Boyfriend goes soft during sex?

Question

My boyfriend and I have a very healthy sex life. For the entire time we’ve been together, we’ve had sex every single day, sometimes multiple times a day. I have no doubt in my mind that he loves me, he’s wonderful and our relationship is going great. We’re going strong for over two years, communicate well and make plenty of time for one another.

Only recently, he’s started to go soft very quickly? It started a week ago, we were having sex and we stopped briefly (switching positions) and I noticed his penis was noticeably limp.. this is not like him at all. He claimed he was completely turned on but this has never happened before and it baffles me. He told me it was because his penis was getting used to all of the sex. I didn’t believe him, mostly because his penis had never done this before, but we moved on from it. We haven’t had sex in a week straight due to stress and work (not caused by our relationship) and we tried again.. same thing happened. Stopped to let me suck him off and his penis was already beginning to go soft.. I know it sounds like I’m probably just overthinking it and maybe I am but his penis has never done that. Especially when we’ve went so long without sex, usually we can’t get enough of each other. Another thing I should mention is my boyfriend orgasms fast and I have no issues with it, I love it actually. However lately he’s been taking forever to orgasm. He isn’t masturbating because we work all day, we take showers together, and we live together. I don’t think he’s cheating.

Anyone who could give me solid advice on this situation, preferably men (but women also if you’ve experienced this with your partners) would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

WindowLicker · Accepted Answer

You might want to reconsider what he told you. Perhaps it's getting a bit samey and he just isn't getting turned on as much or as quickly. The dick isn't constantly surprised by the same things. Eventually it gets used to something and that something stops being as powerful.

It could also be due to stress and to lack of good sleep. It's hard to maintain arousal when your mind is elsewhere. The mind controls the dick, despite what anyone might say to the contrary.

Another possible reason could be that something you have done has somewhat affected his sexual desire towards you. That could be one of many possible things.

On_the_other_hand · Accepted Answer

Medications, drugs, stress, too much porn, thick condoms. Getting rid of condoms can help a lot. Watching adult content can help too, but that is a really personal preference you might not like.

Yes you are overthinking it... lots of guys get 'softer' while changing positions.

Tanzeela · Accepted Answer

Try viagra hun

Logorithim · Answer

As soon as you mentioned stress, the likely culprit was obvious.

ecfresh · Answer

Probably due to all the extra stress. Still have him see a Dr. to be sure it's nothing medical.

SngBirdy · Answer

Its very possible to be turned on but have a soft boner.

bhavy24 · Answer

He should see a doctor if dis continues

Rolla78 · Answer

Definitely see a doctor, if it persists.

RumEro · Answer

maybe he can't keep up with all the sex I heard some guys can't

masterkamasutra · Answer

he needs medical help, his ability weakening.

lightning65 · Answer

TBH it can be many reasons. 1) mabye he can't keep up 2) mabye you need to arouse him more. I mean, I can keep an erection for 30 minutes, it depends on the guy