers like group of professors supply prostitutes as a marriage candidate for happy marriage. It's a charity done by brilliant people.
The anxiety it makes you feel might be actual cause, try to focus on something else. As soon as you'll feel more relaxed and in the mood I'm sure you'll feel better
Too much soy in your diet breh.
I don't eat soy.
How is this a bad thing? If I could get rid of annoying bodily distractions that cause me to lose concentration and time in my day I'd be happy about it.
This is like complaining you no longer need food and water to get through the day.