Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health To paraphrase a common question from the girls: "Will you break up with a girl if she doesn't have sex with you?"
Short answer: Yes. And, in fact, many guys will.
Now, there are two ways to handle this. The first is to fall back on the "Well, if he doesn't respect my feelings, then he doesn't really love me" cliche. The other is to look deeper into why he wants to have sex.
Let get this out of the way right off the bat. There are a lot of guys who want to have sex with girls because they like having sex. They don't really care about things like "feelings" and "love", but much rather focus on the sensation between the legs. These guys... well, you're better off without them. Yes, they'll call you a stuck-up b*tch, or spread rumors about you in school, but only because they're pissed you didn't magically come to climax at the thought of their penises. Good riddance. Move on.
There is another class of guys out there. I consider myself in that class. I, too, would have broken up with you for not having sex with me. But here's why... for me, sex is an integral part of a deep relationship. It represents trust and intimacy like nothing else. If we are connected on a level that allows us to make love (either romantic or naughty), we are at a level like no one else. Sex represents that connection to me. Sex is a must in a relationship.
If you choose not to have sex with me, I respect that choice. I understand your position. I will continue to love you - as a friend. But the relationship will end, because your level of trust and intimacy are not in sync with mine. Am I willing to wait for you? Yes. But not forever. Not until marriage.
As a woman, you deserve a man who understands sex the way you do and shares your beliefs. I as a man deserve the same. So, we must break up... so that we can both find what we're looking for.
Why I Will Break Up With You If You Don't Have Sex With Me
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What Girls & Guys Said
65 82You do understand that the issue with this is that most guys nowadays expect sex way before they make the relationship official. They believe getting on 2-3 dates is enough to jump into bed. What if the girl doesn't feel comfortable doing so that soon? You leave her?
How could the value of sex overtake the other virtues of a relationship, such as a great connection, fruitful memories and general delight of being in the other person's company? WHY would not having sex be a dealbreaker? If you're so emotionally invested, you'd wait. Otherwise, you're basically writing off the relationship because your physical urges aren't being met. Is it worth it to squander a great romance just for that? Well, that one's on you.
I like what misscocobutter said. There is no deeper commitment than marriage.
If he is willing to break up if you if you will not sleep with him, be glad he didn't waste any more of your time. He just told you what's between your legs is more important to him than your heart.
YEP
LOOOOOOOVE your style of writing.
really good information, I love how you split it into two groups. Thanks for actually answering the myth/truth that bothers alooot of girls.
You can try and rationalize it any way that you want, but I’m a premed psychology major so believe me when I tell you that a person’s actions convey much more about them and their motives than anything that they ever say. What’s your action? That you’ll break up with a woman if she won’t have sex with you before marriage; thus, you are elevating sex above her, her feelings, your relationship, and everything else. Therefore, you are telling men to look for a good sex partner and not a soulmate.
Because if a guy truly loves a girl, he will have a connection with her that he doesn't want to lose. He'll be willing to sacrifice things that he wants for her greater good. If a woman has a fantasy about wanting to wait until her wedding night and only sleep with her soulmate, a guy will respect that and want to give her that fantasy, and be her hero, and not take it away from her. The fact is that you're saying that sex is more important than her, your feelings for her, or your relationship.
BS! I cannot believe that women still fall for this propaganda. Ladies, if a guy truly loves you, he will wait until you're ready, even if he has to say I do first. Any guy that ever tells you any different is just trying to beguile you into thinking that he's different, which he isn't.
I appreciate the honesty- and the new perspective. Great article-short, clear, and to the point.
in my opinion Having lofty OR base reasons for what you want does not really matter.
I think you are uncomfortable with just wanting sex and compensate by trying presenting "special "reasoning to be convincing.
I think this article is more so about persuasion than explaining. Bc there are SO many ways to bond and be close.
If you weren't trying to persuade you wouldn't trouble to write the article on sex as supposed to the importance of ANY need getting met.
We'll yes if you want sex or anything else NOW and your partner does not, you have to decide whether you are actually compatible and if you want to continue the relationship.
It wouldn't make you WRONG if your reason for wanting sex was just to get off either. It's important for w/e reason it's important to you. You're allowed to want what you want. And move on if you don't get it.
There are many ways to bond and many reasons to break up. Sex is just one. W/e the reasons.
I think it's fair for a relationship to end if sex was promised early on in the relationship, but wasn't delivered (one party was being a tease).
If sex was never on the table (i.e. both parties or one party wanted to wait for marriage) then to break up because there was no sex is unfair.
If one party breaks up because they can't wait a decent time for the other to be ready for sex (a few weeks or couple of months), that's not fair.
I'm one of the guys who doesn't need sex to stay in a relationship. Yes I'll have sex if she wants sex, if she doesn't then that's fine too. I'd not have sex with randomers because it makes a lot of things complicated and it's always a risk. Having sex with someone you love is better, but waiting until marriage doesn't protect you from getting f***ed over... So I don't see the point in waiting, especially if she wants sex, as I'm sure it'd affect the relationship if I were to say no.
Sex is a major component of a sexual relationship and the fact that some people will still remain with someone who doesn't feel their sexual need in their relationship is beyond me. I wouldn't stay with a guy if he refused to have sex (within a reasonable time frame) with me and he was my boyfriend.
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But the girls who ask that question are usually teenagers. So of course they are careful because many young boys dump girls right after sex. Teenage boys are not grown adult men. So I afvice all teenage girls to not give sex withing the first 4 months if you want to decrease the chances of being dumped after sex. They just want to know if the boy's intentions are good or not.
I wouldn't break up with someone just because they wouldn't have sex with me, as long as they were willing to talk about why that was. If you love the person, and the reason is valid, then it's on you whether sex is that important to you at that point once they've explained it out.
It's fine to say that sex is a make-or-break thing for you, but you're skewing your comment towards the woman not being comitted, when really its your definition of intimacy that's the issue.
Wow, I didn't think anything you said in the article was groundbreaking but obviously people would disagree.
I find that a debatable topic would be how long to wait until having sex.
This is not a one size fits all article. I think feelings can be different from one relationship (or date) to the next. It's all about chemistry. Guys, haven't you've been with a girl that was'nt as cute as you'd normally go for? I personally couldn't be face to face with someone who was unattractive. I've GOT to be attracted to the person first then whatever happens.. happens.
Alright, I'd like to point a big problem with this article and that is the other part of male nature: Wanting to marry a virgin. And I agree with the author, if you want to date, be ready to have sex.
But guys. If you want to date and have sex with lots of girls, be happy to marry a slut.
If you don't want to marry one, have some foresight and personal accountability to say no to easy access to sex.