So, We've all heard it. A Girl whining and complaining that apparently, ''All Guys ever seem to care about is sex''.
Well, Let me stop you dead in your tracks sweetheart and tell you why it is that, Is simply, Not true.
You see, I think its important to say, That yes, Sex is important in relationships, Its a perfectly normal and healthy thing to happen that all humans at some point will naturally desire, Its inevitable, Its what makes us human. There is nothing to be ashamed of about it. So why have girls seemed to have developed this apparent 'Fact' That its all men think about it? Well, here's why.
Now, It is accepted in modern society, That generally (Not always), 'Prettier' People, Do get it easier when it comes to relationships, Thats not surprising, Thats just how humans are programmed when it comes to attraction, Looks are very important, Though they are not everything, they are a large part in attraction.
And sometimes, With Great looks comes great Vanity. Not always, But quite often. You see, a lot of Handsome guys will take advantage of their appearance, They are Alpha Males, Dominant guys among men. This is nothing new, Its always been like this. Its the same as how in High schools, The ''Jocks'' Were always at the top of every girls Want list. That dosent make girls Shallow or Mean, It just makes them Human.
The Problem is, As I've said, a lot of Handsome guys know this and abuse this. They will use it to sleep with women and take advantage of them for sex. Again, Nothing new.
Now, The problem comes, With, Because these guys, Are Handsome, And often considered the Pinacle of male Attractiveness within society by females, They are basically always the most desired by women, Which is understandable, This means, They date the most women, And with these women, Then have the most sex (Obviously). And they are basically only in it for the sex (Usually) and usualy dont care about long term relationships (See where this is going?)
So, When you think about it, The reason so many girls think all guys think of nothing but sex, Its because the guys they are physically attracted to, And or have slept with, Have been guys who are like that, And the girls fail to realise that they are only like that because they are attractive, and completely overlook the ''Less attractive '' guys who aren't like that as they have never experienced the uglier guys because, Well, Why would they want to ? theyre uglier. This is where the ''Nice guys finish last'' phrase comes from, Because generally, Uglier guys try to compensate with Personality, But if you dont have the looks to go with said personality, The Personality is fairly uselss. The same thing is exactly the same for females, This isn't just a guy thing, Generally, Less attractive girls feel this way too. But, It is usally projected with more hate from girls to guys then it is the other way around, This is why, As I've said, The ''Nice guys finish last'' phrase has been so universaly and famously coined. And why guys feel as though they have been ''Friendzoned'' for more physically attractive guys despite the fact of their ''Lesser Personality''
(^ This picture is all to true of a reality for so many guys, Its basically just a girls way of saying ''Youre the kind of personality i want, But your not hot enough''. Which pisses a lot of dudes off, The reason why its more famous with Girls to guys then the other way round, Is because girls are so much more upfront and honest about it then guys, Whereas guys will often take any girls they can)
So, I guess the morale of the story is, No, Guys dont only care about sex, The typical hot guy douchebags that you are attracted to only care about sex (It works both ways, Girls throw a tantrum all the time about how ''slutty pretty'' girls have sex all the time, Its because they are more physically attracive, so its easier for them to be slutty, its the same for guys)
And it always makes me laugh, Because most of the time, The people who complain about this type of stuff, Are the type of people who only care about sex, and then get annoyed when they found out someone else used THEM for sex and not the other way around.
If you want a guy who DOSENT only care about sex, there are 2 ways you can do it, you can either keep dating your typical hot guys until you slewed through enough douchebags and finally hit lucky and found a genuinly nice + hot guy, or you can lower your physical expectations (Which i doubt anyone is willing to do because thats not the society we live in)
So yeah, Girls, when i wake up in the morning, and go to work, and come home, and go to sleep, i can honestly say i spend about less than 0.1% of my day thinking about sex, maybe thats just me, but im not fussed about it. There are farrrrr more important things in far more numerous numbers that i think about that getting in someones skirt. So please stop with the arrogant nonsense of labelling all guys as sex abusing douchebags, because we are not ALL like that. just the same as not ALL girls are sluts.
Thank you for reading.
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