Sexual Relationships 
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This is my fist ever "myTake" - which I'm posting because I am so SICK of seeing so many questions posted here on GaG about whether a girl is a "slut" for doing this or wearing that, etc.
For the record, I am NOT a feminist. But I AM a virgin. And I do NOT dress showing a lot of skin. I don't have cleavage, and I wouldn't flash it around it I did (I dont think) ;)
To me - although it has nothing to do with race or religion, this word is like the new "N" word in our society (please don't flame me for this anaolgy, I'm only try to relay a personal point/opinion), or calling a gay person one of the commonly thrown about slurs because of thier sexual preference. It's not only insensitive, it's disgusting, and just plain wrong to call other people some dispicable name just because you judge them with your own self-righteuosness, racism, or bigotry.
The below is laregly pulled from an article I read on the subject, with adds and deletes by me. I think it gets the point across quite well. Dissenting opinions are welcome, but please make them thoughtful, with some reason behind them, not simple blind ignorance, disagreement, or sarcasm. If you are a name caller or mysogynist, you will be reported and/or blocked.
How would you describe that low-cut, tight dress you just bought for your best friend’s party? Would you call it sexy? daring? fun? Or would you use a more negative term like “slutty?”
And that fun one-night stand your neighbor had last weekend – would you describe her actions as adventurous, or “skanky?”
The word slut is a common slur in our modern day vernacular. No doubt, it still carries weight if said with malicious intent.
But in recent years, the word has become deeply ingrained into our culture to the point where people say it too easily and too casually.
As innocuous as using pejorative terms may seem when used in reference to clothing or the activities of others, they undoubtedly still imply negativity surrounding female sexuality.
And using them just validates the societal standard of a perfect, virginal-until-marriage, demure woman as an ideal.
I’ve often asked myself “What can we do about this nasty, negative word choice that is so standard in our culture?” Maybe learning more about the word itself – and more empowering words we can use instead – is a good start.
What Are We Really Saying?
Many women have been called a slut at some point in their lives — or have thrown the epithet at someone else. But what does it really mean?
The word “slut” originates in Old English, meaning a “messy, dirty, or untidy” woman or girl. Because of this, it was frequently used as a term for kitchen maids and servant girls. By the 15th century, the word took on the meaning of a “promiscuous woman” as well.
Think about it: Have you ever called someone a slut, whether in jest or seriously? What did it mean to you? And what do you think it meant to the person it was directed toward?
Slut-Shaming: Are You Guilty, Too?
To slut-shame means to “degrade or mock a woman because she enjoys having sex, has sex a lot, or may even just be rumored to participate in sexual activity.”
Most of us, whether we realize it or not, have judged or degraded someone (usually a woman) for being sexual, having one or more sexual partners, acknowledging sexual feelings, and/or acting on sexual feelings outside of marriage.
It happens all the time. That young celebrity who wears something more daring than her usual attire is automatically described in terms of “her slutty side.” We see a beautiful woman who is wearing heavy makeup and comment on how she is lovely, but she looks like a stripper. We condemn our sexual thoughts as slutty instead of explorative.
As a culture, we are quick to use words that paint female sexuality as disgraceful – even if we don’t realize that we are doing it.
Think: Have you ever called yourself (or someone else) a slut when your true feelings weren’t ones of disgust or disapproval?
Did you even consider using an alternative word? Or was slut the first thing – almost the natural thing – that came to mind?
And more importantly, what consequences do your words really have?
Slut-Shaming Can Have Serious Repercussions
For some young women, the stigma of “slut” is so hurtful that it leaves their lives in ruins.
Take Rehtaeh Parsons, of Canada, who was allegedly raped by four boys who distributed photos of the attack online. She was afterwards bullied and slut-shamed mercilessly by her peers to the point where she decided to take her own life at 17 years of age.
Her mother told Canadian news source CBC, “She was never left alone. She had to leave the community. Her friends turned against her. People harassed her. Boys she didn’t know started texting her and Facebooking her, asking her to have sex with them. It just never stopped. People texted her all the time, saying ‘Will you have sex with me?’ Girls texting, saying, ‘You're such a slut.’”
This story is a modern tragedy, fueled by cyber-bullying and slut-shaming. The girls and boys who taunted Rehtaeh so cruelly probably had no idea how deep their words cut until it was too late.
Why did so many of her peers turn on her? Why did other girls – some of whom conceivably had endured similar experiences (because hell, they live in this messed-up society, too) – call her a slut and disown her as a friend?
While the blame for the crime rests on the shoulders of the alleged rapists, it is possible that if Rehtaeh hadn’t been labeled a “slut” and endured the cruel bullying that she did, she might be alive today.
Tragically, this type of cyber-slut-shaming is not uncommon among the younger generations.
Imagine how it would feel to be that teenage girl who everyone is whispering about in the halls. To have hurtful names like “slut,” “whore,” and “skank” assigned to you by people who barely know you. To be judged harshly and without caution for engaging in sexual activity, as most curious teens do.
These young women were intensely slut-shamed, and had their very traumatic experiences invalidated by judgment from their peers. Their very worth was brought into question because people chose to side with the rapists instead of the victims.
Slut-shaming is rape culture, plain and simple. And for some people, it is utterly life-destroying.
Slut-Shaming Doesn’t End Just Because We Grow Up
Whether in the dating world, the professional arena, education, or in friendships, adult females are not immune to slut-shaming either.
Women are not only the favored targets of slut-shaming, but very often the perpetrators as well. Due to generations of internalized sexism, women often reject their sexually promiscuous peers as worthy companions or friends – even as adults.
A Cornell University study puts this theory to the test, revealing that college-aged women are much less likely to form deep friendships with promiscuous women.
When most of us have spent our childhoods being taught that gaining male validation is the route to power, and even happiness, it is not surprising that many women will view their sexually explorative peers as threats. This may cause women to lash out against other women in an attempt to rise above the competition.
- Is any of this fair? No.
- Is it valid? Hell no.
- Does it hurt women of all races, ages, and sexual orientations? Yes.
Internalized sexism is a disease, and by carelessly throwing around sexist, hurtful epithets like “slut” and “skank,” we all act as the carriers.
Sluts Versus Studs
The double standard remains: Why is it that a girl who has sex is a whore/slut, but a boy who has sex is a stud/player?
In movies, on television, in magazines, and in our communities, people throw around the term “slut” willy-nilly when talking about women. But men are held to a very different standard.
As a society, what are we teaching our children? that a girl or woman is a dirty, unclean, and unworthy because she has sexual desire? that because she is female, she should save herself for marriage or she is a whore? that women should ignore or otherwise not act upon sexual desires even though men should and do?
Why do we accept sexual exploration from our sons but not our daughters?
- It’s simple: The word slut is a decidedly female insult, and using it enhances gender discrimination.
Dumping the Word Itself
We may not be able to change the way that others talk to each other right away, but we can start by presenting an example with our own behavior.
**This is why I encourage everyone to eliminate the word slut from their vocabulary**.
(even if you're thinking it, how hard is it just to NOT say it?)
I have spent the last few years working on this: if I catch myself about to describe myself, one if my choices, or even my outfit, as slutty or skanky, I make a concerted effort to replace that language with something more empowering.
For example: The other night, my friends and I were talking about one of our favorite TV shows and discussing how the characters have changed over the seasons.
One of my friends mentioned a female character who started out as a virgin, and has embraced her sexual side throughout the show by having various partners and experiences. Unsurprisingly, my friend simply said: “She’s gotten really slutty.”
I refuse to accept that ideology, even in casual conversation. There are so many sex-positive alternatives that we can use.
- She was exploring her newfound sexual desire.
- She was experimenting with what she likes and doesn’t like.
- She was taking a defined step into adulthood.
- She was opening herself up to new possibilities.
- She was – simply – trying something new.
I stand by my next statement: No harm can come from being more sex-positive and less chauvinistic in our speech patterns. I dare each and every one of you to give it a try.
Next time you want to call a girl a slut, rethink your choice and start chipping away at the double standard by using positive descriptive language.
Try to remember that everyone has a personal choice. While you may not lead a similar life to someone else, it is unfair and unjust to ascribe your values to their character.
And moreover, it sets a terrible example for future generations.
Some women wear sexy dresses and choose to have multiple partners. Others wait until marriage and dress demurely. And some are in the middle.
That doesn’t mean that Group A are sluts, Group B are prudes, and Group C have hit the perfect moral high ground. All choices are both fabulous and individual.
***** Let’s take the word slut out of our vocabulary *****
What Girls & Guys Said
29 96I don't see anything outrageous about a WORD, you can't stop people from using it, and in the case of it being banned it will just be replaced by another one. This is a clear problem of first-world-problem, sometime first world feminists LOVE to call out.
Using that rape case is an intellectually dishonest move to make people agree with that. Because it isn't directly related to the use of that word, neither is the mentality of such people.
As other people said, the problem isn't that women are called out for being promiscuous, but the fact that men aren't, and that is something you, as women, have to do, because you are the ones picking men and you as a whole decide how men should be in order to have a chance with you.
There are many reasons to not have sex with heavily promiscuous people, and it is totally fine calling them out about it, but again, that's an issue women have to handle.
And a little reminder, many aspects of our social behavior derives from our own nature, even when I don't think that "sticking to our nature" isn't the way to go in most cases to achieve progress, you NEED to understand it, in order to evolve. Banning video games won't stop mass shootings, banning porn won't stop people from masturbating or having a paraphilia, neither a christian camp full of gay teenagers will turn your homosexual son into a lumberjack.
It doesn't matter at the end if you are "asking" it, because the goal is the same: to remove something, pretending such thing will fix the issue, it won't, and in most cases, the thing people wants to get rid off in order to fix a social problem is just a deflection, a scapegoat for the actual issue.
I hear you... but I think the real "issue" is people feeling compelled to be mean and rude to one another. Yeah. .. I'm a grown up... Yeah they're just words... But how hard is it to just be nice to other people and treat others as you would like to be treated? When did we start teaching children that it's proper behavior to call other people names?
Just curious if this would apply to "player" too? While I only been called player once in my life, I did find it offensive, cause so far from how I am as a person, but naturally the word "slut" is offensive the same way for women when they get labeled for something they dosent feel fit them at all. On the other hand I never called anyone a slut, think is just silly an stupid.
Also, pretty damn sad about that Canadian girl, jeez. Dont understand how either of those people could live with themselves that bullied that girl to a point that eventually lead to suicide, like being raped wasent bad enough. Man, messed up world.
I feel like if you sleep around with any and everyone then you're a slut. That goes for men as well. I'm disgusted by guys who put their penis in any and every hole and same for girls who lets any and every guy screw them. Men and women alike, they're all whores to me. That's just my opinion though.
I don't feel like people should be labeled a slut or whore by the way they dress though. Just cause a woman dresses sexy doesn't mean she's easy or sleeps around. I don't think that guys who are always shirtless do it to show off their bodies. Some do it to show off their muscles but not all lol.
No, we don't remove words from our vocabulary just because some people find them offensive or they're hurtful words, we have freedom of speech in this country (for now at least) and I intend to take advantage of it.
You said something about using words so often the words get said too easily or casually, well the word "fuck" is almost used as vocabulary in the English language. How many times have you heard someone say "fucken um..." trying to remember something? This is despite it being considered the worse swear word out there.
And yes, I have called women sluts, but the circumstances were not offensive (at least not to them at the time). That doesn't mean I give up my right to call a girl a slut if I so choose.
Ok... I'm thinking of you were gay your wouldn't think it was someone's "right" to call you a f*ggot. See I'm all for our First Ammendment too... but it doesn't include the right to say anything and everything you want... anywhere and anytime you choose. Please tell me that you know this.
Uh, yes it does, I can say whatever I want whenever I want to whomever I want. Don't mistake that for saying something not potentially having consequences, threatening someone's life for example. But yes, I can call gay people faggots all I want, the whole point of freedom of speech is to be able to say something offensive. If I want to say Barrack Obama is a spinless coward who borderlines on committing treason given his terrorist sympathies, I can, even though I'm sure he would find it quite offensive.
Partly true... yet you can't say "bomb" on an airplane. Or go up to a 5 year old at a bus stop and call them a piece of shit. Right? And while I agree with you about Barry O... I notice you didn't use the N word to describe him. Why not? But yes... you do have the right to be a closed minded, name calling, slur slinging biggot I'm our society.
Yes you can, though doing so could have some nasty drawbacks. I simply didn't feel like it, why? You want me to call him a nigger? I'd like to know how far down the rabbit hole this political correctness goes...
Do you actually use that word? You can't be mentally developed enough to choose to eliminate slurs from your vocabulary?
Wait... did you just say "yes you can" to saying bomb on an airplane? Well yeah... I guess you "can" murder someone too... so your argument has literally become baseless. Thanks for playing. Adios.
I agree with you. In fact, I think we should refrain from judging people unless their actions are having a direct impact on us.
A girl having sex with many men does not impact me.
A person eating too much does not impact me unless we're lost at sea and that person is eating more than his ration.
Two men having sex does not impact me either. In fact, I encourage it. More women for me...
If someone takes a shit in my water well, I am concerned. If someone takes a shit in his own well, it's his problem. What purpose is there for me to point my finger at him?
Yeah, I don't like the word slut, Its a pretty derogatory term to describe whores :/.
Were still cool to use ''Whores'' right?
What a mature thing to say. That girl that died is your age. Grow up kid.
Get over it and own it. It's not what you do, it's how you do it. The word "slut" isn't the issue, it's just you being too sensitive. A guy who used to be my friend call me a whore all because I hung out with two other guys and not his ugly ass. Yeah it pissed me off but I know what I am and people don't know shit about me.
Same thing with being called "retard" or "nigger" or "dumb ass". You're pretty much telling me to adjust myself so YOU can be comfortable with yourself. I was like this too but difference was, I had low self-esteem. Don't worry about my or anyone else's opinion about you because you know who and what you are.
While I think you kind of went around my larger point, I do understand what you're saying and I appreciate you putting reason and thought behind it. Thanks. I know it won't happen. But it could if we wanted it to. The N word is still a word, but I almost never hear it anywhere anymore. And that's a good thing.
Well how you say things may sound different in someone else's ears, like how some of us misunderstood your point but what I mean is, we all have a word that people want to use against us because of their insecurities. The whole thing about that poor girl committing suicide is something I don't condone on a side note so I didn't mean get over it with her. Look at it like this: Don't look at being called a slut as a problem, look at it as a challenge, Amber Rose sure did (love her btw) <3
Getting rid of this word would encourage promiscuous behavior to flourish. While I don't think women should stay virginal forever and not have fun at all, I also don't support women parading their bodies around and lowering their own values down to just their bodies.
I won't stop slut shaming when I see a girl dressing like a street prostitute or a stripper. They need to be shamed when they're doing something stupid like that. Otherwise my future daughter might see it and want to be like that too and god forbids I let her wear really provocative clothing.
People will treat you as what you portray yourself. Why should I treat you with respect as a human being when you portray yourself as a sex doll and nothing else?
The problem here is, why don't we also slut shame assholes who fuck around too? I call them man-whores. It's only fair that I call them that instead of stud.
Eliminating the word is stupid. Eliminating the connotation is what's important. i think being a slut is a good thing. it means i'm more likely to have sex. I'm all for that. If women didn't treat it like such a bad, negative thing, then it wouldn't be. Slut is a synonym of stud but for women. Not a big deal, its just morons assuming a word is bad.
When directing a word at someone as an insult or slur... effectively... it is "bad" at that point. This particular word is almost always used in that fashion and almost exclusively towards women.
yeah but I don't assume its bad or an insult. Its like the word stud. You could tell a guy he's a stud as an attempted insult but it wouldn't work because people assume stud is a good thing. I just don't assume slut is a bad thing.
banning any word is a terrible fascist idea.
Exactly why I did NOT (and never would) suggest banning anything. Thanks for reading carefully. 👍
I don't have time to read drivel.
If you're too lazy to read then use enough common sense to know that commenting on something that you haven't read leaves you open to look ridiculous or trollish. You ASSumed something that you never read. And of is you ASSume something to be drivel, then why bother to comment? And fyi... I'm going to go ahead and bloc you. Not because you disagree with MyTake, but because you're merely here to be insulting. A person who refuses to read the facts cannot debate them.
That's like telling a someone if you don't want to be a n****r, stop being black. It's a derogatory term. And jerk or liar, doesn't fall under the same stigma as being called a slut, so you're taking the term out of context. The term is used to shame and judge a sex for having multiple partners, having sex casually, or wearing clothing that is perceived as revealing. Historically speaking, this term was created to be used against women. So yeah guys can fall under the category of the derogatory term. But the root of it was used to put down women.
If anything people who are threatened or culturally conditioned to see not see the bigger picture, feel the need to use the term. The term serves no value and objectifies in an unruly manner. So if you feel the word shouldn't lose its value or place, then you're logic and reasoning in so many words is asinine
You're right in some points. What happenned with the Canadian girl is bullying, and this kind of action starts from a lot of factors, not only slut-shaming. I have suffered from it and never really gave a damn about what people said by the time, but I know there are some people that are by far more affected by this things than others.
But I need to say that, if there is something I hate, it's utopia. And the Take is full of it. We all know a lot of people will continue to offend and bully others for a shitload of reasons, and those who will stop saying "slut" already think that shaming people is wrong. Real punishing for those who commit bullying (of any type) and condemning this kind of conduct since primary school is far more effective then stop saying a word.
Oh, one more thing: judging isn't wrong, we all do it with lots of people every single day, for lots of reasons and usually without even realizing that we're doing it. Shaming? That one is wrong.
Basically, thinking "Damn, think guy stinks!" isn't wrong, but yelling "Go home and take a bath!" is damn rude. People can have their opinions, about everything. They just can't force their opinion on you or offend you because they disapprove your looks or behavior. I just felt the need to say that because, usually, this kind of MyTakes are full of people that see "Judging" and "Shaming" as the same thing.
Thanks for being thoughtful. I see the difference between "judging" and "shaming" is that it's very simple to keep your judgements silent. That's between you and your own conscience. Shaming is when it escapes from your mind to your mouth (or your keyboard, etc). That... and again... I despise the labeling of human beings. I understand your point about Utopia, it cannot happen with 100% effectiveness. But we can start with each of us eliminating SLURS from our own personal vocabulary... be they racial, religious, etc.
Yes, I see. I just think that we should be more harsh with this kind of behavior. I understand your point about stop saying this words, I just wanted to say that we need a little bit of severity to stop the shaming problem, no matter the reason. People should be free to do what they want, whether it is banging lots of guys/girls, waiting for marriage or even not wanting to date a guy/girl that have sex with lots of people. But shaming someone for their choices is ridiculous.
this is a very good mytake, i agree completely. I never really use 'slut' anyways but thank you for putting this information out there for those who do use it, and frequently. Very well written.
Thanks. I don't even mind people disagreeing. I just was hoping people would read and THINK first before they jump on the slut shame train. Oh well.
We should also eliminate the word creep. I hear guys get called that a lot. by the way, if your not a slut, why get offended. If someone calls you stupid, you shouldn't get butthurt if it's not true. If you get mad, you acknowledge that you are in fact what they call you. Just shake it off and keep moving along in life.
You should think before you use slut but in return of that don't give people reasons to call you a slut.
Oh, you don't like the word slut? Allow me to eliminate it from the dictionary for you! While we are at it, we may as well get rid of every other derogatory term. Lets get rid of "jerk", and "idiot", and "lame", and "liar", etc. etc.
No, that's not gonna happen. We have words for a reason: so that we can describe things, and communicate them. We need derogatory words just as much as we need positive words. Instead of erasing words you don't like from the dictionary, how about this:
If you don't wanna be described as a "jerk", don't be one. If you don't wanna be described as an "idiot", don't be one. Likewise, if you don't wanna be described as a "slut", don't be one.
Problem solved.
No one is suggesting eliminating words form th e dictionary. If you have to use slurs to describe people, then you're either extremely inarticulate, or just lazy. How hard is it to just ATTEMPT to be a nice person? No... I don't live in LA LA land... but just simply TRYING to use the Golden Rule isn't impossible. .. many people are just to self absorbed to be willing. ...
You're preaching totalitarianism, and playing semantics. No doubt, you're one of Obama's fine educational offspring. Let's not take the word slut out of our vocabulary. You're asking for the abolishment of responsibility. Slut around? If you do the crime, you're gonna do the time. Simple. However, as I am not as contradictory as liberal Obama offspring, I respect your right to be disgusted by the word, but it's also my right to call people who deserve to be called slut.
You're way way off bro. Way off. I think Obama/Hillary suck. Check your reading comprehension. Choosing to not use a word (eliminate from your vocabulary) is quite different than a call to ban free speech.
Eliminate is a synonym of abolish, @CheerGirl38139 You obviously don't know your English as you're playing semantics. If you think they suck, then why are you preaching their education like a sheepling?
Dude... congrats on your use of a thesaurus. However, VOCABULARY is a personal inventory of words. I'm simply trying to advocate that people should CHOOSE to not use th at word. I. e. "eliminate" it from YOUR vocabulary. Now it's actually YOU that wants to argue based on semantics, not me. I know what I wrote, and I know what I meant. I'm sorry if you can't comprehend it.
"Dude... congrats on your use of a thesaurus." Flattery will get you everywhere.
Often times people use words they don't understand including: slut, the n-word, and skank. The definitions are as follows:
Slut: a : a promiscuous woman; especially : prostitute
b : a saucy girl : minx
Skank: slang : a person and especially a woman of low or sleazy character
N-Word:
: usually offensive; see usage paragraph below : a black person
: usually offensive; see usage paragraph below : a member of any dark-skinned race
: a member of a socially disadvantaged class of persons
Considering homosexuality, being a slut, and being a race as the same is a false equivalency because a race is involuntary while homosexual behavior and promiscuity is a choice. Disagreeing with someone's choices does not make them a bigot. It means they don't share the same values.
Also equated male and female promiscuity is another false equivalency because the difficulty, risk, and results are not the same for males and females. It's typically much easier for females to find sex but they have a lot more risk associated with the act including but not limited to: higher risk of receiving an STD, the risk of pregnancy, higher risk of rape, etc.
There are probably many reasons why sluts are shamed. But probably the most significant is that if a woman sleeps around and has a kid she will probably not know who the father is and he won't know it's his to help take care of. That is why marriage is important and that is the function of sex to begin with.
Sluts aren't going anywhere. They have been around essentially for all of human history because they serve a function. Guys want to get laid. Eventually (typically) they tend to marry women that aren't sluts. The purpose of slut shaming is to discourage the rest of women from becoming sluts as well.
tl;dr don't be a slut unless you're okay with being used and discarded afterward
You're not quite wrong I suppose... but you are missing the main points of the take to begin with. Often this word (and others) are directed at people out of pure hate or just plain meanness for no reason other that someone's opinion. And while it's easy to say "well who cares what people say about you"... try convincing a teenage girl to adopt that philosophy. All but impossible for most of them. Hate speech should NOT BE banned or outlawed. .. it should die anot eventual death by our chaneeds in behavior to one another
* die an eventual death from our changes in behavior toward one another
I agree with most of your point. Hating people is not okay. But disapproving of behavior is a part of how we grow, especially when it is self-disapproval.
Just a small point here - homosexuality is not a choice, it us as much who you are as race and should not be equated with promiscuity which is a choice.
@Wizbit To act on the sexual behavior tho... IS a choice... just like "promiscuity" is an acting out of that person's sexual orientation. But... your points having been made... is it your intention to spend the next few hours nit picking apart this Take from a week ago? Just curious.
This is the first time I have read this take and I responded to points made in comments as I read them. I sincerely apologise for taking the time to read and react to your post and subsequent feedback in this instance my comment was directed at the comment maker not you, however as you've chosen to defend the point I will say that being homosexual is who a person is. Choosing not to act on it is denial of your own self. As this is your opinion it is clear why you are so offended by use of a word. Is slut-shaming worse than homophobia?
@Wizbit not quite. Homosexual behavior, like all behavior, is a choice. Homosexual attraction is not genetic. It is influenced by genes and environmental factors. Race on the other hand is genetic and is inborn.
https://www.apa.org/topics/lgbt/orientation.aspx
"Choosing not to act on it is denial of your own self."
People can be predisposed to addictions and other types of mental disorders by nature. That does not mean they should not seek treatment. Nature is full of little glitches, cancer being a prime example. Medical science is about curing illness.
So send all the gays for electric shock therapy until they're cured? There is too much homophobia and homoignorance in the world that people like you are trying to perpetuate. Well done on taking the time to supply a link to a website. The internet is so cast you can find a website to support any view these days. May I suggest talking to a homosexual about why they "chose" to be attracted to the same sex, disowned by friends and family, victimised, ostracised and made a victim of hate crime by narrow minded people like yourself? Maybe set up a poll on here and find out how many homosexuals chose their lifestyle. Your homo-predudice is far worse than use of a word like slut. I choose to accept people as they are when they have no choice in the matter - this includes LBGT people. I choose zero-tolerance for those who choose to be judgmental and narrow minded. Step away from your cherry-picked websites and talk to some real people about the lifestyles they chose to suffer.
@Wizbit treatment for homosexuality would most likely require more than electroshock therapy alone. It would also likely need to be voluntary to be truly effective. The information provided is factual and explains, essentially, that there is no gay gene. It is not inborn. Homosexual desire is influenced by environmental and genetic factors and may feel involuntary. Whereas acting on that desire (homosexual behavior) is the result of choice. Other involuntary impulses include: phobias, manias and other assorted abnormalities. Just because someone is more inclined to be a thief, sex addict or alcoholic does not necessarily mean they should resign themselves to their fate. Being familiar with homosexuals on a personal level would not change the arguments provided. They are based in biological and evolutionary science. If homosexuals act on their desire and partake in homosexual intercourse and romance then they have self-evidentally made a choice.
@Wizbit The source provided is not cherrypicked. It is directly from the American Psychological Association. Given that all sides have been considered this argument would not be narrow-minded. It is also not about judgement but rather accurate information. It is based in fact so it would not be ignorant either with respect to knowledge. If a person is interested in the truth rather than accepting emotional impulse it would be prudent to seek it. Finally, it's possible that homosexual activity could be detrimental to the individual and society as a whole. This would potentially warrant disapproval, further study is needed.
A woman with a satisfying, varied, rich sex life is not a slut. If her sex life happens with men/women that are single. That's where people go wrong with the term 'slut'. Sure, everyone has a personal choice. If that personal choice hurts others, it stops being freakin `fabulous`. If your sex life ruins someone else's LIFE, and the general balance of society, then yeah you should assume the consequences of being called what you are. And before everyone rushes to conclusions, sure I think there are 2 parties in every such decision, not just one. But this post is about the sluts, after all.
"That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet." - Shakespeare
Translation: No matter what you call it, a slut is a slut. And she'll always smell like one. So regardless of whether you take the word out there will always be another to describe it. Now, what is a slut?
A slut is whatever I want it to be. A slut is whatever you want it to be. But it's your interpretation of the word that makes you mad. If your best friend called you up right now and said "you slut! shut up, omg!" you'd probably laugh it off. But if I was to answer this mytake with the exact same phrase "you slut! shut up, omg", you're automatically in defence mode. Because your interpretation of the word is what causes you to take offence. And interpretation is not something you can take out of the vocabulary.
I get your premise but in my case you're wrong. I know people that think that it's funny to say shit like that... or the N word... white people that is... and I never find either funny. That said... I'm often the first girl in a group to make a twss joke... so yes I do have a sense of humor. I just don't find offensive slurs humorous. Ever.