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You are not a slut. You are not a whore.

You are not a slut. You are not a whore.

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Though I have only been on this site for a short time.. I've seen so many girls asking questions like, "Am I a slut?" or "Does this make a huge skank?". It is so sad that women are meant to feel that they cannot embrace their sexuality and have fun.

I know this sounds like the ranting of the feminists that people (unfortunatly) make fun of or get annoyed by.. but guess what?

I. Don't. Care.

Attention to men that judge women like this:

How would you feel if one day you woke up and suddenly you were so overly sexualized that you felt ashamed to even admit who you've slept with? Every day women are treated like objects and fuck toys and yet when they willingly and happily embrace their sexual experiences, they are shamed into submission? Think about that the next time you call someone a whore.

Attention to the women who judge other women like this:

There is plenty that I can say to you. But I'll keep it short. Women already get enough shit from men. Shaming other women will not make a better and more desirable person. Let's try to love and care for each other as much as humanly possible.

Attention to the women who have labeled themselves this way:

You are not alone. I have felt those shameful emotions and embarassing moments and I want you to know that there is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with having as much sex as you desire. Just remember to be safe and know your limits.

Please take note of this. You don't have to agree with me.. just keep it in mind.

xx

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  • You know, it's funny because I don't think I've ever called a woman a slut or a whore, but I hear other women do it all the time.

    One time, a girl I was talking to revealed to me that she had 9 partners and she was 20 years old at the time. I had only had one partner. Did I text her to tell her that she is a useless used up whore? Did I say that she was a fucking slut? No, I liked her so I told her I could look past it.

    But fuck me and my opinion because I'm a male and thus I am an evil judgmental pig who wants to degrade women.

    Here is what you need to know. It is disgusting for anyone of either gender to sleep around with a ton of people. Whether you are looking at it from the perspective that it exposes you to diseases, that it can get the woman pregnant, or that it reduces the level of intimacy of the act, it is not a good thing for anyone to sleep with tons of people. I don't expect a girl to wear a chastity belt until she gets married but she needs to control herself within reason. And the guy does too. It's not terrible to occasionally indulge yourself but if you are doing it all the time it is a problem.

  • Great take and thanks for writing it

  • A whore is a prostitute: she asks payment for sex. That's indeed problematic.
    A 'slut' is a women who has more (easily) sex than other women or men consider acceptable. That judgment is too personal: everyone has his own degree of sex drive and inhibitions, standards, religiosity.

  • i love this!! i couldnt agree more, great take :)

  • Well i completely agree with you.. Women can have sex any time and have as Many partners as they want... like a 100 or 200 out more... i would never call her a slut or something...

    But if i meet a girl who has had more then 5 partners i am out... not gonna get serious with her...

    • agreed dude.

    • yup i agree

  • Nice take! Well done and I applaud you for taking a stand on this topic!

  • Awesome take..
    Someone really needed to say something about this!

  • Sex is far easier to get for women, this is because of simple reproductive fitness dynamics. As in a man can knock up 5 women in a day, but a women can only get knocked up once in 9 months, so you only need a small percentage of men to knock up all the women. This makes men more sexually driven and women more selective. A man will need
    a lot going for him to have the same potential sexual success as the average women. This is why male promiscuity is celebrated (because it's hard to do) while a women will just be considered a slut (because all she needs to do is open her legs). A man also doesn't know if a child is his while a women will always know, thus a promiscuous women is subconsciously seen as a risk that a man will waste his time and resources raising someone else's genes, it is a risk to male reproductive fitness. And slut and whore are actual words with a definition, if you fit the definition you are one.

    • "How would you feel if one day you woke up and suddenly you were so overly sexualized that you felt ashamed to even admit who you've slept with? Every day women are treated like objects and fuck toys and yet when they willingly and happily embrace their sexual experiences, they are shamed into submission? Think about that the next time you call someone a whore" we would love it, you are complaining about a small drawback to what is literally the greatest biological advantage the female gender has (be glad you are the more sexually desired gender, can you imagine how much worse life would be for women if this wasn't so).

    • You are free to be a slut if you want, but we are free to judge you for it.

  • here is the thing though. you can totally do you're own thing and nobody cares. but i will still consider you non dating material. i wouldn't want a girl who can't control herself and have to make excuses as to why she lets herself be treated like masturbation device. be offended all you want, but i ain't no man whore and im not going to be marrying a whore just because she wants to "settle down" cause technically as far as marriage wise goes, they are worthless.
    anyone offended?:)

    oh by the way my little feminist western women are the most privileged women on the face of the planet. "women already get enough shit from men" trust me sweet heart we get just as much shit from you too.

    • i'm literally laughing my ass off right now. i picture you as the type of guy to wear a MENINIST t shirt. my computer is even underlining that fucking ridiculous word because guess what? it doesn't exist. it's not even a thing. yes, women in america are more privileged than women of the rest of the world. so what does that mean? we can just sit back and relax and not speak up? we are not just fighting for gender equality in the US. we are fighting for equality EVERYWHERE. fine if you don't want to marry a "worthless whore" then that's your decision. a girl that "can't control herself?" how many women have YOU had sex with? or will have sex with? men can go out every night and fuck whoever they want and they praised like gods. bye felicia!

    • oh shut the fuck up. you think anyone with a brain takes you seriously? stop trying to blame men for you're whore problems. "men can go out and have sex every night while women are shamed" bitch those men are not respected, i dont respect them i think they are man whores and i hold as much respect as i do to your whore ass. by the way just because i am against mindless sex, and people who blame a whole group to justifiy their fucked up head doesn't mean i haven't had sex before. the difference between you and me is i am trying to have a relationship and a family. seriously women have more privileges then men in this society. yet you still want to blame us. go ahead. but i promise your life ain't going to be any different or any more happier blaming men while having mindless sex with them.

    • the definition of whore means prostitute. A prostitute is a person who has sex for money. I didn't know there was a epidemic of women being prostitutes. Doesn't that make most men johns? I guess there is an epidemic of john's in this world as well. Know your vocabulary my dear friend :)

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  • I agree with this take , the reason there are so many asexual , frigid women in the West is because most girls /women are force fed this " Sex is wrong / disgusting / good girls never do this !! " bullshit. This is burned into the deep subconscious & being more emotional thinking a lot of girls / women just " shut down " sexually... yet we are bombarded with sex in the bullshit " media " . This is lose / lose for EVERYONE... also we men are always labelled as disgusting sex crazed rapist pieces of shit by the " media " & sadly a lot of women too. Brilliant take Lafemme...& have a virtual kiss from me. XXX !!

  • Actually, by dictionary definition... Just to play devils advocate, those are just terms to describe behaviors. Saying they aren't what they are doesn't help. For example, dictionary. com says "Whore: a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money..." Money isn't an necessity. But if you are sleeping around you meet the accepted definition.

    • I agree. Tell them my brother.

    • I also agree.

  • That's life. See, women, for centuries, have had men commit to protect and provide for them.

    For instance, women who have been sluts and have had tons of partners are more likely to cheat and/or divorce a guy.

    It's female nature. Sex with the brash attractive guys who would never really date them, and then when they're closing in on the wall, they decide to settle down with the boring guys they rejected. Alpha fucks, beta bucks.

    Who wants to be the second choice? If a man is going to commit to provide, protect, and be loyal to a woman, he deserves a woman that hasn't already given away the best of herself to thugs and trash.

  • Slut is somebody who sleeps with many guys, or has experienced one-night stands. So if you do this, you ARE a slut, because you fit the description of slut. You just do not care and do it anyway. That is what is this mytake about.

    • slut refers to a woman who sleeps around not a man. men are not made to feel ashamed of doing so, while women are

    • Well, first - in nature it is also like this, males try to pair with all the females, but females should choose only one of them.. But we are not animals, I know. It depends on language. In Slovak language, there is also word for men who sleep with many girls. I cannot translate it, but it is something like slutter, or how to say it.. Simply, both genders are ashamed for this and none of them should do it.

  • whores and sluts are broken people who want love though a small minority just want sex.

    i dont believe polygamy is natural. thats why it hurts so bad moving on to the next for the people who aren't emotionally fucked up and had a good upbringing.

    • your tiny piece is only offended at this lol..

    • what? @tenofthepeaks

    • So does that mean guys who sleep around are broken people too? Because they're doing the same thing, the only difference is that they are men.

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  • Last time i looked there was sexual equality , so live your life how you wish to live it.

    And stick your finger up in the face of people who feel the need to judge when there is no reason to. In fact, ignore them completely for their opinion is irrelevant

  • Great, another post bashing men. You do realize the majority of slut-shaming is done by women, right? Men often don't care. Keep your sexist assumptions to yourself, please.

  • I agree that there is nothing wrong with having as much sex as you want with as many partners as you want in any fashion that you want.

    We as a society are way too uptight about sex.

    If both parties are willing and consenting to the sex act, then have fun, enjoy and be happy about how amazing sex is.

    Stop the labels, stop being so uptight and just enjoy how great sex is! It was given to us to enjoy.

  • Great Take. I would have liked to see a little more content, and maybe some more specifics of what you've gone through in order to inspire girls who go through that, but I completely understand with the audience of males on this site why you would choose not to go there...

    As for the guys clearly immature, starving for attention, tragically misinformed, shamelessly self-victimizing, or some combination of the four, get a grip on yourselves. The only men still threatened by a woman's sexuality are insecure that they don't measure up to whatever other guys she sleeps with. Some of you know this is true and don't want to admit to it because you know it's a misuse of power to try to control women's sexual behavior through inflicting shame so you just want people to realize what you're doing to be quiet. Others of you are so caught up being victims of the feminist movement that are somehow thought to be trying to take away rights from men and give them to women? (I don't know how one says this out loud with our laughing at how ridiculous it sounds.) The latter of you are the more pathetic because you're whining and crying over the fact that women want to be treated with the same respect that you get and you're getting paranoid thoughts that they will somehow come to dominate you if they continue to get rights. (It's all about you right?) You lack sympathy because you put women in the villain role and blatantly ignore their suffering so that you can focus only on your own, which is mostly made up in your head by you.

    • SHHH... evolutionary biology would like to have a word with you about how wrong you are, i am not talking about slut shaming her, i am talking about devaluation of her dating value, don't shun her as a person but you can refuse to date her. You don't treat two things that are different the same way, that isn't how we work, or are supposed to work. And rights mate? women literally have more rights than men do in the west (yes they do! i invite you to do as much research as you want).

    • lol at these ratings. All the chicks (slut/future slut) upvoted. All the guys who know how they value women depending on their actions downvoted... Problem is, these sluts won't be dating girls (like those who that upvoted this post) when they will get older and will seek to settle down. They will face those same men who downvoted it... Let them learn the hard way I guess. I wish they could realise their mistake before it's too late, but I suppose there has to be some collateral damage for them to admit their wrong eventually. This will take a few more decades.

  • "Men are bad!"

  • Let the poor women do whatever the hell they want with their bodies

    • They can and do. There are no laws against it. They are just upset because a lot of men choose not to be with women like that. That is somehow "judging." them

    • Well the same way us men can choosee to be withwhomever they want

    • Exactly, they can and do. The reason so many have pause is a lot of guys choose not to be with women who have slept around, aka a "slut." This is somehow the equivalent of "shaming." On a personal note, I could care less about a woman's sexual past, but the truth is many guys would choose not to be with a woman who has slept around a lot.

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