Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
We all have fond memories. Maybe you had a very specific childhood memory that makes you smile from time to time. Maybe you had a favorite TV show that was cancelled, and you can't help to watch it years later when you find out that you can now watch it on Netflix. Maybe you had a pet back in the day that brought you a lot of joy, and even though the pet is long gone, you still cherish those memories if your pet. Fact of the matter is, we all memories that remember. Those memories shape and influence us, making us the person we are today. Sex can even shape the way we think about relationships and other people, and this is what this Take is about.
Our society has a long way in the past century. Back in the day, everyone was sexually repressed, and it was taboo to talk about sex in public. It was especially harder for women, because they weren't allowed to have sexual thoughts or be promiscuous in anyway. However, society has changed greatly over the last century.Think about it. With the introduction of technology, we now have instant access to sex, and it is easily accessible to anyone of any age now. People are having more sex, more partners and it is putting a strain on relationships.
In one article I recently read online, this 22 year old woman discussed how she had 5 sex partners in the past and the sex was good with all of them. However, after meeting a man online and having sex with him, her sexual preferences changed.
The guy she met online had the penis of a porn star, and he was really well endowed. She talked about how the sex was with him, how incredible it was and how satisfying it was taking a ride on a huge penis. She mentioned how she and the guy hooked up 20 something times and each time was incredible. They eventually stopped hooking up when she met a new man she fell in love with.
This woman went onto say that this new man was everything she ever wanted in a man. The guy was college educated, he owned his own business, he was very kind to her, expanded her horizons about the world around her and was very caring and affectionate towards her. While she was happy with him, she said that her sex life was terrible.
The guy she was dating was not as endowed as the previous guy she was hooking up with. In her mind, the man with the big penis was a much more satisfying sexual partner than her boyfriend. The guy with the big penis hit all the right spots, knew how to make her cum, knew how to satisfy her and she always thought very fondly of those memories. This made her feel that the sex she was having with her boyfriend wasn't as good as the sex she previously had. She just wasn't satisfied with her sex life.
This is a real issue in a lot of relationships, and it is damaging. We live in a society today where promiscuity is largely accepted, but at what cost? When we have sex with a lot of people, it shapes our sexual experiences. Sex allows us to form memories. Sex allows to become experienced and learn our bodies. However, at the same time, sex can ruin relationships.
A lot of men and women, find it hard to let go of good sex experiences. Admit it, you remember very fondly your best sexual experience. You remember how you felt in the moment. You remember the location. You may even remember all the positions you tried. You remember all the joy you felt when you had the best sex of your life and you remember the person. When people move on in life, get into loving relationships and start having sex with their partner, the sex isn't always going to be that great because you are still hung up on your best sexual encounter and you expect your partner to live up to that experience. This kind of thinking can damage a great relationship.
I am actually writing this Take, because this has happened to me as well. I am currently dating a girl who has had quite a bit of sex partners, but she is still hung up on her sexual experience that happened months before she met me.
Every time my girlfriend and I have sex, she never seems satisfied. I asked her to tell me what was wrong, and she told me she was not satisfied with our sex and that she was disappointed. She then explained to me a sexual experience she had months before she met. She told me she had a random hook up with a guy and she brought him back to her apartment. She told me that they had sex for hours.
She said that when the guy came over, they foreplayed a lot, kissed a lot, then he pulled out a condom and they had sex and he was able to make her cum. They would then take a break and go at it again and she was able to make her cum again. Then, after a few sessions of this, he took off his condom and started fucking her raw and she came faster. She said they did many different positions, he knew how to handle her and she loved every minute of it.
As my girlfriend told me about this one night stand, she started telling me about what she likes, what she doesn't like, etc. As a result, we have been practicing sex, but I have lost my confidence in the bedroom. It sucks to know that she is really hung up on this sexual experience and that I may never compare to that guy.
The take away message is this: It doesn't matter if you are a man or woman. We all will be sexual in our lives, we will all have various sex partners and we will all have fond memories of the best sex we ever had. However, you cannot let your best sex determine the sex you are going to have with your next partner. You cannot compare your best sex with your current partner. You cannot expect your current partner to be a sexual expert like the best person you had sex with. Even though sex is important in a relationship, people are not going to know your body right away and it takes time to learn. If you are going to compare your partner to a previous "best sex" partner and if you keep reminiscing about having that best sex session, you are hurting your relationship with your partner.
What Girls & Guys Said
13 32This is why I only want one sex partner in my life. Whoever I marry.
I like this article. It makes understand how we are nurtched by our experiences. I have always had this desire to be female from asking as I can remember. First time I ever saw a vagina I was 3or4, mother use to chiid mind a girl same age as me she was bathing us at the same time. Looking at what I had looking at what she had ended up having a screaming tantrum why don't I look like her.
I got to know her over the years went to school with her played after school even on weekends. I couldn't keep my secret from her she already knew anyway. Some times we got dressed up as two girls she was closer to me than a twin. But our friendship came to an abrupt end she and a family moved to Australia. We were 13 and both devistated I felt lost she was my only friend.
We could write but that took about a month to get a reply and we did.
Couldn't get this feeling of my sexuaity and continued to play dress up using one of my sister's dresses it brought me a little relief.. But one thing that stuck in my mind that made me more determined to do something about it.
I was on a holiday with the school I was laying on the grass on my stomach. When one of the teachers came and sat in front to the side of me. I lifted my head to who it was all I could see was this teachers pussy her shorts and and underwear were not much use. So I decided to go after a sex change I wanted to look like that!!! lll
You 100% need to leave her. Fuck trying to "measure up" to her expectations find a better girl who isn't such a slut preferably a tight one that doesn't need that. But I completely agree this post. Thats the REAL reason our generation marrys so late.
virgin😂
If only but humans were monogamous. I'd never bother "dating" again because of this and so much more.
Interesting
Yes past sex do effect your sexual life
I like this
I said and i will always say it : can't turn a hoe into a housewive, such women aren't meant to be married.
Problem is, how do you define a ho? Is it the same for men? If there some magical number where people are just not marriage material? Such foolishness. It's not about the number of partners. It's about the person. I know a man who had sex with about 300 girls before getting married to a preacher's daughter. Won't even talk to another woman now. I know a few men who were like that. Women as well. People will settle down for the right person.
@wolfcat87 men aren't women, women will easily be corrupted by sex, i've seen it happen a lot, men stay the same, dont apply your rules to the world of men, because you're not one and can never understand what we truly think.
@Kawbanga1 And you shouldn't ever speak for all men either, because you don't know how all men think and work.
@Metaanio i dont care about all men i care about what works, the fact that only 20-30% of men get all the women is more than enough proof that whatever the remaining 70% are doing is not working, and guess what, the men that do share my views are the one getting women.
@wolfcat87 " I know a man who had sex with about 300 girls before getting married to a preacher's daughter" WOW... That must have been one dumb preacher. If that was me i would never let that happen.
@lord_chilled you're right about that , even men will at some point get corrupted by sex beyond repair... the majority of men i know slept with anywhere betwee 3-10 women and they are still the same, nothing about them changed, women on the other hand... the ones around me that have slept with the same number of men turned into completely different person and became far less decent, trustworthy and overall good... i can't explain it , its just what it is
in my opinion, relationships break a man more than sex does, while its the other eay around for women, in general, but there are expetions and ofc everyone has limits. I know two guys who have been with 50+ women, and one guy is not good for marriage imho , he will definitely cheat, no doubt. The other guy is actually ok and could be loyal, but his problem is that he has difficulty being attached to a girl. Which is why relationships dont work very well with him. Those are the only "players" i know of. Everyone else i know has mediocre success, or is an incel
I know quite well how men think. Women tend to confuse me much more than men. Men are certainly quite often changed by sex. Consider the fact that men cheat quite a bit more often than women, and that right there tells you who is easier to keep under wraps in a relationship and who is easily corrupted. Both genders tend to be ruled by the act quite a bit. The question here was, can a person who's had a lot of sex become a committed spouse. The answer is absolutely yes.
@wolfcat87 that has been debunked so many times by so many people and after so many statistics and researches, men do not cheat more at all
Actually, I have read a lot of studies, and they all seemed to agree. Please feel free to post multiple large scale scientific studies showing that mean do not cheat more by any margin. I will read them. Everything that I've read states that women are generally afraid to cheat for reasons including risk of pregnancy, increased social stigma, higher chance of contracting STD's, higher risk of a break up, etc. Women tend to cheat at 2/3rds the rate that men do on every large scale study and survey I've seen.
@wolfcat87 i think it should be more or less equal. Because who are all those men cheating with? If 2/3 is the ratio then that would mean that either some of the cheating women are fucking multiple men, or we would have to include singles and assume that a lot of single women are f*cking married men. Both are possibilities, but seem a bit of a stretch with that many men.
@lord_chilled Actually, you are correct in that a lot of cheating men are going to the same cheating women. There's also the fact that they may go to a hooker or a single woman. I can guarantee that most are going after the same few married women or single women though. I see it all the time.
@wolfcat87 ah, well i have known of some singke women, who kinda go for married men and are therefore called homewreckers. didn't know of the cheating wives tough, that was just an assumption i made. Must suck being the husband in that case. Probably people you know, are likely aware that you are the sucker in the scenario.
Why are so many wusses on g@g glorifying fornication? Can't they see the immorality and the whore of Babel being perpetuated throughout this world?
Your sex partner should be within marriage.
I had been with a virgin and the sex experience was bad. What about that?
Nobody to compare too 😢😢
When that happened the only time I have sex is in my mind or watching porn.
Most of the times I fantasize about being cheated on (because of my performance) since that experience and I wish I would replace it with a better one this depression is killing me 😞
You only had sex once. To be honest, a LOT of people have bad first sexual experience. My first sexual experience wasn't that great either. I met this girl and we were talking for a while. We were alone in her apartment one night and one thing led to another and we had sex. Since it was my first time, I got in 3 pumps, came, and that was it. I know it sucked for both of us. Lol. But we kept having sex and it got better.
Yea for me it turned into being used after that no sex and the whole relationship ended.
Thanks for sharing your experience though it really helped me out dude
I agree. I've heard a lot of bad first time stories including my own. I'm glad I didn't marry that guy.
@wolfcat87 that's funny 😂😂 mind sgare it with me?
Ha ha, basically, I was 12 and had never seen a full grown penis before. I had no idea that they came in different sizes. Apparently, my parts are tighter than average and the guy was much larger than average all around. There was no warm up, and I quit about a minute in. Just a no all around. I didn't have the best sex until I was 25 and my body was more matured. Plenty of exes would have made horrible partners for me. They would have held me back in life. Plenty of people who were great at sex had horrible personalities are just highly incompatible. I never enjoyed that for long.
@wolfcat87 thanks for sharing looks like you managed a lot until 25.
Good take thanks.
I agree with you & Also, I would have dumped the bitch if she told me that.
Great take
I did the opposite, married first serious sex partner, and I regret it. If i'd had better sex partners in the past, I would have realized much earlier things werent' good enough, instead of it slowly dawning on me.
Find someone you're sexually happy with and happy in other ways.
The woman you are dating then seems like a bitch. Is sex THAT important? Answer: it isn't. In bed she may not like the style, but other girls may love it. But really, if she likes you for you, she won't care and carry on with or without "good" sex and not make a big fuss. There are a billion more important things in life to focus on. If she wants the guy who was better at sex so much, she can have him! Tell her, ok then, fuck off! You don't need somebody focused on sex so much. That's what the life of a roach is based on is sex. You are not a roach, but a human. Why be with somebody who thinks like a roach?
Sex is pretty important but not the most important thing in a relationship. The fact that she gave so much detail about a casual encounter, let this guy have unprotected sex with her and then compared the two makes her a shitty person. She's not girlfriend material. She could've told him what she likes to help make things better. He should dump her ass.
@Goodwifie I'd argue sex meaning mainly intercourse is way below on the list of important things in a relationship. Sex is quite literally, two bodies grinding each other for a good feeling. What if sex was painful? Or there was no pleasure from it whatsoever? Then how high on the list would it be? Although, I agree with your main point that her ass should get dumped.
Sex is a part of life but there are many other things which should be practiced and provided
I can agree with this. Past experience do affect your sex life. Bad experience can deeply affect it as well.
But this doesn't have anything to do with one night stands... as an example, I never did anything sexually, not even kissed a guy I wasn't in a relationship with. Hell, I only slept with two guys in total.
But I still do compare. My ex was really... TERRIBLE in bed, basically as bad as a guy can be. No foreplay, no cuddling afterwards. As soon as he came it was over. I do really regret that I wasted my first time with this dude.
And guess what, I couldn't be more happier now with my boyfriend, just BECAUSE I do have this comparison. Because I know that there are guys out there who do not care at all about their partners.
but what if you had the bad boy who's great at sex and then your next partner who became your husband just wasn't as good? Really though I think it comes down to people putting sex first, which they shouldn't, but if you've had really good sex in the past it's going to shape how you look at it moving forward. Every man wants a virgin wife for a reason
Find a better girl. This one is worthless and will only end up hurting you in the end.