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Anal without my permission?
Anonymous
A few nights ago my boyfriend and I were in his bed, and in the same room about 6 feet away, his best friend was on the couch. we were just going to bed, lights off, t.v. off, and my boyfriend decides he wants to have sex, which I didn't want to do cause I thought it was incredibly rude to do with our friend right there, but I just let my boyfriend do it and we had to be really really quiet. well, I was facing away from him and he was doing it from behind, then it slipped out and he put it in my butt... since we had to be really quiet I had to bite my bottom lip, I tried to deal with it, but then I had to hit him away. but he came back for more, so I made sure it went in the right hole. well the next night I told him, because I didn't think he knew, but he said he did... it didn't bother me at the time... but the past couple nights all I can think about is why would he do that to me? he knew I couldn't say anything because our friend was right there... I feel like he raped me in a way. I just got off the phone with him now, and I told him that I'm disgusted by what he did, and now he's saying that he didn't do it on purpose... so I asked, then why tell me you did? and he just replied "i don't know". so does this sound like rape to you? should I be mad? is he lying about not doing it on purpose? what should I do? I'm so mad I'm crying right now. anal without any lube and without even knowing it's going to happen hurts really really bad.
Updates:
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the next night he admitted that he knew what he was doing, and that anal is so much tighter you can't get it confused with the vagina. and now he's saying that he didn't know.
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What Girls & Guys Said
16 16Rape it is. Sorry. No two ways about it.
He’s probably watching too much porn and didn’t know any better. My girlfriend LOVES anal but we started slow. I massaged her would insert a finger then we had to play with butt plugs and anal beads for a few days then she was okay to try anal sex but even then it took a few more days to even get all the way in but the I’ll tell you what, it was worth the week or two because now we both love it! I honestly think what he did was an amature mistake and didn’t think you would respond the way you did. I wouldn’t ruin the entire relationship over it. Just have a talk with him and let him know you were not okay with it and I’m sure it won’t happen again. Or maybe you do want it to happen again but you want to prepare properly or whatever the case may be, my opinion, wasn’t rape, don’t throw everything away over it.
seems like he took advantage of the situation, so to me it was rape. he was disrespectful.
I'd say he put it in wrong on accident and then realized it after a few seconds. Sense it felt good and you weren't initially rejecting he continued. Its a heat of the moment lack of communication.
Wow. I'm sorry this happened to you...yes, it is rape because you didn't want it.
All my past lovers have verbally asked me if we could have anal sex...doesn't matter if someone is around, one can always whisper into your ear (not that that happened to me, I'm just saying)
Again, I'm really sorry that happened but it's good you told him you were not ok with it.
It's only rape if you said, "No."
You didn't say, "No."
So it's not rape.
But you can keep saying it is if you like the attention/possibility of getting your boyfriend sent to jail :3
Yes, getting attention/possibly sending my boyfriend to jail is exactly what I want, hence why I asked anonymously. you're so smart.
U guys should have make up sex..... you two girls
Actually if you could read, ud see she had already told him previously she did not like it or want it. It's rape. He's a selfish prick. Report him or leave him.
i bet that does hurt really bad. you should have said something to him the moment he started doing that. I would not consider that rape. But guys will know the difference in how it feels in the vagina and anal. I think he did know what he was doing but he did not know at the time that it bothered you. I would be mad because of the lying part him telling you he did not do it on purpose. But with men you have to tell them exactly what you are thinking and what you don't like. I would just talked to him about it and let him know how you feel.