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1.) It makes you cunning and carnal.
It slowly corrupts you and turn you less humane. people like this talk about sex and dirty stuff all the time. Most of their conversation topics revolve around carnal pleasures. They are full of innuendos and have mostly such things in their minds. They hung around with like minded people and share their saucy experiences, their bf's penises, their gf's bj skills etc. They became judgmental. They look at people like meat and scan them as they enter a room. If you hang around such people they'll turn you like themselves.
2.) It makes you desensitized and makes your heart colder.
Your romantic, innocent, poetic, aloof self exists only one time. It will never come back. And it is meant for your one, lifetime partner. As long you exercise your egotistical will and get heartbroken, you become cynical, your heart cold and less acceptable of love, and you see the other gender with resentment and mistrust. Even as a mere sex object after a point. Thus the phenomenon today of male and female players.
3.) It is egotistical, irresponsible and unthoughtful of others.
An unborn child being aborted, your parents shocked and saddened, your teachers and mentors dissapointed. The other person being used for your selfish goals. All these people affected because its all about me, me ,me. It has the pretence and excuse of love, but it ain't true love. Cause true love is humble, it surrenders its will, and it never hurts others.
4.) It doesn't blend well with spiritual practices. (Nor does masturbation)
Well don't take my word for it. Try it on your own. And i dont speak new age demonic pseudospirituality bs, but real spiritual practice like contemplative prayer.
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Soo... am I (who has done everything mentioned above, apart from abortion, since the age of 13/14) cleared of all charges because I'm neither religious nor spiritual nor w/e?
Or am I still doomed?
Just curious.
i was the same since 14. the psat doesn't matter when you start repenting in Christ. but its a lifetime process. if you keep His will to the best of your abilities and pray for His mercy daily, your life will be transformed, and your past will be like it never existed. i'm' six years in it and i dont recognise myself. nor do my atheist parents do. my mother starts considering to convert.
That doesn't answer my question. Am I freed of all charges since I'm not religious anyway, meaning I'm not praying with impure thoughts since I'm not praying at all, or does that not matter at all & I'm still doomed?
you are doomed as long as you think in doomed terms. God is not a dictator whiping people with his leath lash. if you want to be saved and forgiven, find first who the real God is and love him. if you begin loving him is like loving a gorgeoud maiden, you will want to do everything to please him, so your life will naturally adjust to being a godly one... .
Oh boy. xD Since I don't believe in any of this stuff, I neither expect to be doomed or blessed or w/e. What I'm asking is what you, personally, YOU as a person, think. xD I don't need lectures on religion, I've long ago decided I'm way too logical for that.
my opinion is that everyone will be judged with the unfathomable for us wisdom of God. in spiritual matters some claim ignorance is bliss. maybe the less you know the more light his judgment will be over you. also if you were so logical, you would be a believer already. i grew up in a house of atheists were we didn't even have a bible. if i had read earlier things like love thy enemy i'd follow this person who said them, through fire and waves, no matter what it would take. you can't be rational and not love Christ. He is the best rebel, teacher, prophet, God. no comparison with anyone else.
But how could I believe in something that's only there in my imagination? Why should I follow the rules of someone I don't even know? Why should I follow the guidelines of a book that contradicts itself every other page? Why should I place my fate in the hands of an invisible deity that may or may not be actually there instead of taking matters in my own hands? I think these things are nothing more than giving the responsibility for everything you do into another's hands. 'Love thy enemy', sure, but it also says 'an eye for eye'. 'Love all of God's creations', sure, but it also suggests beating the shit out of everyone who supposedly goes against 'nature'. I've read big parts of the bible & it just doesn't make sense. If you wanna believe in it, sure, go ahead, I don't care.
eye for an eye was for an era when humanity that wa the higher amount of love they could take. then you insulted someone and he beheaded you on the spot to save his pride. in such a society God speaks accordingly to their level fo understanding. After Christ though things became radically different. As for being invisible or imaginary, search it for your self. its like saying atoms are imaginary. God is subtle and discreet. He'll reveal himself in your heart when you are ready. without intrusion or pressure.
No, they didn't. We're still killing each other over the silliest things. & no, it's entirely different. I can actually see atoms (with the help of a microscope, yeah, but they are there, I can touch them). God? Not so much. Maybe he exists for you & other people, he doesn't for me. I can't believe in something that's simply not there.
You can't search "there" for what is everywhere. Not being able to see and touch Him isn't a problem of god but a shortcoming of your heart at the current moment. It's like whining you fail at marathon running while you never got off your couch. similar with spiritual things and prayer. I hope one day you will know Him better than i do.
Yes, I know the saying GODISNOWHERE. Interpret that one as you want. & if the day I can touch God ever arrives I hope my mother'll have the mind to call the guys with those cute white jackets. As I've said, you & everyone else can do whatever you want, I'm content the way things are & I don't need a God to make me feel better about my life. I like it just fine the way it is.
haha feelings? its not about feelings. its not about chemicals in your brain and self suggestions. these are what Easter gurus and tricksters do. we are talking real life transformations here. we are talking about a powerhouse. if you see your factory's engines suddenly running, someone is feeding it with current it doesn't work with thin air. your problem currently is that you dont know how it is to be "electrocuted". when you are there, you'll have no doubt its something external to you.
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I'd rather run on my own 'currents', thanks, lol. I prefer doing things on my own, succeeding or failing by my own hand & taking pride in that.
you always have to do things on your own. blaming everything on God is a psychological mechanism. God offers a much greater life than that. He offers the life of a co-creator nor that of a slave nor someone who takes advantage of Him.
Yeah, but I'd much rather say "I accomplished that." than "God gave me the power to accomplish that."
there is strength in humility. not weakness. its just that society distorted and reversed all values. you will understand sooner or later. you are a logical woman.
Why being a gullible fool is not good: It convinces you to go pink anon and tell people the magical sky daddy will be mad at them and they must REPENT! thus pushing more fools into the control of religious leaders.
you dont need leaders. you have your conscience. it has a defect though. it can get corrupted and desensitised with time. find the child's heart in you and you will now the truth. no skydaddy will be mad at you. you will not be able to participate in the awesomeness that is heaven by not opening your ears and heart enough to the message of love. if you believe you are a lighthouse of love in everything else, and lust is your only weakness be my guest then. but if you have even the slightest doubt that you have room for improvement and can get softer in the heart, then search whats at fault.
I agree.. too many peeps on here go Anon to avoid being responsible for their belief system. AND I love how the Anon asker will jump on me with impunity coz they are hiding behind the Shield of Invisibility provided by being Anon.
I have never posted Anon... if I can't take criticism, then I dont deserve a GaG account.
@wingattebaby16 some times you might influence several people. if you influence a broad audience with your takes on more secular matters, when you touch more controversial matters, you can't sabotage all the work you have done on the other sector. this is a message not digestible from most people. my ten years younger self would have cussed the crap out of this take writer.
OP you sound insulted lol
@asdsfgag I should've known there were a bunch of mindless atheists on this site...
Sounds like the slave masters are pissed the slaves are leaving the plantation. As a former christian, I found out that the girls in my youth group were the dirtiest sluts.
there are people labeled christians and people trying to live as such.
Are you a christian and do you fornicate?
You seem to be referring to addicts and people consumed with lust.
That's not everyone who engages in lovemaking before marriage. Key word, "love-making".
love is the most easily overused and abused word of our era. more crimes happened in the name of "love" than war and religion combined.
OMG did you say "in the name of love"
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@OfDeath You win
@Theresao Yes!
Maybe the worst Mytake I ever seen lol
The problem with this is that you use circular logic. "premarital sex is wrong because it makes you think of carnal pleasures." uhh, and that's bad how?
Pleasures at any cost becomes the implied component. It begets a predatory mentality. That's the part she left out, because she didn't think it needed to be explained.
For me there is only premarital sex because I'm not getting married again.
And that's your decision to make. But here is a serious question I am curious about. Do you ever wonder about your older age? Like right now you are in the prime of your life, women are easy to get, but as you get older, not so much. Do you think that perhaps in your 40/50s you might consider a more permanent relationship (even just a live in one) just for the sake of having someone take care of you? Take care of your needs?
@Poppykate Oh, I'm not into hook ups at all. I only want a long term relationship. I just don't want the legal part of marriage because it is very bad for guys. I would even exchange vows symbolically (but not legally) and have a family (kids) because I want a lasting relationship and a family very much with the right person.
That rather sweet!
@Poppykate Thanks.
This is dumb.
Sex has a lot of health benefits live longer reduced risk of heart problems helps combat depression alsorts.
also you say less human as if our desires aren't human and as if where robots rather than just another kind of animal that was lucky enough to evolve opposable thumbs along with enough intelligence to develop technology.
thats why you get married
@Chraesor The reality is you end up with a lot of sexless marriages that way because you get pepole diving in head first s they can do it and even if they don't they don't know what they enjoy and how they go together. Then the guys often end up seeking out "massage parlors" because their wives are never in the mood.
@sedrftvghujik: That's why you screen your partners for personality ahead of time, and for values. NOT just because they smile nice or look good. You make sure they are also compatible with your family, not just you. With your life mission too. She marries into the entire family, and the entire scheme. Anyone too short-sighted to see this, doesn't deserve sex or marriage. And will likely destroy both of these in their own lives, whether they get married or not.
@ObscuredBeyond I've dated plenty of men who had great personalities, but sucked in the bedroom. That's like saying you should read the reviews on a car before you buy it instead of test driving it. Yeah, the reviews might be great, but that particular car might have issues.
Please educate yourself better before posting this nuisance of a lie. You become those things not from having sex... but living a terrible life.
terrible is subjective. some are in palaces and live hell in their hearts, and some are in dungeons and jails and live heaven. its purely an internal thing.
which is another reason why this post abominable.
well treating other with respect isn't abominable. conveying the message that you are much more for me than just a body is not abominable. using the excuse of a generic love concept to get off with you is abominable.
You're basically saying if you're going to have sex it means your mentality will turn dark and everything that deals with religions and spirituality... what kind of concept is this? This idea is irrelevant.
@Sephora_Addict. Well-said. You beat me to it.
@burlen thanks 👍🏻
by the way why did u post it anonymously? i think u are a genius why not show up urself?
" people like this talk about sex and dirty stuff all the time" >> true according to my experience, and i'm slowly changing the friends i hang out with because of that
" you become cynical, your heart cold and less acceptable of love, and you see the other gender with resentment and mistrust. Even as a mere sex object after a point">>true again, according to my experience, but i'm recovering from it
" Cause true love is humble, it surrenders its will, and it never hurts others.">> was that from biblical source? it's pretty accurate with the notion of Christian love
At the end you lost all my respect.
i do not subscribe your opinion.
That ideology only survives because it was passed by your ancestors, and doesn't come from your own head.
it comes from personal experience and past mistakes.
Im sorry you had bad experiences :( But to be really honest, yu should not blame the way we make sex, but the people you met to do it.
i'm not blaming others. I AM TO BLAME. i did the mistakes. i used John in middle school to make my crush jealous. I used boys at college to fill my inner gap and my vanity. I know very well now where my motives originated and they were far from godly. i deeply repent and regret my actions. all these hearts i affected. all these men i fooled.
Fortunely you can still do a lot of good things for the others :) One thing you could do is somehow help teens to live their sexuality on a more positive way, use watever tools you know better. But premarital sex is not an enemy of people.
if you are not an athlete my friend its pointless to talk about an athlete's diet. you have to go through the turbulations to understand. you want me to speak to them about love and humanity. how can they perfect themselves in love when they can't practice humility, patience, gratitude, seeing bodies and personalities as sacred temples. how lukewarm and half assed my message would be if i pretended this is not a part of true spirituality?
Dont complicate it. Doesn't have to be about spirituality. They are teens, they just need directions to live and learn for themselves. Sex should be embraced.
What a load of nonsense - this is so far from the truth it's unknown where the hell to start with it.
Firstly I would guess would be to address how religion has fucked up your view of humans and sexuality. I pity you.
pitty me i'm in dire need of your prayers. you are right i have a distorted view. but also lead a distorted ilfe before Christ. before i found this new life i couldnt realise my wrongdoing.. .
The entire narrative is nonsense. It's demanding self punishment for an imagined crime that does no harm to anyone. Do yourself a favour, make yourself beholden to YOU. Not to any idol who does not deserve it.
I haven't even read the comments but I am sure MOST GUYS AND GIRLS don't approve of this take. The answer is simple. They have been sexual active outside marriage. Lol Why would they applaude you? They defend their own lifestyle.
Sex has a lot of health benefits. Holding off until you find "the one" and marry them can cause your body physical and mental damage.
Some people don't have sexual chemistry together. You could marry someone and then find out you don't have anything in bed and like different styles.
Better to just not attempt this abstinence from premarital sex crap and find someone you actually match with.
"Well don't take my word for it. Try it on your own."
Been at it for years. Do not exhibit any of the symptoms described. Your analysis is incorrect :<
so you want to tell me you practiced carnal sins and could concentrate on prayer? when you do these things you even feel a natural AVERSION for prayer, and your mind is all over the place. been there, done that. i can't believe you.
As someone who refuses to ever get married. I'd be very depressed dying a virgin, I deserve some dick in my life too
well you dont have to feel entitled about anything. but since you feel the need you are welcome to do it. but remember your fellow humans as well. you can be a great person at the same time right ;-) ?
You don't you wanna get married?
@singlebee I don't believe in getting the government involved in my relationships
"I deserve some dick in my life too" 😂😂😂 you should get a medal or something
Ohh okkk yeaa that's right
I had premarital sex. I have a 4 day old son and I'm not married.
Ehem
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I would flame you like hell (sorry people) but consider yourself lucky as im bored af and just woke up.