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Never fear the age of your forties. Yes all you girls and women out there, let me repeat, Never fear the age of your forties. This is what I have found to be true. When in my twenties I was a follower, and for the most part, was insecure. I have seen the posted questions here on GaG, guys wanting to know whey their partner is so needy/ clingy. Young women wanting to know how to stop being that way. Young women afraid that their guy will leave them. I believe one defines their identity in their twenties and into their thirties. Please don't ever dread hitting "my age". Some people ask me how I can write some of the opinions that I do. One Word: Experience. I have embraced getting older. I was scared to death of it in my thirties, but as you fall into it, something about us women, we tend to embrace it. Here is what it boils down to in my honest opinion: experience, hormones, renewed self confidence and, yes even extra-marital affairs. I cannot lie, it it not in my nature. My answer, and the answer from a majority of women my age and even older, EXPLORE your midlife sexuality and the hidden, unexpected joy to be found in it. That means many different things to different women.
You see at 46, I don't care what people think. I say things at 46 that I would have never dreamed of saying 15 years ago. It was only a year ago that I was thinking, I am just not who I used to be. I turned 46 and tweaked some things, and must admit I have had an avalanche of male attention come my way! And yes ladies, they are men of all ages. Some younger women ask: Why the confidence at that age? Truthfully, because I have been there, and done that. No joke. Sexually, spiritually, and emotionally, I have just about felt it, and/or done it all! I have taken risks. I have thrown caution to the wind, but I have lived, and I have loved beyond measure. Regrets? Sure, we wouldn't be human if we didn't have those. But looking back, you take the good with the bad, and you learn! As you learn, you grow!
There are things I want to explore even more, and there are some things, I may never do again, but I can say I DID IT!!! We women in our forties are full of pent up LUST and unexpressed emotions, and also of words unsaid. I cannot lie, I think of that "grown up" type sex that typically doesn't happen with a partner. We live in a society that puts all the spotlight on the YOUNG. I believe we also live in a culture that suggests older women think very little of sex. Why? Because that is the impression that used to be the norm. We are now in the "Time of the Cougar" Older women, getting those younger men. I mean not just sexual fantasy type "getting". Real relationships too. I believe our society has muddied the waters regarding the perception of what and who mid-life women really are. Here is what I can say from personal experience: We are full of desire. Medically,
Testosterone levels affect women as well. However, women create lower levels of testosterone and are more sensitive to androgens than men. Testosterone levels in women vary. According to the University of Rochester Medical Center, normal measurements range from 15 to 70 ng/dL.
A woman’s estrogen levels drop after she enters menopause. This makes her androgen levels comparatively higher.
(yes women produce the testosteron hormone too, we produce it from puberty)
At my age, your sex drive can be an incredibly powerful gift. Don't miss the boat. Embrace the gift of Middle Age!!!! That is my theory. We need to let go of outdated gender expectations, and just BE! I have learned that sex drive will fluctuate, so explore, play with it, but most importantly, practice honest sexual communication. At my age, you learn to voice what you want. You will tell what is pleasurable. You will not be afraid to ask a partner what it is they like most of all. I have learned not to get sexually frustrated either. We must explore constructive coping strategies. I am not afraid to treat myself to a new sex toy, or some new sexy lingerie. Not simply for "that man", but for myself.
I have promised to let sex serve my highest good. Sex can be just as much of a sacred spiritual act as it can be physical and emotional. Be mindful in the Present, I say!!! Enjoy today.
My advice comes from this quote: “Just because you’re grown up and then some doesn’t mean settling into the doldrums of predictability. Surprise people. Surprise yourself. (281)”
― Victoria Moran, Younger by the Day: 365 Ways to Rejuvenate Your Body and Revitalize Your Spirit
Best to you all, and just remember young girls and young ladies in GAG land: Embrace who you are at any age, enjoy each phase! Just don't be afraid of getting "my age". It is simply rejuvenating!
What Girls & Guys Said
19 49I would have to agree with this and 40-somethings know what they are doing, how to get it and make top scores in pleasure
Thank you, my thoughts...
You know who says things like "Life begins at 40" and "In middle age, I am better and sexier than ever!!"? 40 year olds. Lol.
You make some valid points. It's good to be reminded of the few advantages of aging since they tend to be overlooked. But I still prefer a dose of realism. Yes, some things are getting better but they are balanced out by other things getting worse. This is true for both genders. No one wants to see signs of aging (ie. reminders of death) staring back at them in the mirror. Aging sucks, just not quite as much as some people think.
I know my bones ache more-lmao but I still feel good about who I am. I am sure my outlook will again change in another 5 years, we go through so many cycles in life... but for now, I feel good, and confident, and I wanted young women to know that as we age, we mature, but there is nothing to be afraid of. I was surprised at how many males responded to this... lmao
Yeah, some guys like cougars, some don't. It all boils down to looks and sexual preference or fetishes.
Totally have to agree with you on that
meh I never did like 45+'s that much (even way back when I was <45 myself). Their tits and asses get saggy, their pussy dries out and loses it's internal wrinkles, while the rest of them gets 3x as many wrinkles. Sure, $200,000 can postpone that perhaps 15-20 years and make them look like the examples you posted, but most (99%+) are just plain ugly and can't afford that. I'd rather just save the cash and rent a 20-something from BP. Been my experience that life goes downhill after 30, and is practically over by 40 (that goes for both sexes) anyway.
It's more begin at 30 I think. In my country when guys hit 30 no women want them they prefer younger guys (between 20 and 30 is the better age) even if the women is older.
Also older women have a better style than younger one more elegant and chic.
whats your country im going there when im 30 :)
@AriadneSky It's France :)
ah of course. i did not notice one way or the other when i was there but i did not know enough french to speak to anyone except market people -bc they had to take my order. i literally went around buying one thing from 20 different places just to practice french... Well that and class but obviously no natives there. :)
@AriadneSky So you know a little bit of French?
yes, i'm fluent with 5 year olds ;) i was only there a month. im going to study this year and go back next summer. hopefully ill know enough to talk to adults by then :)
@AriadneSky That's cool :)
I'm 25 and wouldn't mind dating someone in their 40's. My friends and family might think it's weird, but I wouldn't care. I just want to find a girl who is mature and shares similar values to me.
I hear that a lot from men your age. It seems like guys from 25-32 or so just want to be understood. Not saying they truly want a relationship, I think they just don't understand women who are their age, and feel they can relate better to us older women for some reason?
@miamigirl1970 That could definitely be part of it. I don't feel like I can relate to any women my age except for a couple of my friends, but that's about it. And in terms of attraction, I think women are attractive from 20 to well into their 50's. (I have two female coworkers in their 50's and they aren't bad looking at all). But I'm not sure if I would date someone in their 50's. But 40's I would definitely consider. Most likely because they would have a better grasp on life, be more relate-able, and (in my opinion) have more self confidence and openness.
I love this. I just wish younger guys didn't only view older women as cougars to have a good time with. It would be awesome if real relationships with younger guys were not taboo.
Agree
As a guy in his 40s, much of what you say is true and awesome. But, the approach lacks on really critical flaw - selfishness. You mention how women explore their sexuality, and possibly through affairs. This self entitlement (similar to the millennial generation) is not healthy. So, if you're single and doing your thing, good for you. If not then it's a bad thing even if it's good for you. I would also argue, many promiscuous women are that way for validation. The attention, the sex, the whatever makes them feel pretty, desireable, and worthy. I don't see how that is different turning into a slut in middle age. And too many 40 somethings are sleeping with randoms all over town and thinking they are "cool"- supporting each other through group think, and making it ok to treat men like shit. Sorry, that's not a good thing. All of what you are sayin can be good, but the real life execution and justification often aren't. Just what I've seen out there as a single 43 year old...
I appreciate your honesty. I appreciate your opinion. I have to be honest already went through the validation phase. I know exactly what you are talking about. But at this point I am so comfortable and who I am and what I choose to do and not do and I do not do it at the expense of others. I am comfortable in my own skin and I am one of the most giving people on the planet I am not selfish what so ever. So for all of the other reasons you mentioned I understand where you're coming from as a single male but the only thing I can say is we all truly need to get to know people and not just the shell of a person before making any judgments on who or what or how they act. I was very surprised at the male reaction to this article. I simply wrote it to encourage young women to embrace themselves and not be afraid of getting older. Reading some of the comments men can be cruel and what they tend to forget is that their selves wrinkle age bulb and just every bit as bad as women and probably
The only difference is I don't have to worry about losing my money and my assets to have a man by my side the man has to worry about it when he tries to buy a woman with his wealth and power
Great, you went through the validation phase and have sex on your own terms, awesome. We really are on the same page with most of what you are saying... but consider the ripple effect. Just because you are doing it without it being at anyone else's expense, doesn't mean others won't read your story and want what you have, without taking others into consideration. I've been cheated on and cheated back, and both genders can claim lack of sex or lack of good sex could drive them to it. How many women will start exploring that sexuality you refer to because they can, and make sex more important than treating others with respect. It becomes "cooler" to have great sex than be a good mom or great wife. So, all I ask is to be conscious of glamorizing what you have found, and the influence hat carries with it. Nothing in your article mentions how you roll, and if I misconstrued any of it others can too. I've had the best sex of my life in my 40s as well, with younger and older women...
I know all about the cheating scenarios, I know about open sex in a marriage, and I have done things in the past both to hurt, and be hurt. However me "glamorizing" my feelings is simply saying to women, don't be afraid. So many women always say, I don't want to be old. How they take what I say, isn't up to me. Budweiser has awesome commercials, but if I choose to go buy a case and drink it all in one night, that is NOT the fault of Budweiser. We as human beings have minds for a reason. We should be able to take and decipher things on our own. How others take it, is not for me to control. I can control ME!!! I do however agree with you that "sexless marriage" is a typical comment we hear about when finding excuses to go cheat... or as to why we were cheated... that however is selfish, but some marriages on the other hand are either open about sex and having it elsewhere, or some are simply okay without it or lack of it... Personally you don't know my
my caring spirit. You don't know what I go through both personally and emotionally. I wrote this article to lift women. If for that you took it wrong, again I can't control that either!!!
I think there are plenty of women who are super sexual early on, especially these days, and much of what you say implies "young girls just don't know what they are missing yet"- as many girls have responded, the discovery you found now they found earlier in life. Yes, we all get wrinkles and lot bellies and age, but there are tons of guys staying inshaoe into their flurries too. Bottom line playing devils advocate here - your article focuses a lot on age and gender here. I would submit the self discovery you speak of can happen at any age. For any gender. Your message is striking the wrong nerve with me on many levels because of that. And when it comes to divorce... it's a mathematical equation. If you get married and make more money than them then he is just as entitled to half of it. My exwife is a divorce lawyer, so if you decide to stay single awesome. One of the best parts about older career women is they often pay their own way. So encourage all people to find what you have!
I do agree that both men and women alike deserve half when things go bad... Totally agree!!! I am sorry I did not encourage men to feel alive and sexy in their 40's!!! I think at that age, most actually do, but could be wrong. But I do appreciate your feelings, and believe me you can read some of my opinions and articles, I am far from biased against men. In fact, I am the first to tell people that men are misunderstood. Women take so much for granted, and most never fully appreciate what the men want or need. ( and I am not talking sexually here ) Men want to have someone listen just like a woman does. Men need respect. At the end of the day, I am sorry for striking your nerves, I tend to write on debatable topics, hence that is what probably got me Editor of the Month in November. I love debate. I love to agree to disagree which is what I will kindly do with you!!!
I just read an intro to an article@Paultripp. Can we agree that by in large, even though I might feel differently about myself, that by consensus below is how it really is? One woman, in her late forties, said, in a good natured way, “It’s a shame that by the time men really learn what they are doing in bed, their equipment doesn’t work like it used to.” “I understand how you feel,” I said, in an equally jovial tone, “By the time women start learning what they are doing in bed their looks start fading.”
Ironically women complaining about men's failing equipment... once you get viagra or the like in play most women can't keep up at all. They all think they want sex all night... until he can really go all night. Gobs of lube aside, younger women can handle this better in general in my experience. All of the academic empirical evidence shows there is more difference within gender than across gender. Men run off with younger women because they are more interested in sex. There are more wives denying sex than husbands, so this male sexual inferiority thing, I don't know girlfriend. I know lots of women in the 40s that have zero sex drive and have been that way since their kids. I completely agree with your statement women don't understand men needing and wanting respect. Too many wives beat on their husbands verbally, emotionally, mentally, and wonder why we don't bring flowers anymore. Why would I? You're a bitch to me and we don't have sex! And your partner statement is dead on...
I often ask girls I datenif they are looking for a prince or a partner? The worst answer? Both! Which means they want to be the princess and the queen. Can't be both. Have to choose! Or they don't know what they want. I know many women in their 40s that are giving up on relationships in general, and justgo with many casual friends if you will. They feel empowered being alone. Hopefully they don't regret it down the line if they wind up alone...
@Paultripp I think you just don't feel that you can be both the prince and partner, that's why you say women can't have it. My personal opinion is that a man can be both a prince and a partner, at any age, since age is mostly mental anyways. As for the ladies comments about guys not being able to keep up in their 40's, part of it has to do with use, like anything else, if you don't use it, you lose it.
@Paultripp, I would like to be able to message you, but since I can't I just want to thank you for challenging my own view point, and in a very positive debating way, you displayed your thoughts and message with out being obnoxious or over bearing. Thank you for that, truly! You actually made me think, and that is a good thing! lol. I wrote another article tonight, on a much broader topic ( as usually I do) I hope you can read it and maybe comments might spark less debate and more consensus? Regards, M
Women hit the wall age 30 to 35, depending upon how well they have looked after themselves.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CNLdLKTYNtwIn terms of their fertility, the party is over by the age of 40, unless they want to take the risk of giving birth to a child who has Downs syndrome.
I learned of the confidence, sex appeal and beauty of older women at a very young age and it's actually helped shape me as a man. I was 23 and she was 37, recently separated and suddenly "allowed" to go back to school. That's where we met. Even with all my sexcapades over my 30 years of relationships, my year and a half with her was the best sex I ever had. I got to see the future and what to look forward to with future relationships as I, and my mates got older. These kids with their ignorant comments here have obviously not experienced even a small percentage of what their future selves will encounter. I suspect as they do, their ignorance will wash off. So for now, I'll apologize for them and thank you for showing the younger girls the confidence and sexuality they can thrive in as they age.
Cheers.
Thank you so much for your opinion it means a lot to me. I wrote this article to show young women to continue to be strong both sexually and non-sexually. I had no idea the viciousness that men portray when it comes to older women. But I will continue to be strong and Advocate the fact that women middle age are full of experience and vigor. Thank you again for your take and your kindness
I'm not sure you can lump the comments of these fools into the catagory of "men". Boys maybe, but certainly not men. I'll also add, they're a lifetime away from being considered gentlemen.
I tend to agree. However, just the perception of even the "older men" makes me see most of them as young adolescents as well. Thank you for being a man. Your opinion is much respected.
Right you are!
How 'bout YOUR actual picture? :)
I've never found any woman that can keep up with a high-drive guy. It's simple biology.
But yeah, the ladies seem to come alive sexually at about 40 to 45. Especially if they can dump their ol' man. It's called 'post-wall'. And really, the men are just reaching their peak SMV at around 40, ladies much much earlier. Most guys forty can still snag ladies in their 20's and 30's if they're any good.
Most women are bored to tears with just one guy. Biologically they are wired for multiple partners to ensure the viability of their offspring. They will also dump one for a better one if they think they can get away with it without much harm to themselves - it's called HYPERGAMY
Actually guys peak around age 20 and women peak mid thirties.
What do u mean my actual picture? that is my picture, it is me. I don't put symbols or fake photos... sorry. I feel great fun and super lucky. Some say I look old, but I don't feel it. This is me, who I am, and have no fears or worries to prove it, as I have on this site met a few select people that now know me personally, and know this is me. Sorry if you think I am delusional, but I am NOT
I was referring to the photos in your post. Evidently you're referring to your avatar photo. Mmmmkay. The first one in your post, the brunette with caption 'I love being a cougar...' is simply outstanding. Are you simply guessing her age to be 46?
@TuMeManques Are talking about sexual drive or sexual market value - SMV? The former I would agree, the latter is as I have stated. Still, men tend to have a higher drive based simply on biology. We also know that women become bored over time with the same sexual mate and will either shut down sexually or find someone else.
Nope, my age is 46, but the women in the photos were between 40-60, don't know a particular age. And yes, MY AVATAR IS ME! :))
No. Women biologically hit their sex drive peak mid 30's but men peak early 20's. Sorry
@TuMeManques An expert reveals when women peak sexually. Is it true that women reach their sexual peak in their 30s? Answer: No, there isn’t a decade in a woman's life where she reaches her sexual peak. Dr. Alfred Kinsey book’s Sexual Behavior in the Human Female published in 1953 started this rumor. In the 1940s, Kinsey took the sex histories of more than 5,000 women and found that the majority hit their sexual stride during their mid-30s. As premarital sex was a no-no back then, by her mid-30s most women were been married with a few kids and therefore less sexually inhibited. Today, women have multiple partners before marriage and are a lot more sexually confident. Why sex can be great with each passing decade: • Women’s hormones function their best in her 20s and she is thus at her most fertile. • Women in their 30s have been around the sexual block a few times and have a better idea what works for her. • Women in their 40s stop producing as much oxytocin—our nurturing hormone.
It is believed that she isn’t as concerned with nurturing everyone else and is focused on her own needs. • Women who have gone through menopause find their bodies and hormones have gone through a complete change. Couples who make the effort to adjust bedroom tactics usually attest to having better sex. So whatever decade a woman is in, sex can be fun and fulfilling. Great Sex Tip The more a woman orgasms... the more she will desire sex. Therefore, it’s important for her own sexual satisfaction to make sure her needs are met.
Makes a lot of sense.
@TuMeManques If this mytake is about sex drives then yes womens peaks around mid 30s to 40s and mans in his 20s but by then women around 40 are ugly as FUUUUKK
@Mrwoo99 crap... I'm almost ugly as fu***** 😒
however studies show women get less happy with age.
Heeey Sacha Baron Cohen :)
@Mrwoo99 :P
What i find is that some will still play ms. pure and innocent after 40, and mentally stifle they sexual urges for they men but with a stranger be sexually adventurous ; ED doesn't always be the factor in this but variety. A no strings attached fling to curl your toes and to try things you never thought of doing in your teens/20's/30's.
So life will start next summer eh?
Not sure about you, but I think really life starts when we say it does!!!
I'm doing just fine as I am.
That's the Spirit!!
Some of the men are just mean!
I still have a lot to learn and one of my fears has always been getting older but you don't make it sound scary at all. In fact you sound happy and content and that's what matters.
Thank you for the kind words @LoloWaye, and yes I am happy with who I am, I don't let any man or woman make me feel one way or the other. I am too old to be filled with such discontent. I love who I am, embrace it, one way or the other and know fully who I am, where I have been, and the things I have been through, both the light and the dark. Don't let it scare you, for I promise, if you embrace it, it will be full of lessons learned, some heartache, and contentment. Take it as it comes, and never, ever, let someone else dictate to you your life. Best of Luck and thanks again!
I really advocate your take and you 100% right.
But it's so easy for you women to do this. All women need to do is go out and get it and you will get it. Many men at your age don't have this choice. In fact many men can never dictate their sex life and live this life you proclaim to grab. I've seen it with my own eyes. A woman just puts herself out there after being Held back and she can go from having a few partners to having more sex in 3 years than any male player has ever had in his existence.
That's why I believe in this Fonte same reason;
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a33502-why-i-love-the-concept-of-prostitution-sex-work
well @WalterRadio believes totally different than you do! Let me check out your link
Lol... men are so delusional and its this defense mechanism that keeps them content in their mediocrity. Firstly, I think is reply is a load of shit. Secondly if it is true, it's still fucking lame. Let me give you my story (I think I told you this before) Met a 42 yr old milf on adult friend finder. Mother of two and her husband left her for a younger woman. I went to her place and found out about her life story. Her husband and her were in a long marraige and he wanted a younger woman. He got his wish. But she laughed and said he was boring anyway. What did she do? She got me. A young guy with a 6 pack. Then we got threesomes, grp sex, swinger parties and she taught me how to make women squirt. She had over 100 requests on adult friend finder from young guys to older guys. Have your pic. Had my first mmf threesome with her and this other powerful man. Couldn't have done this without her. Then I got lucky with another woman...
... she is 43 and my bdsm mentor. We fucked and she had constant threesomes. She met a man now and she and her girlfriend fuck this guy on a regular basis. She wants somebody to fuck her in front of him (her to- be husband) on her wedding night. That's who she is. The irony of all this? Women still dictate the sex game at that age. They have anything and everything they want. That girls husband who went with the younger girl hads only had 2 woman while she has had loads of men. My bdsm mentor gets women and men all the time. And you want to know the punchline? Both the former husbands found out what they were doing once they left them and begged them back but they were way to happy to accept that mediocre shit. Yeah. Women are far more sexually superior in the 35 and up range. My young submissive held me back this year so I'm finding another older woman.
@scrambledagain Someday, before you die, please spend at least 5 seconds trying to actually empathize with the women you're so jealous of. If all we wanted was random sex acts with completely random partners, then, yeah, you'd be totally right with this "It's soooo much easier for women to get what they want" song that you're always singing. But, see, that's the problem. I can't tell whether you CAN'T see the female equivalent to your frustration, or whether you just WON'T (... because then you wouldn't be able to grind this particular ax anymore). As I've tried to explain to you, way too many fucking times: No, it's not easier for women to get what they want. It's easier for WOMEN to get what YOU want (= a whole rolodex of sex where the partners are basically inanimate interchangeable parts) -- but, we don't (primarily) want what you want. Also -- Don't make the mistake of thinking that your whole "I want more more more" craving is ever actually going to be SATISFIED... because it
isn't. You're like the sex equivalent of the guys who become Fortune 400 ceo's, except for them it's money instead of sex. Dude Those are guys who **still get up and go to work every day** -- and usually it's a LOT of work, and stressful too -- even though they have BILLIONS of dollars. That's billions with a "b". Why don't they... stop working -- forever -- and ENJOY their wealth? Because they CAN'T. They have enough wealth to live in luxury for literally tens of thousands of years, and they only have 20-30 years left to live, but... nope. Work work work. No stopping to ENJOY. Honestly, they may as well not even *have* the fucking money, because their lives wouldn't even be any different -- either way, it'd just be work work work, 0 time to stop and smell the damn flowers. That's gna be you, dude, with sex instead of money. Run on that treadmill as fast as you want... you still aren't going to move forward, because it's a treadmill. Not even "that's gna be" you. That **IS** you.
Well, at best men will have sex with older women. But don't be delusional and be thinking that you're all mall that and you can compete with women in their late teens and 20's. Men do have the choice as long as they are successful. Money, power, fame or all three. Men want young and hot women and women want successful guys.
@redeyemindtricks I do empathize with women. You don't think I have female friends with guy problems. I am king of the friendshipzone for a reason. My one good friend is destroyed because of guys and she can't have children because (well she says) that her forced abortion by her boyfriend damaged her physically. So this once beautiful girl who I crushed on badly has become your cliché "dog lover" single person who can never have her own children. That's rough. I could extend this and say "yeah well, like all the rest of you women, you chose the douche over me". I could play that "all the good guys can't be found because they are in the friendshipzone where you women left them" card. But I can't because everyone makes mistakes. Even me. Maybe I should have been more aggressive, maybe I should have focused more on myself, maybe I should of told her I liked her before every other guy swan dived for her sexy ass. I don't know, its too late for the both of us...
@redeyemindtricks ... you can't change the past. But the difference is she at least had the choice of men. Something denied to many men. This is all about choice. That's all this is. Women choose incorrectly and many men don't even have this privilege. That's why your fortune 500 analogy is wrong... Lets take the sex/money analogy. Why is there often crime in poverty? Because people are desperate. Its a universal trait. There is no desperation when you have the simple things, like a car and a house. You don't need to be a billionaire. You just want to be content with what you have. I have grown up in a "very poor" environment and to get to a level that is even considered normal, I would have to put in 10X more effort than the people who were more privileged than me. I had no young sexual days. I have to claim that now or I will never have them? Do you not get that men don't have a choice unless they go out and make it work? We have to put in the effort just to get a CHANCE!
@redeyemindtricks And where you make THEE biggest mistake is when you told me that "If I was a woman I would probably be dead or some crack whore". No I wouldn't, I wouldn't worry about sex at all if I was a woman because I knew I could get it whenever I wanted. Why would I have to worry? I could have fun with it. Sexy pics, even get off on my exhibitionism fetish and get a bizzillion followers on social media. I could focus on my other talents because I know I can get sex. But I am a GUY. It doesn't work like that. You have to be a certain type of guy to get a lot of women. So a guy's goal is to be that guy. It doesn't matter what talents I have. I have to give them up to be that type of guy. Phew and lastly... you say a majority of women don't want what I want. Yet many do and because I am not THAT guy that women find attractive, I can never get these women. So unless I change, I am fucked either way.
I truthfully don't think that your analogy is that much off base. Sometimes even women don't understand the power that they have. I believe men have to rely on opportunity and Circumstance. Truthfully if all women understood that they are the ones with the power. Some women feel like its prudish to believe this but the bottom line is the woman is the one who can walk into a bar and get a man so much easier than a man can walk into a bar and get a woman. And really let's face it it doesn't have to be a bar it could be any setting anywhere and to me it is much easier for the woman to reach out and receive what she's looking for either by a flirt a wink a smile a joke or any such thing. Men have it much harder. I do truthfully believe that it is much harder for the man he has to work at it longer more intently the woman just makes a few gestures and a smile and sometimes that's all it takes. Some men might say I'm crazy and some women may stay the same. To each his own I say but my point
My point is simply this men in their forties and fifties they want to believe they can collect trophies. They are willing to lay down marriages for it long relationships for it and even sometimes sacrifice their own moral standards and pride. Sometimes it's a midlife crisis that a man will use to explore a woman and then go crawling back to his wife. So with that being said and it being 2016 my take is that why can't women in their forties and fifties look at that same 2530 year old of the opposite gender and want and desire the same things from them that a man wants from a woman. Yes eventually looks fade things sad and skin wrinkles but guess what it does that if you're a man or a woman. I say no matter what your gender hop on the bandwagon enjoy the ride
@miamigirl1970 100% agree with you and you are not wrong. There is enough stone cold evidence to back you up on your opinion. So much so that's it's not an opinion but a fact. And I fully agree that women have every right to explore sex and get trophies at your age or up like men do. And you are 100% correct that you women can get hot young men too. And I also agree that many women don't know their sexual power. The ones that do make it big time. I just want to say (and it's something I wish redeyemindtricks would get) is that because we all age one day, we have to use the time we have now to live life. A male is stupid if he believes he is going to have this rock n roll sex life some day by "working on himself". By the time he has accumulated his wealth and changed his personality, hot women are gonna go for him for his assets anyway. Something he could have got in his prime anyway if he just realised this.
Yes, you are so correct. I agree, and whether you are a 30 year old golden guy, or a 45 year old Cougar, I say enjoy what ever. If you want celibacy, that is your business, if you want to get taken to the cleaners, best of luck, and if you just want a good time, and feel like sex does the trick for you, then I say whatever your age and gender, just enjoy the ride...
Women are a bad investment because they're depreciating assets.
@Mrwoo99 and men are what?
Biologically speaking men appreciate because our sexual market place begins in our 30s to 40s. Men at a young age have nothing to offer women in terms of relationships.
Women are valued for their appearance but mens value is broad. A mans sexual market value is dictated by his resources, money, status, owning a beautiful home, confidence and men dont age bad physically because we look more masculine or distinguished. The only men that age bad are the ones who abuse themselves with junk food, drugs and alcohol.
@Mrwoo99 If you were a successful 35-year-old, and yr goal was... say... to attract a 25-year-old for a long term relationship, children, etc? If you really, genuiinely, truly, think that you would do even *better* with those 25-year-olds by waiting 10-15 more years -- and trying to start that kind of rl with a 25-year-old when you were 45 or 50 -- then, you really just need to go put the crack pipe down, and go observe how couples form between successful people in the real world.
@Mrwoo99 so I have a job making more than most men I work with, I am the boss, I earned a Master's Degree, I bought and pay for a very nice home, two cars, a boat, and other things. I don't need anyone to value me, but me. However at twenty four you are further delusional if you think older men are distinguished in general. Some are, yes just as some women are. Genetics not gender. Please. Men go bald or grey, their skin wrinkles, the get pot bellied, etc... you like in some fantasy if you think they dont
@redeyemindtricks Am already half way there woman. The only downside is men need access to younger women but with the internet these days it won't be hard.
@miamigirl1970 Girl what are you even saying, it was always my dream to be playing nurse to a "successful" almost-70-year-old husband at my age. LOL Oh, and, I'm still bitter about the fact that my kids' father is going to be less than 75 when they finish high school. I so should have gone for some dude 25 years older than me. ... What was I thinking. __ MrWoo -- Look dude. I live in one of the most exclusive parts of LA. My AVERAGE individual male client is worth between $50m and $100m. So, I both live around and work with the kind of men you're talking about. You know how many of these guys I know who are 20+ years older than their wives? ... One. He's in his 50's, she's in her late 20's. And the WHOLE POINT of their relationship is to be a "stag hotwife" thing, where she pretty much goes around and fucks a bunch of other, younger guys (for HIS amusement) before he "takes her back" at the end of all the festivities. That's their relationship. He has a horribly abusive past, he
had the 1st wife from hell, and there's zero chance that they're going to have kids or any sort of "serious" life together. They just basically party together, and he spends obscene amounts of money on her clothing and her... fun. And she fucks lots and lots and lots of men who aren't him, and who are like 20 years younger than him. If you think a highly desirable woman WITH A DECENT SEX DRIVE is going to stay FAITHFUL to some dude who's already pushing "senior" status when they first get together? Ahahahahahha hahahah hahah. Hahahha. Hahah ha ha. Ha.
I love how guys older than you are telling you that you are too old. That's insane. Haha.
I love women in their 40's... they know what they like and what they want and they go for it... plus, their confidence is amazing
@Shaft50, that is one thing I feel in myself is a level of confidence I never had before. If nothing else, it makes me feel good. Man or no man, having a level of comfort as to who we are as individuals shines through, I think... thanks for the Opinion:))
Exactly. It's like you've got to a point in your life where you're not being dictated to, and if you are, then screw 'em
Spot on!!!