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Why it's okay to be a Slut

Why is being a slut such a bad thing? I mean seriously this is isn't the 1950s anymore, these slut shamers need to grow up and stop being so immature and sexist and realize that women want sex just as much as men, so stop being such fake Victorian prudes.

Why it's okay to be a Slut

When a guy sleeps around he's a stud but when a woman does it she's a whore. Talk about double standards.

And why is slut even a word? I don't see any words that specifically defines a man having many casual sex partners yet a woman does. This is the purest form of sexism. The fact that this word is even in the dictionary is revolting.

Society has created this twisted image of approval to abide by, when there's no apparent reason to. Yes you can get pregnant or get an STD but you can also do both of those without being a "slut." This debate about promiscuity is about judging and shaming people, thinking that you know what’s best for them better than themselves. Well, sluts don’t need your disapproval or advice on how we should live our lives. We’re quite capable of making our own, terrible drunken decisions. What I can't however deal with, though, is your disapproval. I don’t know why, but for some reason people just love to cram their beliefs down your throat.

Why it's okay to be a Slut

I like getting compliments and attention from guys, I like being desired and I like having sex. And to shame someone for doing something that comes naturally is just beyond absurd.
So what if a woman has sex with more than one man or likes taking it up the back door. It's their life, they can do whatever they want with it, and that does not make them a whore. Heck a woman can have sex with a hundred men at once and you still shouldn't judge them. Unless that woman is genuinely a bad human being, you have no right to judge her as a person. Yes you're entitled to your opinions but that doesn't mean you have the right to flaunt it around.

Yes being promiscuous can result in you getting hurt, you can get STDs or become pregnant or worse, but there are preventative measures you can take like using condoms every time and getting on the pill. If you take proper precautions you'll be just fine, there is however always a slight chance of getting pregnant or catching a STD but you probably have a higher chance of dying in a car accident than getting either of those. It's like saying you shouldn't get on a roller coaster because it could derail and get you hurt or killed but that doesn't mean you should stop having fun just because there's a less than 1% chance of it happening.

Why it's okay to be a Slut

The word slut has been taken out of context so badly that it's used everywhere without people even being aware of the meaning. A woman dressed provocatively in public? She must be a slut right. A girl who flirts with all the guys in school? Oh she's definitely a slut. A girl who posts half-naked selfies? Oh man she must be a whore. I mean seriously what does clothing have to with being a slut or flirting or taking selfies. People are so conceited that they resort to calling women sluts (a word that obviously has a negative connotation attached to it) so they could shame them just because their still stuck with views from the 60s.

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  • "When a guy sleeps around he's a stud but when a woman does it she's a whore. Talk about double standards."
    he certainly ain't no stud to me.

    "We’re quite capable of making our own, terrible drunken decisions. What I can't however deal with, though, is your disapproval."
    if it's your body, and u can do what u want, then why do u care?

    I'm sorry but the main point i can agree with here is that the word has unfortunately been taken out of context, and ur right, people shouldn't judge based on clothing, but I'm never gonna b ok with promiscuity, even if this is 2015. times change, doesn't mean my view has to.

    im also not a slut shamer. i actually tend to feel really sorry for her.

    • I also feel sorry for them, they act childish giving sex for attention probably they might enjoy the moment attention but probably feel unhappy between acts. I don't take the horny argument, you can get sexual relief with only one partner.

    • THANK YOU! #respect far out... why is that mindset so uncommon these days? @openwide

    • I have a theory with this mindset is not common, people confuse open minded with 'anything goes', open minded means analyzing situation in part and that is it.

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  • It's never ok to be a slut and I am referring to both genders here, that kind of mindset is what's wrong with the world.

    I have no respect for those that go around throwing sex around like it's nothing, just because the date and time has changed doesn't mean my view has to or that it will.

    Also your second quote on your second picture is a contradiction.
    As common sense would be to not go around having careless sex in the first place *rolls eyes*

    I in no way agree with this.

    • Who said it has to be careless? How is it careless if it happens between two consenting adults that have gotten tested and use protection (condom + pill), for example?

    • @lumos consdiering she's referring to sluts which by my and the actual definition is someone who goes around and has sex with multiple partners without much care. And condom and pills isn't the point of this at all.

    • Alrighty.

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  • I don't care what other women want to do with their bodies. I don't believe in shaming people for having a different lifestyle outlook. As long as you are protecting yourself and others (not spreading STD's) then I don't see the issue. I'm not promiscuous and don't sleep around but I don't feel the need to make people feel bad for not having my kind of values. Slut is a term thrown around way too quickly which is why I don't like the word. I know of girls who've been called sluts when they barely even did anything sexual. However with all that said and done I do wish more girls started valuing themselves on their intelligence and smarts and not just on their bodies and sex. There's so much more to us than boobs and ass. I just wish women realized this.

  • Lol posts like this make me want to throw up.
    Nothing wrong with being classy. Men and women alike should carry themselves with respect if they want to be respected back. Sick of this disgusting mentality.

    • AMEN.

    • A- mother fucking -men!

    • It's revolting. I don't give a damn if I'm "old fashioned", would not want my children to sleep and mess with every human they see.

  • Because you have a heart, too, and the day you realized you have burned your body out with guys who cared nothing for who you really are, you will realize being a slut was a mistake.

    You are not a slut, you are very horny, and you want to love someone physically as much as you want to love them emotionally.

    Actually, when you find a man who willlove you for who you are (To find out if he trulyloves you- never give himsex. If he runs, he onlywanted to use you. If he stays, he sees something in you worh waiting for. This is the truest, only, and besttest of how much aman reallylovesyou.) he will cherish the idea that you are a raging animal who needs his lust, and his body.

    Save yourself for now, and you will find fulfillment- but do not waste your radiant beauty on men who do not care for you.

  • Your right of course. Your ideas about the Victorian views and 50s and 60s are spot on. Your young free and enjoying life. All are fantastic allow me to try to give you my opinion.
    Women's sexuality has been repressed by time thousands of years. Manly by simple nature at first having of spring was dangerous and to many the chances of survival were diminished by having to provide for them.
    Then as we settled down learned to farm grow food. We could have more children.
    Suddenly religion starts its male orientated guides and rules written by men. So women need to be controlled. So rules about sex towards women are male ideology.
    Virgin bride. Then all the negative description words about promiscuous women. It's about the same time that prostitution starts. Men have given women the good ideals they want their wives to live by but have deeper more dark desires and some women simply recognise it.
    Nothing much changes for 2000 years suddenly equality happens at last for women its evolutionarily massive for them ( and rightly so ). Then contraception freeing women up for all sorts of choices. Career's , education, and wether to have a family or not.
    You and your generation are at the fore of this Tsunami of change. Men are struggling to keep up evolutionarily. Give us time we will get there. Those who don't initiate or want change all ways lag behind with it. Once they see the benifits and stop being judgmental it will be excepted. It's simply not quick enough for you. Your a modern educated free thinking woman. Who's sexuality is hers to do with as she pleases.
    See the positive. Think of the billions of women now and before you who are and have been screaming internally for what you have.
    I do understand your frustration and these male made labels are wrong but they need a little more time.

  • I have few things to say before I continue on.

    First, whether you have sex with everybody or you have sex with nobody, there's always going to be someone who judges you and tells you what you're doing (or aren't doing) is somehow wrong. So, people will judge you no matter what. That's just the sad truth of things.

    Second, I think it's naïve to pretend that there are not women that know what men like and the way they like them to dress and if they were to wear their sexiest most revealing outfit, they may just get laid. Women, do actual do things in a calculated fashion (not all women but some). So, to pretend that doesn't happen is naïve. However, in the same token does every woman that wears revealing clothing want sex or sleep around a lot? No, just like not every guy who wears their pants hanging down with there boxers showing or backward cap, is a gang banger. Some people who dress that way, do fit that bill but to label everybody who dresses that way in the sameway, is wrong.

    Third, I will never judge anybody for the things they do. I'm a live let live type person, I don't have to understand what you do but I won't judge you for it and hopefully you won't judge me for the things I don't do. So, if causal sex makes a person happy, then may the force be with you. Now, with that in mind I will get to what I really wanted to say.

    If you truly believe that there's nothing wrong with casual sex, if you truly believe sleeping with 365 men for all 365 days of the year is totally fine, then why not just go do that? Why write this take and tell us all how it's quote" okay to be a slut"? If you and everybody else who loves casual sex know you're not doing anything wrong, then there wouldn't be a need for this take because you wouldn't feel the need to try to explain to people that it is okay. Unless, you yourself aren't completely sure what you do is right. So, you try to convince other people it's okay in effort to convince yourself. That's just a thought.

    Like I said, I don't care what you or other people do. That's not my business. I have younger cousin who's admitted to having sex with a lot guys and I have two cousins with children out of wed lock, so I really have no room to judge anyone nor would I. That's not my style. I just feel like maybe you're preaching to us because you're not completely convinced it's okay. Whether it's true or not, only you know that but that's just my outsiders opinion.

    • It could also be that society is making herself question whether what she is doing is right or not. So its not that having sex is wrong its that society can make it a bad thing. Probably more likely why she is posting this.

  • you are so right on!
    I like the first pic the most. so so true.

    • Thank you :)

    • you are welcome!-and don't worry too much about the guys' comments:)

  • A slut is a term that is used for a WOMAN. It is gender-specific and if someone else is finding definitions that do not include the word "woman" it still doesn't matter because society makes the term gender specific and it is almost ALWAYS directed at women NOT MEN!

    1. A woman who has many casual sex partners
    2. a woman with low standards of cleanliness

    No one should be calling a woman a slut. The double standard disgusts me. Who cares how many people or how many people she has slept with. Sex is fun and people enjoy it. If you're doing it safely then what the hell is the problem? She could be a good woman and he could be a good man. It doesn't always mean that the guy or girl has issues. It means they enjoy a certain activity, like dancing or shopping. THEY LIKE IT.
    If you don't have anything good to say about someone, MALE or FEMALE then keep your mouth shut. The problem with people today is not that people are "sluts" or "whores" it's that people don't MIND THEIR OWN BUSINESS AND DON"T KEEP THEIR MOUTHS SHUT about their private lives and about other's lives that don't concern them. The number of people you screw is your business, you don't have to share that with your partner. It happened before them and your partner shouldn't ask. All you need to do is make sure they don't have any STD's that you can catch, by getting them tested and making sure you're on the pill and that he is wearing a condom. Simple. While it is true that you shouldn't call people sluts...

    There's no need for people to flaunt how many people they can get or how many women/men they bed. That's not classy! BUT the actual act of sleeping around is not slutty. It's just something you choose to do. People wouldn't even be able to call others sluts if no one made comments on who they've been with. So be quiet! You're right, it's your body and you can do what you want with it, but seriously keep it to yourself NOT just sex but anything that is personal. No one can call you a slut if you don't say anything.

    The need to talk about your exploits is saddening. No it doesn't make you cool, it doesn't make you more attractive, it makes it seem like you have something to prove, which you really don't. People will find out how good you are in bed or how long you last when they ACTUALLY sleep with you

    • She writes about being a slut as if it was a virtue or a lifestyle choice. It's like dark in the absence of light. Like good or evil. It's just an absence of any morals or principles. There's nothing worthwhile about it. We started standards in the first place to put us above the animals. Now every do gooder in the world trying to justify their existence are busy pulling it all apart. It's a sad time. The world's been going backwards for years now

  • To be honest, you want to fuck who you want, when you want and as many times as you want without being called a slut... all you have to do is keep a low profile. I have never once been called such derogatory names except here on GaG where I've been candid. I've had casual sex with a number of partners, I wasn't looking for a daddy figure and I wasn't self loathing. I did it because I like to fuck and I'm not super sold on monogamy as something for me. The only thing that stopped me getting a rep was being discreet and selective. I didn't fuck just anyone, I genuinely liked the guys and knew them well enough to know there was mutual respect.

    In conclusion, there's nothing wrong with fucking about for most, just keep it quiet. We aren't all emotionally fragile, broken-home children trying to gain the acceptance of our fathers... just like fucking different people.

    • :/...

  • Here's a thought, stop caring what people think about you. You say those people need to grow up yet you care what they think. Rather juvenile if you ask me. Just live your life the way you want to and stop concerning yourself with the thoughts of sheep.

    • Well that's like saying it's juvenile to speak out against racism and homophobia.

    • The world isn't perfect, I mean you can make an attempt to change things and take your issue beyond message boards and forums. Probability says that you will most likely complain about the issue instead of doing something about it. As for the topic. Be a slut if you want chances are nobody really cares. Yes some will judge you but why let that bother you? Just worry about you and let them criticize you.

  • I don't even use the word slut unless it is in a conversation like this. I agree though honestly we should take the word out of the dictionary. It provides no purpose in life other then pushing women down.

    For those that don't know here is the definition:
    slut
    slʌt/Submit
    nounderogatory
    1.
    a woman who has many casual sexual partners.
    synonyms: promiscuous woman; More
    2.
    dated
    a woman with low standards of cleanliness.

    • I agree a million percent. The word "slut" is a heinous word that is used only against women and should be eliminated just like the "N word" (no Im not comparing the two words directly, only saying it should be offed in the same fashion). It is derogatory in the worst way, and only used towards one gender. It's profoundly disgusting. PS. This message comes to you courtesy of a 20yo VIRGIN.

    • @CheerGirl38139 20yo NONvirgin and Proud but at the end of the day does the amount of people we sleep with really define who we are as a person. Good question.

    • Hell no it does NOT define who we are. They're simply personal choices that every human should be allowed to make without being labeled and called despicable names.

  • It isn't a good thing to sleep around with multiple partners, for both men and women.

    • That's right, and real sluts is more about sleeping with many men, then about clothes.

  • Let me ask you a question: Do you think it's "okay" to be a player? It is my contention that both "stud" and "player" refer to the same kind of man, the only difference being that one is a word of praise and the other is a word of rebuke. The evidence strongly suggests that you don't personally view promiscuous men as "studs". If you did, I don't think you'd be complaining about it. For the record, neither do I.

    Call me a prude if you like, but you will find that I am no hypocrite. I disapprove of all promiscuity, no matter which gender the practitioner is. The fundamental problem with promiscuity is not that it's sexual. The problem is that it's narcissistic.

  • Just because the idea of promiscuity was looked down on in the past does not by default make it exceptable now. Their where reasons for it. For starters every study done has shown that their is a negative impact for it, effecting women more severly then men. They are able to show consistently that poor relationships with fathers, low self esteem and depression are almost always prerequisites of promiscuity. It is also been shown that it creates depression (as it effects the reward circuit of the brain resulting in an addiction like state) reduces satisifaction within relationships of an intimate nature culminating in higher rates of divorce and infidelity. All of these things have negative consequences to the individual but more importantly it has negative consequences to the unsuspecting people the individual wishes to engage with. Children of divorce suffer higher rates of depression and substance abuse, they are more likely to commit suicide and break the law and are themselves more likely to divorce ensuring that the cycle continues. This is why every single civilization, independent of one another, has placed social norms on sex. Their are negative consequences for it to presume that sex was regulated for no reason is absurd. Every one enjoys sex (barring asexuals) every one experiences pleasure from it, and yet it has consistently been regulated, the primary method of which is slut shaming, because of the negative impact. In fact the loosening of these rules has been linked to the fall of several empires (rome being one of them) because a society cannot function if the family unit is destroyed which is what happens (as I previously pointed out) when we allow promiscuity to run rampant. Now if you wish to throw your future away, to destroy any future happiness as it pertains to relationships, for one night stands that is your perogative and right. Do not however presume that others will simply go along with it, do not attempt to avoid it by saying how it hurts your feelings to have your actions judged because this is the primary function of shaming, to let you know what your doing is destructive in order to discourage you from doing it. Its a chocie you make and while its yours to make, its also yours to be responsible for. Life does not allow you to act and avoid the consequences of that action merely because you do not find it favorable to you. You choose to be promiscuis and others will choose to look down on you for it, it is your right and theirs.

    • The first part I kind of agree with. The second I do not. Libido is known to be high in promiscuous and monogamous people. Yes there is a such thing as sexual addiction, but that doesn't only effect promiscuous people. Divorce typically comes from a monogamous relationship that has turned bad. One could say promiscuity was the cause, but one could just as easily say had that person not been in a monogamous relationship such result wouldn't have happened. You talk about divorce a lot and again that's a monogamous problem, unless you want to talk about situations in which there are multiple wives/husbands. Rome's problems where many. Corrupt politicians, war, stealing, slavery etc. Yes prostitution and promiscuity was rampant but those are minor problems when compared with to Rome's other problems. I've known of people who were very promiscuous and still ended up with a stable, loving, family that they are happy with.

    • I do agree that we are all responsible for our decisions and yes sometimes decisions call for consequences. That said if people are allowed to do what they will then why is it such a problem and why should one slut shame? Slut shaming is a result of someone not wanting the other person to be promiscuous. Is that not a contradiction? If you feel people are allowed to do what they want then there's no point in slut shaming.

    • @Joc4Position Their has been a consistent link between number of partners and divorce. the probability of divorce for some one who has only had sex with their spouse is 1%, for some one who has had sex with two people, one of which is the spouse it jumps to 16%. The brain releases oxytocin during sex which is repsonsible for creating/deepening emotional connections (which is why sex is never just sex). By forging many smaller bonds you, one, are more likely to maintain feelings for previous partners and two your brain becomes unable to maintain a singular strong bond with a person, essentially spreading itself thin. These statistics have been proven time and time again,
      socialpathology.blogspot.com/.../...orce-risk.html
      socialpathology.blogspot.com/.../...uity-data.html
      www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/.../nihms499028.pdf
      www.science20.com/.../college_promiscuity_linked_anxiety_and_depression-115737
      The notion that sex was regulated arbitrarly in every major civilization and society, that they all had a type of social convergent evolution of sexual regulation for no reason at all is absurd. Again, science corroborates this, both biologicly and psychologicly/sociologicly.

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  • Look, I don't care what you wear or if you like attention. It's just how you GET the attention and HOW you wear the clothes. And to me if I guy sleeps around a lot he's a man-whore. Simple as that.

    But it's still NOT OKAY to be a slut! It's so fucking unclassy it's disgusting.
    A key that opens many locks is a master key. A lock that opens to any key, it worthless.

    Sluts are the lock that opens to any key.

  • Once i lost my viginity the decision to use my body for pleasure was decided. I've had sex with quiet a few people mostly guys and a few relationships with women , i wouldn't term any of it as being a slut as very few have been one night stands. Most if not all I've had some form of relstionship with , weither it be boyfriend girlfriend friends with benefits or just friend who i did stuff with. I dont see the number as an issue because I've had lots of sex too much to count.

    • Annnnnd that's a problem. No decent guy wants a girl like this... Sorry to burst your whore bubble, but I'm calling it like how I see it. You claim it's okay because it's something you do. That's like me saying "I've killed 20 people so it's okay to kill people... It's no different then hunting deer. We're all animals."

    • @schnipdip Isn't murder a crime and does it not infringe on the rights of others? Consensual sex is not illegal and does NOT infringe on the rights of others. As far as decent guys wanting a slut well I guess you can speak for billions of men lol.

    • Hold up murder is a crime.. having sex with somone you care about is not.. yeah I've had a tone of sex with people i care about... and dont mss understand that i say one nightstand not sex with a stranger. Relationships come in many forms sonetimes my friendships have become sexual even of just once. Things happen, I've never cheated on anyone and im honest with everyone i dont break the law!!!,

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  • Time doesn't change nature. Women also want/need real love just like men do. I don't want some men using me to get off and then loving someone else, which makes me less. Hell with that. RESPECT your needs because being used and cast aside hurts like hell and damages you. Wake up and stop deluding yourself that you're nothing more than a piece of a**.

    • RESPECT YOUR BODIES !

  • If you think of slut in a negative fashion, then it is never okay to be a slut. It's a terrible word for the implication is negative. If you sleep around and go out with guys and have sex with them and you enjoy the company and they enjoy yours. Intercourse then is a natural outcome.
    If someone calls you a slut because of that above, my come back to them would be I just believe that being a suicide bomber just to get laid and have 70 virgins is an indication that you're not getting enough.

  • It's fair to say it's okay to be whatever you want to be as long as it's not hurting anyone else and you can deal with the consequences later in life if they present themselves...
    Best to be smart and think things over than do things you'll later regret.

    • Being know as a slut is part of the consequences, especially if a woman perfectly fitting the description, and no man have to take a slutty and non-wife material woman for a serious relationship.

    • @Berethor Agree - as no woman will ever take a slutty guy as her husband. Sluts - men and women - should probably stay within each other's ranks... xD They have much more in common - including moral values.

    • @LittleSally that's right, they deserve each other, and they should listen to this song all day long. :)

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dw-eIE0pkn8

  • I don't think either gender should act like a slut. BUT, in my mind a slut is the way a person dresses. If you want to be taken seriously, guy or girl, I expect you to dress the part. If a guy or girl dresses scantily I expect people to objectify them.

  • Because it's your body, your choices, and your life. So it's fine... as long as you are respectful and responsible about your actions and behaviour.

    • Thank you :)

    • Your welcome☺

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