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Generally speaking, people masturbate because they're horny and want to orgasm. But sex is a multi person activity, and it's not generally driven by 'both people become horny at the same time'. It's not uncommon for couples to have sex because one was horny, and the other is happy to go along with it. But if they don't tend to orgasm quickly, and weren't particularly feeling a desire to have an orgasm, they might simply have sex till their partner is done, and then move on to cuddling or whatever.
Basically, you'd need to separate the data into 'orgasm when desired during masturbation' and 'orgasm when desired during sex' if you want to assume it's some mechanical or communication issue.2 2 0 0I think having direct feedback and control of what you like is obviously always a factor, but I also think that being able to focus on yourself, and not having to worry about the other person's pleasure, can make things easier. Of course, it can also be less fulfilling and satisfying, but that's a different discussion.
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I find it slightly easier during self play than with my boyfriend but I still prefer the latter.
Orgasms by myself are always a guarantee but they’re smaller, shorter and pretty concentrated in a small area. Whereas orgasms with my boyfriend are more complex (like if I’m tired/stressed, my mind will wander there and it’ll be tougher for him to get me to cum). However, if he does manage to make it happen, which he usually does, the orgasms are much stronger, last longer, and are like a whole body experience.1 3 0 0For me, it isn’t. It’s actually pretty difficult to orgasm on my own, but with my partner it’s very easy.
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9 31There are so many things that can play into this. A woman's orgasm takes place mostly in her mind. If she's getting herself off, not only is she doing what she knows she likes to her body she also has the advantage of controlling her mind. If she turns off the orgasm build up in her head, a man has no chance whatsoever!
Next, a woman's age/development may alter her ability to orgasm. Some younger women may have to focus and work much harder to reach an orgasm. That makes a man's job harder. I didn't start having easier orgasms until after 25. My dad's girlfriend said she couldn't orgasm during sex until after 25 as well. After 25 my body became incredible sensitive compared to before! Nipple play used to feel like nothing to me, now it drives me wild. Same with oral. Etc.
It could be because women get off on the control they have, they can control the pace and intensity, they can make it happen. Many men would agree on their end when masturbating.
With the right conditions and partner, I can orgasm just as easily whether it's sex with my partner or masturbating. Does it really matter if we are all having fun anyways?0 0 0 0In masturbation, you're alone, you're single-mindedly focusing on yourself, and the goal is 100% to orgasm. I don't think orgasm is always the goal in sex anyway. When I have sex it's not always for me, obviously I want to do it, but sometimes it's for my boyfriend so I'm absorbed and I'm not focused on me. Other times, my boyfriend is totally focused on me, where it still takes longer to orgasm then by myself, but there's something different about it, it's much, much better than alone.
0 1 0 0I can't relax the same way when I'm with someone else as when I'm alone. This makes it hard to orgasm when I'm with someone else, especially if it's someone I'm really into.
0 1 0 0Easier with a partner who pays attention to my needs. And prefer that way.
0 0 0 0Pretty simple really , masturbation means that you are in direct control of stimulation and the repetitive motion needed to help you orgasm. With sexual intercourse even with great communication your not in control of it
0 0 0 0I'd say it's the same for guys as far as I know. There's a saying in my area that could be translated as "no hand's righter then your right hand" (I'm butchering some grammar in translation, bear with me). Whether the guys I know just have incredible technique or if it is just the girls that have too little, they usually are able to make the self orgasm quicker then their partner can.
If course, how ENJOYABLE that is is a whole different topic0 0 0 0the best way i've experienced is a combination of both. i love her holding her inner labia apart so there ia ample room for my tongue
0 0 0 0I used to be this way. Ultimately it was all in my head. My own comfort level and the pressure of climaxing had lot to do with it. Now my skills are cumming in second place to my husbands... see what I did there 🤣🤣🤣
1 1 0 0You know you better than anyone else does
0 1 0 0Once again, “studies show”... ? What studies? I read about these things all the time and I’ve never heard of any such study.
0 0 0 0At times it's hard to communicate what I want from my partner... he works a lot... He is a truck driver so he puts a lot of hours n... So at times I just do it myself
1 0 0 0Maybe they are more relaxed?
0 0 0 0Because hand masturbation is continuously interactive. I can make immediate adjustments to bring about ejaculation sooner. Visual and physical stimulation and arousal in s sexual setting leads to a more satisfying orgasm with a larger payload.
0 0 0 0I can orgasm with a partner but just differently. I dont think any partner can give me a handjob to orgasm. The way that I stroke my frenulum is a specific touching rub that cannot be duplicated.
0 0 0 0I think sex is great. It's a good time. But masturbation is probably King. You can it your best spots over and over with no bullshit in between. You master the techniques and I can orgasm every time. I don't do that when I have sex
0 0 0 0Expectations, putting pressures on yourself that don't need to exist.
0 0 0 0May be its your thoughts while you are on your own you have the wildest thoughts that enhances your orgasm, with a partner on your is more of excersie you might be thing n number of things instead of sensualising the act like why does his nipple look like that what's wrong with his feet etc and he might not know your fantasies guide him to your gspot
0 0 0 0Because female orgasms are like opinions. Only mine is important and I don't care if she has one.
0 0 0 2Sorry I meant orgasms are like opinions
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0 0 0 0The out come is the same., But I find it more fun, having some else to do it and to play with...
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