With all due respect, I think that shows he's an insecure and immature man. A sexually enlightened man would know that sex and masturbation are two separate things. A vibrator cannot replace you - even if you're not well hung. Also, to me it also sounds sexist in that he wants to be the master of your orgasms.
To be perfectly honest with you, I've never had a girlfriend. But if I did, I would encourage her to masturbate. Female masturbation is one of my turn ons and I would want my woman to enjoy her body to the fullest regardless whether it was me or her stimulating her. I would buy her new sex toys and would be fascinated to figure out new ways to give her different sensations and take her pleasure to the next level. I would want to share in her masturbatory experience and "give her a hand" but I would also want her to do it alone as well.
Some guys won't agree with the above but I truly mean what I said. A woman's body is a fascinating and sacred thing to me and I've no right or desire to dole out orgasms to her. I can understand why some guys would be upset and I won't suggest you leave him if you're comfortable with that arrangement. However if he broke your vibrator I think he does owe you a new one.
Excellent answer!
I love this answer!!!!
@selfishstars @ambermc2010 You like this answer because its what you want to hear. As he said he never had a girlfriend and this is why he can't know the feeling.
I only would be mad at that if she was doing it to the exclusion of having sex. Maybe by him seeing you do this, he'll be willing to have sex more often.
On the flip side, that is a very ego-centric thing to do. I doubt that he doesn't masturbate and if you asked him and he answered honestly, he does from time to time, maybe more. Some men are threatened by women's sexuality and by toys. I look at them as an opportunity for her to pleasure herself and as long as she doesn't expect me to perform like one, we're fine.
If my wife came back to me after masturbating and told me it was better this way or that way, I'd try and incorporate that into what I did when we have sex. If she came back saying that her toy was so big and why couldn't I make her feel like that, well, that would be a different story.
That boyfriend still around?
It seems so weird to me that he would be upset with you using a vibe on yourself as almost all guys love watching girls get off with one. They know they still get their chance at some fun later if they want.
Ok, if he "wants to be he only one to give you an orgasm", then tell him he better jump on it when you need it. Simple as that. Otherwise he has no right to be mad...it's not like you cheated on him.
Exactly. Some men seem to get SO anxious by Vibrators though- it's like they're competing with it or something.
He is insecure & jealous which is not a good sign.Masturbation is healthy and normal,it enhances your sex life.
Dump him.No one should get jealous over a toy
Dump him? over that? why not talk to him first or something...i mean we did spend almost 4 years together
Mmm,over his jealousy and insecurity.I'm sorry but I wouldn't be with someone who says they want to be the only one to give me an orgasm.It's immature and unrealistic.Insecurity isn't something that can be talked out of.Of course,it is your decision,I just gave my opinion
Yeah...I just find it unrealistic
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Have some self respect, that is not a valid reaction to wanting to masturbate. If he can't handle the idea that you have a right to if you want to then he has a problem. Also if he broke your vibrator he owes you a new one.
SA230 said it best but I would like to add that this is not a normal reaction. Guys should not act this way, especially if they are running under the hypocritical delusion that its ok for a guy to masturbate but not a girl. I know full well my girlfriend masturbates, if she's more comfortable with her body its easier for me to learn what she likes and what gets her off so we have a better sex life.
If this persists I would consider a change of scenery if I were you.
LMAO! At least now you know what you have to do when he refuses to have sex with you.
LOL at this! This is the funniest sh*t I've read on this site! xD
Haha...glad I could do that for you
Oh sorry, I never really got to answer your question. :p No, I don't get mad if she masturbates. I would actually get turned on and feel like having sex with her right there.
do as you want!
ill bet he does it too!
He probably feels insecure that he will not be able to satisfy you if you get used to the vibrator.
So, first of all chose a vibrator that is smaller than his c**k. Also, tell him that it is not as satisfying as the real thing. That should take care of things.
No. She's in another country, so thank god for vibrators. I actually gave my girlfriend my vibrator for that purpose.
damn.
Like all people sometimes the sexual urge just is not there, means nothing, tired, stressed whatever.
But tht should not mean you can not play. He should have helped you use the vibrator. not thrown it away.
Tell him to get over his super ego and live in the real world. Boy is an arse!
anger management much?
Next time, he's gonna choke her and accidentally asphyxiate her wouldnt be surprised.
Ya! if I was her (you if you are reading this) I would seriously consider getting him help. (if it happens regularly
Sounds like he's insecure about you expressing yourself sexually for your own gratification (something which I'd bet my last dollar that he does himself also). He really should chill out.
He does! I watch him sometimes!
I like the idea of a girlfriend that masturbates... I'll even go so far as to say that I'd be nothing but turned on if she did. As long as she's not doing so out of permanent refusal to have sex (generally). And if she did so openly, awesome, or if I found out some other time, I wouldn't be mad, why should I? It takes time to get to know and understand people...
well I wouldn't get mad unless I was like right there and you was like I don't wanna have sex with you I wanna msturbate
only one to give you an orgasm . . . what?! he's behaving childishly and totally inappropriately. a healthy sex life INCLUDES masturbation and in the long run it's much better for you and him if you occasionally "take matters into your own hands". Does HE also not get to masturbate too? When you can satisfy yourself, it takes pressure of your partner and also allows you to get more in touch with what turns you on and that will make it more satisfying for you guys when yer together.
And PS: no I don't get mad. I think it's SUPER HOT when my girlfriend masturbates!!!!!
Haha...thanks. He totally masturbates. I watch him do it sometimes!
Amen.
I wouldn't get mad if she did. It sounds to me that he is a little selfish and is only thinking of himself. Also I wouldn't of whipped out the vibrator in front of him. I would have just said/or just got up and went to the bathroom and done it so he couldn't see. Once again it sounds like he's just being a little selfish.
I didn't...I went to be early since he was watching tv...i finished before he came to bed but didn't put it away before he came into bed.
He shouldn't care anyway.Its not like your taking anything away from him.
He's an idiot. That should not be something he's allowed to get mad at at all.
he shouldn't get mad at least you didn't go out and get the real thing from another guy
No I don't get mad... In fact, knowing she does turns me on. Your boyfriend is a little weird, most guys love watching it.
hahahaha most guys wish that their gf's masturbated, he is freakin wierd
he wants to be your sex toy ... duh ...
wow-your-boyfriend-is-a-dumbsh*t-you-can-even-tell-him-i-said-that-idc,
haha...yeah, I'll tell him you said that, that will help
As long as you let me watch, and join in I wouldn't mind...
Well he was just a little emotional,no worries.
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