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I hear it a lot. "I'm so pretty, but guys don't hit on me?" Or "why do guys never hit on the pretty ones?"
There is a reason: because some (not all of course) girls are just cruel. It's usually a loud embarrassing and public rejection. How many of those kind of mean turn downs would it take for a guy to just give up? Not many.
Think about it what how many of these kind of rejections could you take before saying "no, not worth it?"
And I know it's not fair to judge all women by the actions of a few, but how can a guy tell which is which without asking? They can't. So they simply don't.
It's much easier to get rejected online via dating websites, where there is a level of anonymity.
As one guy said, approaching a girl is like a minefield. One wrong word and....
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42 51I think it bullshit. Pretty girls in my area got guys hitting on them all the time.
If the girls think the only reason why guys don't hit on them is because they are too pretty, they are completely delusional.
Those girls are just insane and mean. That's extreme. By the way, I'm not sure that it's a fact that guys don't hit on pretty girls.
Those girls are actually very typical of the pretty middle and high school girls when a less attractive guy would ask them out. That is the time when boys are first working up the courage to ask girls out. For that reason encountering that kind of attitude is a lot more traumatic for him. It really can have a lasting impression on making him not want to ever approach a girl. Instead these guys typically try a different approach of befriending the girl and hoping she will notice what a great guy he is, and will make a move on him. Then he complains about being friend zoned.
If that's true I'm really glad I didn't grow up in the U. S., honestly. Kids where you live behave seriously bad... even bullism is not a big thing here, while it seems like it happens everywhere in the U. S. It's sad but true.
@heavensgift2girls
I feel like I judge pretty girls. I assume their only interested in the better looking guys and we would have nothing in common. I also think that they would most likely be shallow and materialistic expecting more because she's attractive. I try not to do this. Lastly I'd probably also expect that she doesn't want to be approached by another guy no matter his intention. She gets approached to much already why would she wants to get approached by me. It's kind of a reverse judgement. How can I stop this? I feel bad for doing this. Assuming these things just because she's beautiful. Should I start approaching and showing interest beautiful girls? Oh plus I also assume they already have a boyfriend if they are nice.
I think you would be surprised how many "pretty" or "very pretty girls" would love normal conversati You don't even have to ask for her number if you think it will make the situation awkward! You should just try talking to them. Most likely, your conversation will be 10 times more interesting than the last 10 guys who hit on her saying "You're cute, you're hot, let's go out"(Not that there's something wrong with that. But once you hear that all the time, you start to wish there was something else likable about you worth complimenting. People don't choose their looks. If you're born a certain way, it's not really something to be proud of. You get to the point where you're like... and what?) What would be great is if someone says those clothes look lovely on you, or you're makeup is perfect, or you're funny or smart, etc. Who wants to be complimented for a thing you didn't put any effort into? To me, hearing I'm hot, is equivalent to someone saying my shoes are very black
It doesn't mean anything to me, because I don't care that I'm hot. The only people I want to find me attractive anyway are my friends and my boyfriend. I know some girls that are considered "really hot" put their entire persona into it, and very often become bitchy and full of themselves. But that's not everyone. And not only are you missing out... but she might be too... if you never try to talk to her. Being attractive isn't everything. And especially once you are considered attractive... you really see just how pointless and stupid it is. Plus, you're talking like you aren't hot yourself. But how do you know you aren't the exact type of someone who you yourself would consider a 10? I'm just saying... If you take care of yourself and your body, and try hard to be confident (in your own way. Does NOT mean hitting on every girl like a pick up artist), then you'll be surprised how many "beautiful" girls will enjoy your company.
Yeah I get that. That makes sense. These generalizations and assumptions are hard to get past but I'm trying. I dance with girls I'd consider "10s" but leave it at that. I'll try talking I can't assume things about everyone.
Fact: guys hit on girls
Fact: guys don't hit on ugly girls
You're wrong, sorry. Hell, I'd rate myself a 5.5/10, not that great looking, but I only TALK to girls who're pretty (by choice). So yeah I hit on pretty girls.
My gosh that's horrible... Do guys think those girls in the video are hot? What would you consider them as or rate them? Not by personality by looks because I'm certain from what they've displayed their personality would bring the rating down
nah they look pretty crappy to me
@Illuminitu would you hit on them or one of them if you saw them at a bar or club?
nope
I don't know something's off there
@Illuminitu your gut is telling you to steer clear from them?
It's true, pretty girls don't get hit on as much as the average girl. The reason why beautiful women reject so many guys is that beautiful women are used to jerks. I have many beautiful friends, and the only type of men that hit on them are the type of men that only hit attractive women.. that she is a person has no concern for this ''hunter''. He wins her by taking her to bed, the nice guy would never sweet talk her into getting in bed with him. And that's the big difference, nice guys only observe while players have this overly confidence and will just hit on the beautiful woman. And beautiful women don't like that, they want someone who sees them for who they are, not for who they look like. So, if you can do this, you can pretty much get the highest of the apple quality. The 9/10's.
I agree with you very much. I find the concept that a beautiful woman is intimidating to be accurate but not nearly complete in describing the phenomenon. It not just that she is intimidating, but the field of competition is intimidating too. She may be pestered by so many "hunters", but those guys have status among all guys. Being willing to attempt to best them at their own game takes balls. It's not just the initial introduction and first date where that competition shows. If a guy gets into a relationship with a beautiful woman, he can still expect her to be harassed by these hunters. This is true even if she has a wedding ring on. Any guy that had the balls to hit on her in the first place isn't going to be dissuaded by her being with a guy.
Yeah exactly. And many guys don't want to deal with this stress with intimidatingly beautiful women, that's why they stay with girls that are like 6-7 out of 10. It's much easier, and therefore beautiful women keep wondering what they're doing wrong, but they just need to wait for that one guy that will deal with the stress and not caring what other guys see in her, because he HAS her.
I don't know about you, but the prettier girls are the nicest ones, like, the ones that are solid 9's or 10's are the nicest ones, since they get less attention and therefore aren't conceited. Obviously it's not always the case, but most of the time, in my experience, it's true.
by the way, the video is fake, it's all setup, that's why the name is Humiliatrix, which I looked it up and it's something related with the pleasure that men get from being humiliated. But anyways, the only very pretty girl in the video was the blonde on the right, the middle one was average, and the one on the left was below average.
Uh oh, ugly girls downvoting me? xD
Ahahah, I'm sorry but your comment about being down-voted is too funny ;')
@Craziest_Damn_Mofo xD Only insecure people downvote a personal experience, it's if I downvted you for saying that you once saw a dog poop on a cat, it makes no sense xD
True True :P
Your right it was a setup but I used it to show my point. I just Google searched for mean girls turning down guys. I needed something to show the point.
Those girls are awful! I would never do that to anyone unless they did something phycial to me. by the way they aren't that pretty so I don't know who they think they are to treat anyone like that. Even if they were drop dead beautiful they shouldn't be doing that to anyone. Plus a super hot guy wouldn't apporach someone like that bc he would be way out of their league. Thoses ugly old hags need to go back and hide in their cave. And think about what they have done.
I love you in a cave, in a boat, in a moat. I love you in the morning and the evening. Everyday till death do us part.
@JaysunPro Is that like a song or something lol bc I don't know it 😁😔
I just wrote it. It's not a song yet. It's a rough draft and a strong approach. Hopefully you get him un protecting of his dignity condescending you at you're disposal to make himself feel better. Xoxoxo
@JaysunPro oooooh okay lol
@JaysunPro shut the fuck up and leave all these women alone. Why don't YOU approach a woman outside of GaG for once?
Because more often than not, they're fully aware of their own sexual market value. And this allows them to be complete assholes.
And as decent guys increasingly become aware of this, they see no point in pursuing redicule.
And since most of'em are equipped with the IQ of a doorstop and doesn't mature until well into their 40's, they're simply not worth the effort.
you are being generous... they generally NEVER mature !!
And afraid of emasculation.
You've hardy grown pubes, and you wanna lecture me on life? That's good one...
Don't forget that pretty to 10 guys isn't very special to 10 or more guys. So it's all about what the other person is seeing. And yeah, often times "pretty" girls are the ones that are sure guys are going to be into them, so guys will try to avoid those types.
Maybe shy guys don't hit on pretty girls but attractive girls get hit on for the most part.
Awe you are still waiting?
Men have to understand that rejection is a huge part of courtship and it exists for a reason. What would be the point of courting if every single girl would say yes the first time you approach her? Why do you feel humiliated when a girl rejects you with an attitude? Do you know her or any of those people she is with? Do you have to interact with her afterwards? No. With her mean attitude, did she show you what kind of personality she really has? Yes. You just dodged a bullet dude, be happy about it! It's much better to get rejected by an asshole than dating an asshole. Move on.
You also have to understand that hot women get bombarded by (often drunken) men all the time, most of those are way out of her league. It must be extremely tiresome to get constantly hit on by men who get loud and offended when their egos can't take the rejection. Some women handle it better, some just develope that mean attitude that makes sure the guy gets the message (forget that fake YT vid, it's fishing for viewers). I don't blame them. No offense, but when a really hot woman gets approached by below average guys it must be a pretty shitty feeling. Be honest guys: do you feel good when a really ugly girl wants to date you? I bet you feel like "am I so ugly that she thinks she has a chance with me?" Now imagine this with a hot girl every time she goes out with her friends, she has to deal with creeps and drunks who fumble around her all the time. Not so amusing is it?
Excellent answer. You have to look at the whole picture. A lot of guys seem to think women just enjoy being mean for no reason.
So do you approach average girls then? And what do you classify as "pretty"?
Many come off as unapproachable so I don't bother. I hate going through one rejection after another too so it feels like statistically I could just go down the bar asking every girl I think is cute and end up getting rejected because chances are in the first one isn't going to go for it, the second, third, and fourth observed it and it can be inherently offensive to the girl to think that she wasn't the first one you approached.
Guys hit on pretty girls only for their selfish favours if she rejects his advances knowing the fact he is just playing with her. She gets insulted saying you ain’t pretty enough for me.
Mind games. If they done that to me, I would have poured my on them drink back. And said you splashed first. Also, these girls seem drunk as hell.
Ehh it's 50/50 some guys actually do hit on the pretty ones but usually they're not good quality men
good quality men? do you know how shallow you sound?
@Chloe-Price I think that is partly the problem. 1. If a girl think she's pretty, she'll expect guys that are of a good 'quality' to walk up to her. 2. If a guy notices this (as most of us do), they won't really bother approaching them as they just know that they'll be judged on their 'quality' and quite likely be rejected so why bother? One thing I was told about girls: when they say 'guys', they usually mean guys they are attracted to. The rules are entirely different for an attractive guy and an unattractive guy.
By good quality I mean he's more than just looks, he has some substance and isn't a self absorbed jerk
@Chloe-Price No more shallow than a woman, because believe me, every woman (as well as man) wants quality.
@Seedsnddbf lol this post is so old little miss Chloe-Price is no longer an active member of GAG... oh well. I still stand by my statement :)
If a post being old even remotely mattered, you would've (A) not commrnted, or (B) I wouldn't be allowed to post. Do I give a shit how old it is? No. And this doesn't matter.
I feel like this is a very in depth question/opinion with many reasons/justifications for it. I'd like to make clear that on the scale of people who get hit on, men in general are below even the reasonably unattractive girls (Not the super out of shape + unattractive girls). So it'd be nice to see some change in that department rather than this "standard" where guys must hit on girls *first* and not vice versa. But since that won't change over night, we'll address things how they are.
Girls in general are hard to approach because their reaction is hard to predict. Plus, as Louis C. K. says men don't really have a reason to talk to girls, so of course the first thing we are gonna say is B. S. (or seem completely random). There are no clear indicators that a woman wants to be approached. I'm all for having a conversation, but if the first thought that goes through a woman's mind when I start talking to her out of the blue is "why is this guy talking to me", then its already a lost cause. The mentality should be "I wonder if this guy is worth talking to again after this conversation. Let's see where this goes" I mean, worst case scenario is that a friendship comes out of this. I know a lot of guys wouldn't really settle for just a friendship at first, but if that's the case, he isn't really a guy you should date/be friends with in the first place. Getting back on topic, attractive women are usually assumed to have higher standards than other women because we feel that they know they are attractive and have the best chance of getting a guy they want. So combine the assumed expectations along with the not really having a reason to talk to random women in the first place and there's your answer for why attractive women don't seem to get hit on as much as they feel they should.
I still stand with my belief that people should go after whoever they want regardless of their own gender. Why stand by? Remember, they'd react/think the same as you if you approached them
That explains a lot lol
I made a similar minefield comment, and maybe you're quoting me. In that case: thanks :)
For me, it's more a question of that woman seeming way out of my league, so rejection seems very likely. Most women who have rejected me have actually been really kind about it.
The worst thing I have tried is when I tried to speak to a woman on a train, and she seemed to find it very uncomfortable (because of my poor social skills) and basically fled the carriage. I have yet to live that down. There was quite an audience for that one :)
Question for you? When women reject you and are kind about it, is it easier to get over? Or is rejection bad now matter how it's done?
How long ago was the train incident?
@purpleballoons456: Thanks for your questions :) I guess rejection hurts no matter how it is done, but for me, the best thing is a mixture of honesty and kindness. Because it's easier to accept rejection if you know why, and it's easier to absorb if it is worded kindly. Also, it can be quite useful to know why. The train incident was last summer/autumn, I guess. Why do you ask?
@muspelhem_5 I guess I was just wondering if it was easier or not. When I've turned down guys, which isn't many cuz they rarely speak to me ^_^, I'm always very nice about it. So I figured it must not be so bad, but I guess it still is. And I guess I just wanted to see how long the memory could stick with you. :)
@purpleballoons456: Oh, I see :) I guess a lot of guys are shy, maybe that is why you haven't experienced it so much? It's really cool and considerate that you are nice about it. Also, I think maybe the faster you turn someone down after you realize you aren't interested, the better. I mean, sure give people a shot, but don't string them along. But guess these things are the same regardless of gender...
@muspelhem_5 Yeah. There's no need to be rude about it, you know? And it is better to tell them ASAP rather than string them along, but some don't want to take no for an answer. hahaha.
@purpleballoons456: Ahh, yeah, guess that can be irritating after a certain point. I mean, I personally find it flattering if someone doesn't give up too easily, but if they don't respect a clearly worded and final rejection, then that is not nice.