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Why I Hate Masturbating...

Let me start off by saying, that I'm not judging people who masturbate. It a very natural thing to do. These are just the reasons why I personally hate doing it..

Why I Hate Masturbating...

I feel like I'm a "slave" to my body

Normally, when that primal sexual urge comes on, it won't go away until you do something about it. You try to go about your day and ignore it and sometimes that works...but sometimes, that hornyness just seems to follow you wherever you go. If you're not careful and don't take care of that persistent hornyness as soon you possibly can..it will find out where you work. It will follow you to the store. You will take it to bed with you. Then, when you finally do give in and masturbate, you realize that you could have saved yourself from a whole day of torture if you had just masturbated before you started your day.

You try to win, but you will lose almost everytime. If you don't masturbate today..it will be there ready and waiting tomorrow.

I feel pathetic afterward

Why I Hate Masturbating...

I don't know if it's the lights, the quality of the video, or the editing...but, in pornos they make those masturbation scenes look SO visually appealing. However, in reality, we all probably look more like Ash from Ash vs Evil Dead. You're bundled up in the bed, huddled up in front of the computer, sprawled out on the couch, or even hiding in a corner so no one catches you...just vigorously trying to reach no man's land. During this, my only thoughts are: "What the hell am I doing?"

The climax isn't even all that great

Why I Hate Masturbating...

Maybe I'm just doing it wrong? Maybe I just don't like sex? In any case, the climax's I get from masturbating..are just "anti-climactic"? This sexual urge has been bothering me all day and when I finally get around to doing the deed...it's doesn't feel that amazing to me anyway.

The best way that I can explain it is this: Imagine that there's a new drink at Starbucks. You can't wait until your lunch break comes up, so you can run out and go try it! You've been imagining the taste all day! You're just really excited for this drink! However, once you've bought the drink and gave it a taste..you're disappointed. The drink is good, but it didn't live up to your expectations. However, since you can't live without your daily coffee break, you continue to purchase this coffee.

Are you really out there?...Dr. Long John? Ms. Busty Bernice?

Why I Hate Masturbating...

I don't masturbate often, but everytime I do, I feel as though my future is just getting bleaker and bleaker. That I will always be cursed to masturbate, in the corner of my bed..forever and ever. Never to meet someone, never to find a Dr. Long John..or, anyone for that matter. In terms of the guys, I'm sure that instead of masturbating, you would much rather be with Ms. Busty Bernice?

Well, that's it for now! I hope all you all got a kick out of this! See you all later!

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Most Helpful Guy

  • i just recently stopped. its a dumb thing like you said everything down there is sensitive and can't be placed in a comfortable position for about an hour after. all for what? 30 minutes of pleasure. but sometimes i have to because im waiting till marriage and if i dont get off on my own ill probably sleep with someone. better to masturbate than to fornicate

Most Helpful Girl

  • I hate masturbation as well. I feel nasty touching myself, I don't feel anything and it's so... freaking boring.

    • How do you feel nasty touching yourself?

    • @MysteriousDarkness I just find that particular body part to be disgusting to touch. I find it nasty to look at too. I know that's an unhealthy mindset to have...

    • @kirbykupo That is not a good mindset yo have. Do you feel the same way when washing it?

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  • I wouldn't say I hate masturbation but its something I dont have to do. Obviously reason number 1 being in a relationship and I want to experience the journey to the orgasm with my guy rather then just myself.
    Its like ordering a pizza and just eating by myself and not giving any slice to him xD

    • I like that

  • I really dont understand. Masturbation is by far the best and healthiest activity. Its relaxing, it increases your sex drive, it makes you more in tune with your body so sex is way greater, it kills time, it helps you sleep, it burns calories, it keeps you away from cheating in a LDR, its a great kinky thing to do through cam with your boyfriend if he's away, it unlocks your ability to cum ten times within a session until you pass out, it removes stress from your partner during sex and guys really dig it when you start doing it as foreplay or to let them know you want it bad.
    I think you have a wrong mindset.

    • I'm glad that you enjoy it so greatly... but it's quite the opposite for me and for a lot of people. It doesn't relieve stress for me... it just creates more stress for me. I don't think it burns THAT many calories. I would never be in a LDR. I do agree that you're more "in tune" with your body... but, I don't think it would make sex any better for me. Lmfao.. kills time? It only takes me around 5 mins to get off. I'm not really into the whole "multiple orgasms" thing. I don't enjoy sex and/or masturbation that much to even crave that. I'm a virgin, so I can't really speak on the whole "sex" thing.. only masturbation, but I know that if I don't even enjoy masturbation... I probably won't enjoy sex.

    • @MermaidMotel How do you know you do not enjoy sex if you are a virgin?

    • @MysteriousDarkness I just know. I don't have to experience something to know that I won't enjoy it.

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  • no point in feeling like a slave to your urges. just do what fgeels good no guilt needed

  • I agree with everything you said. I hate masturbation too, mostly because I get almost no pleasure from it so it seems like a waste of time.

  • I've had both good and bad sessions, but at this point in life I know all the right moves

  • Try masturbating with a lover, especially over the phone. I'm currently single, but whenever I have a girlfriend I love to have phone sex with them, and have them masturbate while I talk dirty to them. Some of the strongest orgasms I have ever given my women have come from phone sex. I'm also into D&S (dominance and submission - it's sort of like S&M, but different), so whenever I talk dirty during sex I'm always insulting the woman and calling her degrading names, like whore, slut, etc., and telling them exactly what to do to themselves and directing the entire experience, telling them when they have permission to touch their clit, making them beg me to allow them to stick a vibrator in their vagina, etc. (and making them spank themselves when they get out of line), and it always leads to them having more powerful orgasms. You should try phone sex some time, when done with someone you have romantic feelings for it can lead to some very powerful orgasms, and bring you two closer together.

  • I personally like to masturbate. It feels good to know i can turn myself on without someone. Plus it turns guys on when you do it in front of them! I think your doing it wrong by the way. You should get a high powered vibrator... you'll change your mind.

  • Well it sounds like you aren't very mentally stimulated when you get down to loanly rub town and you focussing on the mechanical aspect of doing the deed. Have you ever been with someone that for one reason or another really rocked your world, curled your toes and made your eyes roll back and your legs shake?
    I think you just need to make a sexier enviroment to explore your self and your urges... build up to it, take a relaxing bath and beautify your self and start a little there and move on to the bedroom. Imagine all the things you really want and let your fantasies run wild in your head!

  • first of all... you're doing it wrong. second of all... if you don't enjoy orgasms, then you're doing it wrong because you don't like sex. you should go join a nunnery and not curse a man with being forced to try to pleasure you. if you can't make yourself happy, how do you expect someone else to do it? masturbation is sex with someone you love. so first- learn to do it well. then enjoy it. but you need to think of it a different way before you will try to enjoy it. you need to work on your fantasy life more. don't focus on your hand. focus on your fantasy and forget that your hand is you. your hand is just doing the work that you're imaging your fantasy partner is doing. also there are other techniques like clit rubbing against a satiny pillow. different things that feel differently and better. you should try riding on top of a silky pillow i can tell you the tickle feels like no man ever could. not wrong just different so enjoy it. i would not take one over the other. i want both.

    • Oh God yes. What you just said. MHO.

  • If masturbation was as good as sex, we would have gone extinct ages ago. There's nothing wrong with it, but just like you can't really tickle yourself, you can't really make love to yourself, either. This simple trick of the brain 'knowing' that that hand is you, and not some awesome partner is what diminishes the sensations - it's also what makes the world go 'round.

  • Good take! I don't like it either and am trying to quit. I could relate to nearly every point made if nkt all of them.

  • i dont see the issue. its completely safe, pain free, i have complete control, and sex with someone i love.

    • it also helps me sleep and how else do you learn about your body. feeling bad about being single is not about masturbation.

    • Actually not masturbating or having sex leads to many health problems and risks. Just saying..

  • Hmm... an interesting perspective on the topic. One I've never heard before. A n interesting read :) Thanks!

  • Very well written and explained. I think there are many men who experience the same feelings and emotions about masturbation. However men are different in some respects regarding sex and there are physiological and mental aspects involved. Men as you know are more visual creatures when it involves sex, i. e. we get very horny looking at erotic images of females and like to masturbate looking at nude females and porn where as many women just use their imagination or read erotic stories. Physiologically the hormone testosterone is responsible for both the female and males libido but the males body produces about 10 times more than the females. Men can get an erection at times when he's not thinking about anything involving sex but once he get an erection it might elicit a thought or a desire to touch his erection depending on the situation at the time. Many men practice what is called "Edging" when they masturbate and the proliferation of porn on the internet has made this more prevalent for many men when masturbation. Many young men ages 12 to 21 will masturbate & ejaculate anywhere from 1 to 3 times a day and 5 to 6 days a week. This is a lot of semen & sperm if you think about it world wide and think how many women could have gotten pregnant if all that sperm had been injected into their vagina, the world population would probably be so large we wouldn't have enough food to feed everyone. In some less civilized countries in the world this is already a big problem but it could be a lot worst if men didn't masturbate when they got horny or didn't practice some method of birth control. Just a thought that most people probably never think about.

  • You're right with one thing you're definitely doing it wrong, I'm not going to win any woman votes and probably some of the men with what I'm about to say but here it goes...

    why would a woman ever have to masturbate? Just take a step outside and say hi to someone and im sure they'll get a response even more you ask them to come with you I'm sure they'll follow. Yeah there are some really good for nothings out there, some real low lives. They ain't the only guys out there I'm sure you can spot a nice guy blind folded. Or is it better to masturbate when you want than have be complaing your man wants to much sex from you.

    With mastubation you may want to simulate sex as much as you can as I personally don't like touching myself I had an realistic pussy. It was almost perfect.

    • Sex with ransoms is about as fulfilling as masturbating for me... no emotional connection and not much spark

    • @Schnikies yeeaahh... not one of my best posts didn't really make the point I was trying to make. Got to figure out how to remove a post or make a note or something.

  • Interesting perspective. I couldn't disagree more though. 😊

  • It is normal, healthy and it feels great!

  • lol.. you have to be kidding right? every guy feels that 30 seconds of right hand/left hand shame. I didn't think women did. But it goes away and we feel nice and relaxed/satisfied after. Since women are like steel when it comes to sex why not just not masturbate. Men can't but seems like women have no problem not doing it.

  • Try to carefully parse your logic. By saying you do not want to be a slave to your body, you are implying that there are 2 of you; 1) your body, 2) yor awareness & judging of it -in fact 3) since it also implies there is an objective judge within you deciding that. It is actually not a denial of the body but an emphasis since you are separating it from you and judging yourself.

    This problem has plagued mankind, esp. westerners, for 2500 years. As long as you perceive duality you will be trapped in judgement and incapable of living as a unified being. Do you also hate tasty foods? pleasant music? a beautiful day? Pleasure is part of the human experience

  • I agree with a lot of what you say, but I only see my boyfriend once a week, and I'm way too horny not to give in and do it occasionally.

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