Why won't guys let us guide their thrusts?

Question

Every guy I've been with does this and I see it in porn, when I try to guide his thrusts by reaching back and putting my hand on his hips or belly he always moves my hand and holds it behind my back. Why do guys do this? It would be nice to be able to guide him especially when he makes me take it in my butt!

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

What you're experiencing is 'passive/aggressive' "ME Tarzan-YOU Jane" dominance~

I've searched my own Soul and suspect that our Puritanical hypocritical society's 'morality'
paradoxically rankles at the Victorian hypocrisy of chiding woman's 'slutty' allure and yet as the late Anton LaVey observed the same 'paragons-of-virtue singing in Sunday's church choir were those self-same Rakes who'd been propositioning and groping at the travelling Carnival's gypsy dancing girls... sanitized into today's Vegas showgirls and gentleman's club exotic dancers and feeling the guilt of their appetites. Many of whom the 1995 Psych Research at Kent State grow tumescent at erotic portrayals of early teen females.

Look to Deviantart. com's artist's daily submissions of buxom females heavily restrained!
"And now, me proud Beauty... YOU are at my mercies..." Your best retort is to turn the tables and bind him and 'edge' HIS response until he BEGS for his release.

AndyOh · Accepted Answer

Becasue these guys who you sleep with are on a testosterone high and want to thrust the best way they can. They are wanting to dominate you.

More mature guys will be happy to let you guide them and also any other fun things you
might want to do, just sayin'

Subarugirl · Accepted Answer

Since when have men ever been okay with asking for directions? But seriously no one should ever make you do something sexual you don't want to do.

ushagomez · Accepted Answer

I think it might be time to consider trading him in and get a better upgraded model

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

It’s a form of dominating.

DaveJord · Answer

Ahhhh... I do know why. Did you tell him you want guide it? He should allow that.

purplepoppy · Answer

Because some guys think they know our bodies better than we do

Bobsyoruncle · Answer

I never minded a woman doing that. And I can’t be the only guy who feels that way.

summiter · Answer

Tell him you want to guide. I think it is hot. I think they see that stuff in porn. Also when a guy jerks off he naturally thrusts.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

“Makes” you take it in the butt?

DonkeyDan · Answer

I don't have a problem with this especially when it comes to anal sex. Maybe you need to choose less selfish partners.

slatyb · Answer

No idea. When I divorced and started dating it seemed entirely obvious that I should respond to my partners cues, Women said I was the best they ever had, that most men pay no attention. Surprised the hell out of me.

Bricealan · Answer

Reach back, pull it OUT of your ass, turn around and tell him, "My way or the highway asshole"!

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

I think they like to take control and do it themselves

genericname85 · Answer

lol i don't understand that at all honestly! i love when girls do that.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I have noticed it true of their rhythm

Neosporin · Answer

I don't know exactly the situation cause I'm a virgin but I guess it's the feeling of control or whatever

Wise4myage · Answer

Try asking them?

kellytheman · Answer

I don't really put her hands behind her back but I think it's a dominant thing and they think they can thrust harder and deeper with your butt in the air and hands behind your back.