Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Have you ever been to a party and thought: "Wow this chick is a slut"? Probably.
Have you ever been to a party and thought: "Wow this guy looks really easy to get"? Unlikely.
What is a "slut"?
We live in a society where a guy can be open about his sexuality, please his sexual desires and choose if he wants sex a lot and with different partners or if he wants to seattle for one partner. women who do the same thing are called "easy" or "sluts".
Let's think about why it is like this.
So our basic primal instinkt is to procreate. The Strategy for procreation differs between females and males though. Men on the one hand can procreate every day of the year, regardles of how recently they procreated. It´s a really minor effort and a very minor strain on the male body. therefore the male strategy is to procreate as often as possible.
The females on the other hand can only procreate roughly once a year, assuming that you don´t want to get pregnant the day after you gave birth (i actually don´t know how long the down time is but it doesn´t matter for this rationale). in addition to that, dealing with pregnancy and having a child is a major strain on the female body to the point that you could even die in the process, especially thinking back to a time where medical knowledge wasn´t as good as today. therefore the female strategy is to carefully look for a partner that´s willing and able to care for her and the offspring in case they get pregnant.
But since we have a multitude of birth control methods, we wouldn´t need to still have those strategies right ? we could have fun without thinking badly of each other, since sex makes a lot of fun right ?
No. we still have those chains that keeping us from liberating our sexuality.
This guy helps a lot in keeping totally obsolete standards that don´t apply to our mondern life. Don´t get me wrong, i value what he teaches about love and how people in a society should behave. after all we based our society on what he said and it doesn´t run too bad.
though arguably he had no idea about sexual behavior, especially not under todays conditions. so why do we let him dictate what we think is "good" and what not?
It's ok to be a "slut"
Today we can enjoy sex without the drawbacks of a pregnancy. it´s a wonderful thing and both men and women should not be ashamed to enjoy it however they like it. If you choose to wait until your married, that´s fine. if you enjoy sex with different partners that´s fine too! So if you´re a girl and you enjoy freaky sex with a lot of partners and they call you a "slut" for being a sexually liberated, promiscuous girl, then it´s a good word, isn´t it ?
There is one lesson we should remember from our good friend in the picture above. Be consensual. Don´t lie to people and don´t hurt or play people. just be open and honest and it really is ok to be a slut.
If people look down on you for that, they are just jealous cavemen in their mind.
What Girls & Guys Said
32 29I've never thought of women as sluts. They have the same wants and needs as men do.
well that´s good for you but a lot of guys do and and most of the girls themselves do. i hope this take at least helps those people a bit.
Everyone has their free choice to live the way they want. To me, I feel that we only have a short life span. And after than, we won't get another life. So, enjoy life to the fullest, and let others also enjoy their lives, whatever it takes to be that way.
here is an example:- I am a rapist I have my own free choice can I live the way I want? I want to fuck girls down to street and everywhere my hunger for sex never stops, I also want to enjoy life to the fullest and I don't care if someone get hurt because I have free choice to live as I want right? the problem is I want to live my life but police and some girls doesn't let me rape them please tell them to cooperate, I want to live my life my own way but their way of life is problem for me what should I do? :( should I try to disguise myself as nice person? and propagate thought of having multiple sex partners? and sexual freedom and liberty? so that I can easily fulfil my desires? I am a wolf in disguise of goat to lure other goats. ( that is people seems to be demanding these days )
Hariss i will block you from commenting here. your comparisons and examples make no sense. you can´t compare the "free will" of a psychopath whos harming people to a normal person who considers other´s feelings and acts accordingly.
Probably everyone simply misunderstands whatever I say. My policy is "live and let live". As long as it's harmless to others, you can do whatever under the sun you want to. Same way for me. In fact, many women secretly have rape fantasies -- so, for those of them who want themselves to be raped, I would rape them. But anyway, it no longer would be called a rape in that case. And I don't care what society or whoever the hell tries to prevent me in that case. As long as it doesn't affect them and as long as the girl is willing, it's none of their business.
it´s ok dude some people need to get their thoughs straight.
i understand you.
No problem, take it easy towards Hariss, @Asker. It's probably a doubt that pops up in many minds.
Oh LOL, sorry, wrong tagging. That's funny :D
lol i wonder how you´d mention that person if you wanted to mention her in a question XD
Hahaha :D
@Take Owner a free will is a free will how can you judge his free will? and how can you call him psychopath? you want your opinions to be justified and he wants his? the only point is that you don't agree with him and the truth is there are lots of free wills and not every free will is right that's why it needs to be controlled.
Mr opinion owner you don't care about the society right? at the same time you speaks about as long as it's harmless to others? so why do you worry about that when you don't care? is it logical in your sense? I call it hypocrisy.
@Hariss, If both consenting adults agree to form a relationship among themselves, what "harm" are they doing to the society? Why society is "harmed" if it can't interfere into someone's private relationship?
@johnyk I am in no way and seriously not against what two people personally do in their life as far as they agree it's their own life hence their own way you of course can live your life in any way you prefer, I am not against anyone personally, I am against the people who spreads wrong words and wrong mentality which I think is going to affect the society in long run because we live in this sphere we are no different from any other person equally so we should be concerned about others life as well and equally care about the consequences of something wrong that ultimately society is going to suffer in overall, you can in your life personally whatever you want but you and me will clash when you try to propagate your mentality because then it will become a universal affair and hence I need to put forward what is best, I don't care about my own choice and opinion nor anyone's else I support what is good for society in long run, where people can trust relations.
"You won't find someone special thinking like this"...
Dcotor, did we come back to the 40s?
that´s exactly what i thought !!
if it'd be okay to be a slut then why are you referring to girls as "sluts" ? you offend just as everyone does because you're using the word slut to describe them, think about it and no sorry but sluts (also men whores) are gross.
you clearly didn´t read my take... i´ll quote myself :" So if you´re a girl and you enjoy freaky sex with a lot of partners and they call you a "slut" for being a sexually liberated, promiscuous girl, then it´s a good word, isn´t it?"
i read it but i was talking about you calling them sluts, i mean the heading was "why it is ok to be a slut!" lol read it more often and you'll find it more ridiculous than it already is, a men talking about how it is okay to have a lot of sex as a woman but still calling them sluts though! lmao
i don´t usually refer to women as "sluts" or "bitches" or any of those bad words. i just used it as rethorical instrument to spice it up.
but kinda ironic isn't it?
yeah XD it´s supposed to be. it´s supposed to make people reconsider why they call girls a slut and if it´s really appropriate to do so.
also i may have shamelessly used it as klickbait for this take ;)
Sex is not "just sex" it is very intimate.. I will not say that I don't respect those people.. but I would say those are mostly the ones who cannot keep long relationships and cheaters.. so I certainly would not like to be with such a man who fucked every hole he could find.
i don´t speak of being totally random in choosing your sexual partners. but i won´t judge or reject a girl just because she had sex for fun before.
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@BertMacklinFBI fuck. i forgot to click that. lol
I agree.. I think too many people take sex too lightly in that sense , I'm all for hooking up and what not but not every guy or girl should be able to obtain your body
yup.. exactly. @youngandhappy
@youngandhappy that´s not what i was saying anyway ;)
Fuck it im having sex with as many people I please.;) im so done with how society views women.. everyone should have as much sex as they want to!:)
way to go :D you don´t need my take ^^
What makes me sick is the guy who wants a girl who hasn't really been with a handful of guys and they themselves have been with at least 6+ girls but theu dont respect or value a girl who has had 6+ partners as a girl with little to none
This annoys me too. It's fine to have preferences and standards but don't be a hypocrite. I'm curious though, what about guys who are a virgin but prefer and want a woman with more experience than they have? why isn't it as offensive
yeah... like "i´m the man i fucked 100 girls but i demand a virgin wife" ... those guys are usually players, who have no respect for women. i don´t condone such behavior.
@GirlsLie to me it not offensive or isn't in general to others because there is no shaming and devaluing going on. Same like when a girl wants a more experienced partner. They aren't shaming anyone usually. I say usually because there will always be those people who shame virgins or the less experienced. They just want to ensure the sex won't be a lot of work to get right the rights time (s). Because bad sex can be painful and uncomfortable. Do you find it offensive though?
@TakeOwner yeppz
No not at all, it was just a random thought that popped into my head :)
@girlslie okay cool xD
Man if six is a lot i'm all kinds of strange. I've had 20 partners 😐 lol. Not bragging or anything, just never really counted until recently. How bad is that? Lol
@justaskme88 its not a bad thing at all! But if you were a girl with that number alooot of people will be saying you are easy, a slut, and wouldn't want to date you.
Did you see the question posted on here, not too long ago where this girl and her boyfriend were talking about their past amount of sexual partners, they both have like 3 each I think, his were random girls he met but hers were from actual relationships that she had with men. And he was telling her that "he would look past, her past" and making it seem like she did something wrong lol
@Girlslie no I didn't. LOL what the ffuucckk. What a douchebag. he's pathetic for sure xD
Because to be a slut it is ok
Just like that simple, No need to write a lot.
It's okay to be a slut, just don't be around me. I don't want any diseases or to be only another number.
Read what I said in the comments here: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1473295-do-you-think-it-s-inconsistent-to-be-christian-also-do-sexual-things
Also read this: sin-and-love.deviantart.com/.../Mere-Christianity-bk-3-ch-6-552240466
and this: sin-and-love.deviantart.com/.../Mere-Christianity-bk-3-ch-5-553691823
no, no and no. sorry, i know your standpoint but i don´t want to discuss it, because it will ineviteably lead to religious discussions which i´m not the least bit interested in.
Religion is only minimally pertinent to the topic at hand. Even if god weren't real, it wouldn't change the fact that the buildup of sexual frustration resulting from abstinence makes one much kinkier, nor the fact that people's sexual appetites are so messed up these days.
Actually, you should read this too: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a9763-why-humans-have-evolved-to-prefer-monogamy
well i said i don´t agree with what the bible says and you throw bible verses at me XD that´s kind of strange don´t you think? so... "the buildup of sexual frustration resulting from abstinence makes one much kinkier, nor the fact that people's sexual appetites are so messed up these days." don´t you think having sex for fun would help the sexual frustration and would reduce "messed" up sexual appetites? also: i didn´t promote poligamy, did i? i think monogamy is fine. i just think you should have sex outside of marriage if you want to.
I did not throw a single Bible verse at you. These all come from a certain 20th century author. The problem is that it's the *indulgence in* the sexual apetite that has perverted it so much, not the supression of it. I'll just repost a sentance from one of the things I linked you to: "... everyone knows that the sexual appetite, like our other appetites, grows by indulgence. Starving men may think much of food, but so do gluttons; the gorged, as well as the famished, like titilations." In this situation, by monogamy, it means commitment to one person.
i impute humans to be able to judge what is too much and what is enough. we are not all the same and we don´t all prefer waiting till marriage even though some people think this is the only way it should be done. we aren´t senseless apes, we have reason and intellect to see what we want. i´m also not opposed to commitment to one person but one should still be able to choose if and when he does that. i don´t agree that indulgence makes us gluttons. of course if we like something, we want to do it more. but we also stop, when it´s too much. i mean some people can´t (obviously because otherwise there wouldn´t be obese people) but in my opinion it should still be ones choice.
MOST of us aren't senseless apes. It's common sense that many people aren't able to judge when enough his enough. "Dude, that's way too much booze!" Of course indulgence makes us gluttons. Haven't you ever heard of psychological addiction?
you´re right about the booze sometimes. but in my experience the booze situation is fun and still somewhat under controll. i mean it´s not like you don´t know what´s happening xD you get drunk for a purpose. it´s recreational and not addictive or compulsory yes, i know of psychological and physical addiction of course but that´s a condition not the ordinary.
Yes, it is a condition, but that doesn't change the fact that people who indulge too much in a given pleasure think about it just as much as those who are starved of it. gluttons think about food just as much as anorexics. Sluts and pervs think about sex just as much as involuntary virgins. The lazy slugs think about sleep just as much as the overworked. The only people who don't think about a given pleasure more than they need to are those who take it moderately.
I don't agree but that's fine. I respect your opinion.
As a fat guy (that's me in my profile pic) who's obesity results from having the pertinent genetics AND poor self control, I can tell you that I think about food more than I should.
Yeah man i unterstand. But not everybody is like that. I love food a lot too but i Kind of Know when it's too much and I go and lift to get in shape if I let myself go.
That's because you take it in moderation. If you started to go "ah the heck with it. why not a little more?" When ever you reached that "enough is enough" point, then I guarantee you you'd become like me.
"if you started to go..." i wouldn´t because i found my balance (moderation). why would you prevent people from finding their point of moderation by restraining their indulgence?
Because a lot of people don't have one. In fact, this is the first time I've ever heard of a person like you.
Do you really need to link to every topic about sex and sexuality with your old comments and some stupid website about religion? How about either responding to the actual Take if you want to participate in a conversation?
@Sara413 First off, that site is deviantart. it in and of itself has nothing to do with religion. I just post stuff about religion on there. there's plenty of atheist deviants (as the people who use the site are called) as Christian ones. It's basically a site for people who fancy themselves artists. If there's a really cool picture you've come across on the internet, there's a good chance it originated on deviantart. Second off, the reason I posted the stuff on there in the first place is because I got tired of typing the same quotes over and over again, and decided to just type them once into my journal and just link that to everyone. A moments thought shows that there's no reason that this should make the arguments in question any less insightful than they are. I *do* respond to the take. I just link them to something I said earlier, since that's what I was going to say anyway.
don´t use quotes then. people who can make a point don´t need quotes.
I don't understand. Why should I go through the trouble of trying to come up with a good argument when someone else has already come up with a better one? the objective of argument and debate is to show the other person why they're in the wrong, not prove how smart you are. If it shows the other person why they're wrong, then what does it matter who came up with it?
because i didn´t just put some quotes together for my take either ;) whatever, it doesn´t matter now though. it hink there´s nothing more on the topic for us to discuss.
I am not gonna read this shit. I am not gonna read anybody's opinion on this shit. I am just gonna say that this is the very reason why i stay away from dating.
"I'm not going to read this but I am going to share my opinion anyways because for some reason I think I'm important" - You.
@Sarah413 ,,,, Yeah i said that but i meant that this is total bull shit that i will never accept. So why should i say waste my time in reading this since i know that i am never gonna agree with him (the take owner) . But , i do think that i am really , really important.
@Sara413
if you´re not going to read this "shit"? then don´t give your shitty opinion! this topic isn´t for 15 year old kids anyway so grow up and learn to respect other peoples opinion.
I respect others' opinions. I dont respect shit. ANd no. I will say my opinion , u and everybody else will listen to it. + I am old enough to be on this site so there is nothing called "this topic isn´t for 15 year old kids anyway" . Omg dude i want u to live in my country ,,,, u can't imagine how much shit u will eat daily if u keep on saying stuff like that xD U r pathetic.
no you will not say your ignorant, offensive, stupid opinion. at least not in this take anymore, because i will block your bullshit now ;)
I think a woman should be a "slut" to her man.
I don't think men or women should be just sleeping around.
It's not fun and looks lonely AF.
I have a friend who used to bang girls left and right, and he's his happiest since he got married, so...
yeah i have a friend who had a lot of sex too and now has a loving relationship. the one doesn´t exclude the other but if it wasn´t "fun" why did he do it then? yeah you´re right, sometimes it just helps the lonlynes, if you just can´t seem to find a person you love but still enjoy the physical intimacy.
It's not okay, don't justify it. Look at all the failed societies, all collapsed around sluts and single mothers.
i didn´t say: "be stupid and fuck anything that has a dick/cunt"... i said you should have sex if you enjoy it BUT you should be responsible and careful.
I went into detail on this same topic. It's a long read but I think you might like it.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11552-a-sociosexually-unrestricted-view-of-sex-relationships
i don´t really agree with the two sociosexual types and their traits according to your take. it needs further differentiation because i don´t see myself in either of those but rather in both to certain extends. other than that, pretty good.
Thanks, I didn't come up with the concept of sociosexuality it was something brought to my attention by someone else.
maybe you can be both at the same time. for example i can see sex as an act of love and as just sex. it depends on the partner you are with.
I see sex and love as separate but you can still love the person you have sex with.
The distinction between sociosexually restricted and sociosexually unrestricted orientations is that restricted types are incapable of not forming feelings for and bonding with a sexual partner. Imagine the impracticality of starting to love a random hookup. That's the reason the sociosexually restricted limit their sexual activity to people they have already chosen to love. That is what is meant by not being able to separate sex and love.
yeah but it happened to me that i loved a girl i didn´t even have sex with. still she didn´t like me back so my feelings get hurt either way. might as well have sex then :D
but if you're a virgin by choice, why do think it's OK for women to be sluts? why don't you want to fuck them?
because every girl i had the chance to have sex with before had feelings for me. i´m not going to hurt a persons feelings to get sex... and i´m too unexperienced and shy to ask for sex.
you don't want to do one night stands?
yeah i would do one night stands but i wouldn´t have one with a girl if i know she likes me more than that.
Actually, studies still show us that women with more past sex partners are more likely to divorce/cheat once married...
And male microchimerism in women without sons tells us that women literally carry DNA from their past lovers, even in brain tissue. Sex isn't just fun.
to your first argument: two statistical fact´s don´t necessarily correlate i think there might be other reasons for that. your second argument: microchimerism has nothing to do with dna staying inside the girl from sex... i don´t know where you got that from. i´s about DNA that remains in the body after pregnancy or organ transplantation.
Actually, the correlation is easy to show.
That, and you fail to realize--encouraging women to be slutty won't help you finally get laid. When monogamy is enforced, by nature, it is far more likely that every person will find their bed mate. When female promiscuity is allowed, women naturally gravitate towards a small percentage of men.
it´s not about me finally getting laid. it´s about doing what you want without a stupid social stigma attached to it. "the by nature" argument is just nonsense. nature doesn´t have a will or purpose. we interpret purpose but there is no imposed one. by the way: monogamy is pretty rare in nature. man i feel like there is a conspiracy going on. "females gravitate towrads a smal percentage of men" never heard such a bullshit. of course everybody will find a 10/10 attractive females and males each their respective oposite or whatever they prefer. that´s normal but most people will have sex with a person in their own leaguie, as they realize the ones out of their league won´t want them.
"Actually, studies still show us that women with more past sex partners are more likely to divorce/cheat once married..." I know that is true, although you don't need a scientific study to do that just date one. Although don't be surprised when you find an app called tinder on her phone with a ton of sexual messages from various frat boys. But that's somehow ok, because women can do no wrong in our society.
it´s about honesty. if she tells you "see if got sex with a lot of partners and i don´t see myself commiting to you but i´d like to have sex" what would you complain about?
the media is making it acceptable.
we went from kicking our daughters out for wear belly shirts to now dressing them up like devils and strippers.
Cartoons are plastered with perverted subliminal sexual jokes and references.
this take isn´t about modest clothing though :D you can be classy but still have sex if you like to.
its all part of the same thing.
no it simply is not. dressing skimpy and actually having sex are totally different topics. sex is still only suitable for a certain age and i don´t agree that you should fuck around a lot if you´re like 14 or so.
i see
Last time I checked players get slut shames just as much as female sluts women don't like players and men don't usually like sluts why I don't know
players have a different quality then sluts. slut=promiscuous -> good player= lies and plays tricks to get into a girls pants -> bad
Well than what's the problem? Its not your life plus one day they will get an std so who cares
it says "be safe" in my take. but if you associate sex with stds then don´t have it ;)
Personally, I am tired of being cheated on, by all those lying sluts. They claim they are victimized, then they go around telling guys "you are the only one for me" and cheating. They aren't a bunch of righteous victims, they are narcissists with a persecution complex.
@genuinlysensitive yeah i don´t condone cheating and lying. that´s bad...
Its not ok to be a slut. Sex is supposed to be a meaningful, beautiful connection not just between two people, but two souls. The connection is so much more than physical. It's like emotional electricity. I'm sure plenty of people will agree here. When you have sex, you give away part of yourself to someone. I'm sure you don't want to give yourself away Tom, dick or harry who comes along wanting it. That is irresponsible and foolish in my opinion
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the purpose of sex is the purpose you assign. hence your thought of it´s purpose isn´t universal. if i chose to share a beautiful sexual experience with a person i´m not going to have a relationship with, then why is that bad? i can still have feelings for a person and have an even more meaningful connection but why must i?
Because, Sex intensifies closeness and emotions. You want to make sure that that person is at least emotionally, physically, and mentally attracted to you.
@Take Owner look bro it's not about my opinion and your opinion this world doesn't work on anyone's personal thought or opinions hence there are fundamental opinions which prove some people wrong and some people right because if you propagate that everyone have their own opinion then for everything there will be millions of opinion and no one will be ever wrong again in their part not even criminals. so a person must knows what is wrong to society and others is eventually a wrong thing whether you want to do it or not, don;t spread the wrong messages as this will ruin the harmony of society and we can see that having millions of choices already raised an invisible war between genders where people judge each other choices just because they doesn't stick to fundamentals. and tell me how can you have feeling for someone you are just having sex and walking away? how will you justify your feelings? any selfish person who have sex in mind can pretend to be one so where the justification?
I dont agree with people being sluts/sleazebags but we just have a different viewpoint. Sure women have birth control pills
But people today are operating on how guys think: when and where
Back then people operated on how women think: who and why
Society has a lot of problems because of everyone operating on how guys think when sex springs to mind.
Who and why isn't out of the consideration just because you choose to have fun though.
listen dude. You need to get the idea that sex is all about "fun". Maybe enjoyment. The idea of sex, especially in religion, is sacred. You are supposed to view your body as a temple and not a road. If you want to view yourself as a road, fine. Sex in itself is a very intimate bond between two people. You are most vulnerable with the person you are with. If you enjoy giving yourself away (guy/girl) to anything that walks and talks then so be it. However, don't assume it should be the accepted norm. Society today has changed what the "accepted norm" is. Sex used to be viewed as something between two people who love each other. Now it's viewed as "LETS GET DRUNK AND FUCK SOMETHING!!!" and that is a casual night out. Personally, it's not my cup of tea. I'd rather have the later with a meaningful relationship with someone I cherish and love.
i´m not talking about "let´s get wasted and fuck everybody" either. there is still a choice to be made. i don´t say fuck everybody, i say fuck, who you really want to fuck :D
well and who consensually wants that too of course.