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Feeling insecure about my small breasts?
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I'm newly single and for what seems like the millionth time, I'm feeling insecure about my small breasts. It's even more intimidating now that I'm single. It seems guys like all breasts, but have a distinct preference for big. I mean, the media caters to what the masses like, right? I read that a poll was conducted and around 54% of men were satisfied by their partner's breasts. But that is a small majority. There's still a 46% of men who DON'T feel satisfied by their partners breasts! (And before you say anything, a larger portion of women was satisfied with their men's penis). Everywhere you look, big breasts are glorified. In movies, especially movies for men, you see huge boobs. Strippers make more money when they get surgery, etc. Why is this? Why is bigger better? And sure, out of pity men are always like "small is great, no sagging" whatever but this is bull! It's pity! Because as soon as a woman with perky big breasts walks by, they drool like they need an industrial bib! What can I do about this insecurity? I feel so unsexy because of my breasts! And my ex (the only guy I've been intimate with) only made things worse, since I asked him (I know I was stupid to do so) and he said bigger was better, because of evolution or some stupid, crap which is not true (it's been proven not to be!). But since he's a psychologist and I'm not, it was supposed to be a "scientific" answer. He also said he couldn't help it that the media showed so much cleavage while he was growing up that he was "socialized" to prefer that. What was he stupid, had he no brain of his own? So he made me feel like crap and afterward was mad that I didn't feel uninhibited during sex. Idiot. This is killing me. I can't tit wank either, which I hear is a really common fantasy with guys. I hate my stupid boobs, they're so small and don't go well with my big hips. Should I get the damn surgery already? I'm more of a pear than an hourglass, and I hear men dig the 36-24-36 look.
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What Girls & Guys Said
9 20I'm going to be brutally honest,I have always been attracted to big breasts.I like big breasts,small breasts just do not do it for me.I like playing with them,t*t f*cking, and they tend to fill clothing out better.I don't like huge boobs,but I like c/d although I'm a guy I don't really know but I like big boobs,always have.I have only had 5 girlfriends but they all had big boobs.They just look better.
Ok. Good for you. I asked what I can do with my insecurity though. But fine. At least you wouldn't waste a small girl's time like my ex did with me. And that's honorable.
Big boobs rule
I liked big breasts better.I don't date small breasted women,small breasts just aren't attractive to me
Honestly, I have no preference. Big boobs are great for obvious reasons, but there's something special about small boobs as well. Big boobs are hot, but small ones are cute, and I tend to gravitate more towards cute, personally. As long as your in shape and you've got the personality, you shouldn't have any trouble :)
Cute? Women want to be hot too you know. At least in bed, the last thing I wanna be is cute!
Why not? Cute = unique. I'd MUCH rather have a unique cute girl than a generic hot one. Besides, cute is sexually appealing in a very special way. Watching a cute girl want to be sexy for her guy is extremely flattering, not to mention....well.......hot...frankly.
Yeah, exactly. There is no specific definition of what hot is. Some men find fat chicks hot (not many but they are still there). In my experience i think that at least 30-40% of all men find smaller breasts hotter than big breasts. That's why i don't understand these insecurities some women have about their small breasts when so many of the male population actually prefers them, not only because they are cute, but because they find them just Hotter than big breasts. ("don't understand" - in a metaphorical sense, i kind of do understand - its based off a lie portrayed by the media. And since i'm male i cannot know what it feels like to have insecurities about my breast size). Women should stop believing in the media lie that big breasts = better, its just not true for almost half of the male population, if not more. And i'm talking about hotness not cuteness.
First off, your boyfriend may have been going down the right track of the "men have evolved to like bigger breasts" comment. Since we are mammals, and traditionally we fed our children through our mammary glands (breast feed), bigger boobs may have had an evolutionary advantage, providing more food for the young. Men who chose women with a big chest had more offspring that survived infancy, who grew to prefer larger breasts. However, this is just a hypothesis, but it does make sense.
Okay, so besides the fact of how men evolved to enjoy a voluptuous woman, not all men do. I am a 34D, so I have never had problems attracting boob guys. But some guys aren't boob guys. My last couple of boyfriends said that you could take them or leave them, they didn't care one way or the other. One of them was more of a leg guy, the other was more of a face (eyes/smile) guy. They both said that mine were nice, but not something they cared about at all.
You may not be able to attacked 100% of the men out there, but that is because they all have different tastes. If you are skinny you aren't going to attract 100% of the men, if you are fat you aren't going to attract 100% of the men, if you are white or black or whatever you are not going to attract 100% of the men. But don't worry about the guys you can't attract, think about the guys you can! You seem to have gotten a boob guy even though you don't have boobs, which means you have other highly attractive qualities. Focus on those characteristics and the right guy, boob guy or not, will find you, and either LOVE yours or not care that they aren't DDs.
First of all he's a ex. And no, I don't think big boobs have to do with fertility or any of that crap. I have big hips and I'm really fertile. That's what the doc said. My sister has no hip and big boobs and she's almost infertile. See? Plus bigger doesn't mean more milk either. It's been proven! Some societies, say in Africa, don't fuss over breasts at all. It's all cultural so biology plays no part. Good for you for being big, but you don't get it. He settled for me and it hurt...
I never said it has anything to do with YOUR fertility. Back when were were still a lesser primate (millions of years ago) this could have been a characteristic that help infants live due to nutritional requirements (NOTHING to do with the mother's fertility). Also, it hasn't been "proven" either way. You clearly lack knowledge in biology, but that is okay, you just need to watch that word when you are talking about science. Good for you for being a b**** I doubt he left you for your boobs
Actually I left him, thanks a lot, because he was a jealous, abusive idiot.
Question asker, this girl is trying to help you. Don't be so hard on her.
But she called me a bitch. I never called her that, just that she doesn't get it 'cause she's big, she's never been called Pancakes or had a guy tell her he'd make her boobs bigger. Plus I hate it when people side with him, I know they don't know what he did to me, but anyone siding with him just irks me cause he was such an idiot, abusive, he even hit me.
that's a different issue. He had no right to be violent towards you, and if it is still a problem bring it to authorities.