I just want to get fucked! How to get a guy to approach you/notice you at a party?

[Anonymous]

So I am a 20 year old college student and I've never had sex or engaged in any kind of sexual intimacy ever in my life before (no kissing, cuddling, sexual touching with a guy). I am now craving it at an all time high at this moment of my life and I admit that I am a frequent masturbator as well. Of course I am not going to do anything that might harm me- I dont smoke or drink and I am extremely conscious of my surroundings and very aware. I just have been sexually frustrated and although I'm not necessarily looking for someone to have sex with, I am craving some kind of sexual intimacy. Usually at parties I am the most horny and usually end the night with masturbating dreaming about someone. It doesn't seem like guys pay me any mind, I think I am a beautiful girl especially when I get my hair and makeup done, I somewhat dance and I feel like I am enjoying myself while still being hyper aware. I obviously dont want a creep but I do want to catch the attention of a decent person to at least dance with and have flatter me. What is it that isn't going well, am I too uptight, not good looking enough, etc? How can I get the attention of decent guys on campus at my college parties?

[DanielDiamond]

Am I the only one who noticed her emphasis on being hyper aware?

I think this probably translates into body language that is either off putting or intimidating, which then causes you to have low approachability. Remember men can barely read, let alone read minds (jk) we tend to read body language and then assume we can extrapolate that and understand what women are thinking. We are mostly wrong when we do this

[SpiritBear]

I’m there with you (minus going to parties), and don’t stress out about it. I don’t recommend you trying to just get fucked, but to instead find someone who you can date. Someone you can love instead of rushing losing your virginity. Trust me, you’ll regret it. Many friends told me that they wish they saved it for someone they cared about.

[PondyPand]

And you think a college party is the best place? Thank God you haven't had sex yet, you'd be another pregnant drop out.

[masterkamasutra]

LOL!!!

[EmmaMary]

You need to step back very quickly indeed and re-evaluate life completely.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHGirl.

[Soft4u]

You sound like you've got your priorities twisted girl.

[abc3643]

Send that profile picture.
That will get you laid!

[abc3643]

You may be suffering from Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2... If you Google "Beautiful Girl Syndrome", that's basically saying that beautiful girls can be bitchier and high maintenance because guys are willing to put up with more because she is so beautiful. Guys won't put up with so much shit and work if the girl isn't so attractive. "Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type II" is a phrase I coined, but it's a real thing I discovered not quite 40 years ago. This will take some time to explain... All guys need to feel that they can "win". They view things as something like a competition in which there is some goal that they want to achieve. If a guy wants something and he believes that there is SOME possibility that he may get it, he will get emotionally involved. If he begins to believe that he won't get that, then he begins to withdraw and get emotionally detached. However, sometimes a guy doesn't even think he has a chance, so he doesn't bother... And this is where "Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type II" comes in. If a girl is really beautiful, a regular guy thinks: 1. There are a zillion other guys who want her. 2. She almost certainly already has a boyfriend. 3. There is no way she'd be attracted to me; I am not anything special. 4. If she did date me, she'd dump me for some better-looking guy who will hit on her and there definitely will be such a guy. 5. She's going to be bitchy and high maintenance. (In other words, he's thinking she suffers from normal Beautiful Girl Syndrome.) So, he basically thinks that 1) he doesn't have a chance to get her, 2) if he did, he'll lose her, and 3) she's going to be a lot of work. Because oceans of guys think like this - the only exception being the hunky guys - the beautiful girl either can't find a guy or goes with dickhead hunky guys (who suffer from Beautiful Guy Syndrome). Of course, the regular guys see the beauties with the hunky guys and that just reinforces their belief that they don't have a chance... (more)

[abc3643]

Oh, and one more thing: Since the beautiful girls can get guys, they are getting laid... So, any new boyfriend has to "compete" against all of her past lovers and many guys don't think they are going to "measure up" (if you know what I mean) compared to those past hunky guys. So, a beautiful girl needs to be proactive and hit on men instead of waiting for them to hit on her. A beautiful girl being proactive removes doubts males have regarding Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2.

[Paul_in_Indy]

This doesn’t directly address your question, but… I have hooked up and engaged in various sexual activities at many college parties. I think I have pretty much always, also, ended the night masturbating and dreaming about someone. (This is partly because I don’t drink—so, I wasn’t passing out at the end of the night.)

I think, on balance, guys get more satisfaction out of random hook-ups (especially the slam-bam type that is so common at college parties) than girls. I enjoy those sexual acts greatly—but they don’t satisfy me in the way you seem to be seeking.

Hook up at parties, if you want to. There are lots of guys who are as nervous as you, and you can initiate with one of them. But I don’t think it will end the craving you describe.

[Texasgal95]

Big things just be yourself don’t try to be something you’re not just to get laid.

[Paige90]

It should be very ez to get a guy to do you

[wesdev]

Get out of the girls zone for a while. When men see women in groups, it means they are busy talking and may be not interested in men at that time. Some guys may get intimidated too.
When you R shy or nervous you tend to ask discuss with your friends. The more you are with the girls, the lesser the chance of men approaching you.
What can you do? If you're in a party, start socializing. If your girlfriends are having group chat with guys, join in. Then move separately to get a drink or play some game alone. Or ask a nearby guy (not committed or may be lone guy) some idea like help choose a drink or help with a game or ask to keep some invaluable while you hit the washroom or if you know the guy, simply ask if there's too much lipstick or wait with a valuable like phone for your washroom... May be more ideas just getting you started.
But you can't do this when you are with other girl (because you can obviously ask a nearby girl all these help rather than a boy which we don't want.)

[Danny_dan92]

Get a fucken tinder and your problem will be solved soon after

[med111111]

A chick finding it difficult to get bent over and railed? I find that hard to believe unless you are a behemoth of epic destructive ugliness which I do not think is humanly possible.

[Iron_Man]

Is that what you do on the earth just waiting to get popped? Is that your claim to fame?

[MrB81]

Have you considered tinder?

[SketchForger]

Oof, I wonder why this was anonymized...

[james0000]

where are you from? we can handle stuff

[alexc1996]

It might just be people are too drunk to notice

[moviedude714]

Get on a dating app just like Tinder, most people will agree that the average woman has tons of more options on Tinder than the average guy does

[oldoldold]

Wear no panties... fall on his lap

[Laggy]

By approaching them

[iFarted]

Most guys at parties aren't bold enough to try to pick up sober girls to have sex with. Its quite sad.

[MarketData]

If what I heard about college parties is true, just get drunk and pretend to fall asleep.

[Asker]

That's not funny at all😑

[DomTreddo]

Pm me for further discussion

[masterkamasutra]

just show more skin and ready to get response, at the end you get fucked hard.

[Funnyguy333]

If you want the attention of a guy go get it guys are not always gonna approach the girl especially if they don't feel confident enough. And it seems like it's more easier for a girl to approach a guy than it is for a guy to approach a girl just because we guys get accused of a lot of shit for doing so. Like for example if a guy spends all night eyeballing a girl he likes and won't make a move cus he's not too sure if she's cool with it or not, he could easily get accused of stalking her and harrassing her and might even get arrested. But if a girl does that to a guy different story us guys don't take offense to that.