Sexual Relationships 
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When I was younger, I used to just always daydream about having a boyfriend. I thought having a boyfriend would be the best thing on the planet. I used to almost obsess about how I could make him commit, or how I'd be sure he wanted me, and etc.
I'm single atm, and happy about it. If I do decide to hookup, then I want to try everything. I never, ever thought that I'd say anything like that, but I'm sick of holding back.
I've posted on here before how I want to do oral only hookups, and I probably will, but that doesn't mean I won't have regular sex. I've also posted about how I expect hookup sex to suck for me since the guy won't know what I like or how my body works, like how a boyfriend would.
But then I talked to people about it more. In my case, I'd want to hookup sober or at least not be more than buzzed. The people I talked to about it inspired me though. I like how free casual sex can be, and not having to be so serious. Like no stress, or less stress...
I want to see if I can get a guy who doesn't really care about me to do what I want. Like would he just do whatever I asked? Slow sex, stop and start sex, oral, etc. I want to see how far I can go, like how easy it is. Does the sex have to be shitty, or not? Will he lie about doing x, y, or z for me or not?
If I ask to hang out after, or after fucking on the first date, would he say yes? I want to experience what it's like getting a basically random guy to interact with me like this. Instead of always pushing for a regular relationship, I want to see what it's like to be more free with people.
So the people I talked to convinced me that I should give this a shot. I don't believe I can make things or sex perfect with a relationship anymore. I want to see how much fun I can have without that instead.
What Girls & Guys Said
19 45Honestly, just get a friends with benefits, talk about it with him or her how and what do you want. You don't have to have regular sex with him/her, only when you want it. That's what friends with benefits mean, just sex, without emotions, and no stress, so have fun and don't forget to use protection (if he is not best at pulling out in the right time, with girl, you don't need it) :)
Relationships are too hurtful right now. Im just leaving a 2 year relationship. casual sex is what I prefer at the moment.
Make sure he understands your expectations. It isn't fair to hurt his feelings because of misplaced hopes for a relationship.
I have tried this in the past and it leaves me feeling empty and used. Casual sex is something I can do more quickly and easily by myself. I can do a better job of getting myself off than a stranger usually can.
I won't do hookups anymore, but maybe this is a phase each of us needs to go through? As @NightOwl8801 said, make sure you practice safe sex.
Agreed. Masturbation is better if their is no connection in my opinion.
@flypaper Self love , no harm done if its just you
@NightOwl8801 It's also quicker and straight to the point if all you need is a release.
All of us should collaborate on a myTake - "FAP - In Praise Of Masturbation"
hahaha yeah
I used to think like this just a few months ago. I still kind of do except now I care more about the relationship, not just sex.
Good for you, though, have fun :)
Oh, just remember to be safe!
Are you a virgin and deprived of sex and now getting frustrated of having to wait for too long? Sometimes you may feel that way. But never go for sex when you are frustrated. Casual sex can be pleasurable , but it has to be with the right person only. If someone has casual sex with you and then records the sexual act and posts video or photos of you on the internet , then you may fall in trouble. So do sex only with a reliable and a trusted person.
That's all well and good. I hope that things work out well, however i personally would rather have a relationship. The funny thing is that i started wanting a relationship but had casual sex, then realized it was not for me. While i felt wanted for a change, i also felt empty afterwards
Casual sex is like buying in a Chinese jumble sale. There is nothing inmoral about it, just don't expect great quality.
Casual sex is like the lottery, going down on a stranger. You're going to lose more then win.
@John583 Hahaha! 😂
It's all ok as long as both participants are fine with it.
Thats fine in all but it won't ever be as good as fucking the person you love and care for. Knowing she's there for you and having that connection.
Thats a good my take by you. Appreciate your thoughts and wish some more girls would think like you (especially in my country ).
Great take thanks for sharing with us.
Girls who sllep around are literally seen as girls who are good for time pass... I would never marry or make her my girlfriend... She is a not a girlfriend Material
I think it's fine if that's all you want, and you vocalize that. Guys have been stereotypically wanting that forever.
Because of sex.
as long as every party is of age and consenting do what you will
Personally I think it's just better to go ahead with this and get it out of your system. Just as long as you're careful about it anyway.
Sometimes we got to get things like this out of our system so we don't end up hurting someone over the regret of not having done this when we had the chance.
In some cases it'll give you a better insight into relationships but even if it doesn't and you just enjoy this more then as long as nobody is getting hurt then it's not really that bad.
That's generally how you'll end up with a boyfriend hahaha
But yeah it's great if you can just be casual with someone like that, it can be incredibly satisfying sexually. If that works for you do it, more power to you :).
Personally there's times in my life where I just wanna hook up, and now is one of them, because I know I couldn't do a relationship right now. And funnily enough when it works out, times like these are times where I make the most new friends, and am the happinest, have the most new experiences. And its great. And eventually that happiness ends up attracting people in my life who I'd like to keep around as more than just fuck partners. And there goes my next relationship.
Why's it so satisfying to you? Lots of people do say hookup sex sucks, but I don't think that always has to be true. But to hear incredibly satisfying isn't something I've seen b4.
It just feels good. You had incredible sex and you're back to having an awesome day. I can get the other side of it too, it really depends on your emotional state. If you're lonely or needy in any way at the time of doing it, casual sex can be incredibly tough cause you want and need that affection and closeness and you're not getting jack shit. But if you're ok and happy, its just amazing cause you don't need, want or expect anything more. So the sex ends and you're just left with the amazing after glow of a good fuck without the negative neediness pull. Also it's exciting to be with someone new, new body, new way of having sex its just great. You can just flow with the mood, either you're feeling super raunchy and you all out fuck without caring or trying too much, just do whatever turns you on the most and be so into it you draw the other in too OR you can take your time and just go at it slow and take a few hours to know what makes her (him) tick and go nuts.
it'll never be as good as sex with someone who you're completely in love with and who is in love with you and who you've shared a connection with for a long time and who knows your turn ons and you know theirs etc... That sex is at the very top. But casual can come in at an easy second place for sure.
Makes a lot of sense, cool POV.
TY interesting mytake :)
Once again I have come to the conclusion that female promiscuity is a result of mental disorder.
Not always the case I had a completely normal sane girlfriend who did sleep around behind my back and cheated then I had another who was abused as a child depression etc. And didn't do the same to me
@Brah63926 Impossible. You didn't notice she is not sane
How is it impossible for a girl to sleep around and not be sane?
Then you should... look @ all the Kings and Queens who cheated and had bastard kids lol It's not all as simple as what you think FYI.
Sex should be fun. Not always about relationships.
I think you're experiencing female enlightenment
Good, embrace that freedom. Never consider a serious relationship. Ever. That way no sucker looking for one will get stuck with you.