Girl would you give a guy a hand job?

[Anonymous]

or stroke his p**** if you were short on time? Guys , is it a turn off? To just stroke the penis with on intent to drive to orgasm, if the girl is short on time & OR does not know you extremely well?your short on time? Girls, would you give a guy a hand job {Or really I guess stroke / caress etc. , if you did not know his sexual drive well? {Not know how quick he gets turned on& to what extent, & or what he expects from certain moves} & you did no have a whole bunch of time {To make sure he org.} & did not want to have sex?

[Anonymous]

No, it's not a turn off at all, it would be very sweet of her. It could be a bit frustrating if there wasn't the time to do anything more though. This is because most women aren't that good at giving hand-jobs, and it's really awkward and difficult to give them tips. Most manipulate the penis too far down the shaft, and hold it in their fist, rather than using their fingers. In fact, their hand can never even get into the ideal position to give one (nature put the man's hand there!). You can't really give one with one hand as you need one hand to "anchor" the penis in position at its base, and the other to manipulate his penis (ideally his foreskin, but the head of the penis for a circumcised man). The best way to keep it from going on you is to keep the head pointed away as much as possible, especially if you think you've nearly completed it! On the final point, I'd be fine about her not having anything done at that time, but would feel indebted to her, and feel that the next intimacy we shared would be "hers" as much as I could make it!

[Subotai]

Well we could give them ourselves sure but I would like that and I think most guys would it feels dirty in a good way to see it in her hands and her jacking it. Especially when she looks you in the eye her hand on your pen.s and then slowly unzips my zipper talks dirty, takes her shirt off or gives me a little lap dance or something. I love the feeling of exploding in a girls hand. Its usually a powerful orgasm for me, it can feel better than an orgasam from sex. I still prefer sex though for the intimacy. A girl who just casually gives you handjobs in the car or sitting on the couch when you walk in the door and aren't expecting it that's really hot. Ironically a lot of girls are too soft and slow you can go a little faster and don't worry so much about hurting it. When I am "taking care of myself" I handle it a lot harder than most girls do. I understand why most girls are nervous and appreciate the caution. Of course no reason you can't expect the same thing. Why doesn't he put his hand down your panties and finger you too.

[Asker]

Well, my question is for future reference.. The time inspired the ques. was on my way to work &i stopped off to pick up my Cd. He was in a towel cause he just came out of the shower & we just started kissing & was very hard & I felt sort of responsible kissing him, tho he might have been that way before, IDK.But he seemed kind of majorly turned on & he kind of positioned things so it would be pretty easy access for me..I had to stop, in case I did not have time. Did not want lead him on. :-)

[Subotai]

Well that's nice of you. Its nice to have a girlfriend who isn't like judgemental about her guy getting turned on or something. You would be suprised at how fast a guy can get off from hand stimulation and I am sure that would be a hot memory he would store in his mind for a while. Its like finally after those torturous teenage years an amazing woman is doing this for me lol. That said every once in a while there's nothin wrong with getting him all hot and bothered for later that night...

[Asker]

I love all this straightforward information.. Now I feel bad for not just doing something sort of quick. lol. I thought guys get very frustrated if there is just a bit then stopping... Thanks for the info. I'll make use of it. :-)

[Subotai]

Well if you actually whip it out I think most guys will appreciate you sticking around for an orgasm. This will sound weird but honestly just masturbating ourself in the presence of a woman especially one we really like is better than alone. I can't really explain it but to guys that is worth much more it becomes a "real" sexual experience

[Asker]

That is very surprising to me.. that is like polar opposite of what I would expect.. That is unfortunate since I am usually quite good at intuiting other people..Oh well, I guess I'll learn. Really tho, don't you guys get embarrassed just loosing control in front of someone, especially if the other is not orgasm.. I could not mess up my cloths, even if wanted a quick whatever.. Which, I think would have been a little too much for now. BTW. Can you give a guy a HJ. With one hand?

[Subotai]

No we don't get uncomfortable when our penis is feeling good uncomfortable and thoughts about clothes go out the window. Not just that just being in the same room as a girl we really like can make us crazy. As for a mess just make sure you aim it not at you when he's gonna blow. By clothes did you mean like have a quickie that would be hot too. But sticking with the handjob you could do it with one hand. leaves your other hand open to play with the boys (his balls) lol. Have fun

[Asker]

Ha, ha.. NOt enough time for a quickie. By clothes I mean when he sprays - or whatever , & if it gets on what I am wearing -{ I had a business suit on - had just stopped by to pick something up - NOt that. :-) How do you clean it off anyways? & really how doe it not get all over if his penis is right near you stomach. We were kissing so I was VERY close to his body & I don't see how that would not have been a mess. What about AFTER he cums..Are Guys self concious THEN?... EVER ? lol

[Subotai]

Usually we are tired after cumming. Not embarrased but relaxed and sort of in a glow and probably rerunning what just happened in our mind. If it was good we add it to our own personal library of porn movies inside out mind we can be kinda boring after we come to be honest. As for spraying. Just aim it away from you maybe into a tissue or take your shirt of and shoot it on your boobs and rub it in if you want to be really dirty if that's too much I'd just stick with a tissue it works

[Asker]

Yes, I'll stick it in my shirt then go to work :-).... ' If that's too much' too much? - Like a volcano.. anyways the tissue is fine for skin but what about cloths.. well am sure I can be innovative.. anyways, the thing about guys being tired after.. So your just kind of fine with life for a bit? how long does the 'glow' last? I want to know it would be a good time to hang out with my BF.. he talks more then I do lol. & Even when he sits still he can not sit still - Like me. "Relax"

[Subotai]

Ur funny I meant if you don't want come on your clothes point his d.ck at a tissue or even better take your shirt off and rub it on your boobs or swallow it. Your in control point and aim girl. As for if it gets on your clothes Idk. My come usually ends up in a condom or inside my gfs tummy. Back when I was 15 and snuck on the computer at night I wore an old pair of shorts and didn't care they were stained white eww anyways. the glow varies on how intense it was its a good feeling but quiet

[Asker]

Wellllll, how long could I maybe be able to get him to stay quiet for, - if I don't really know what I am doing? I know it depends , but give me a hypothetical possible period of time, for quiet, for peace. :-)

[gravygirl]

I do it for my guy. He's got a bit of a thing for me to stroke his **** with lotion while I give him a bit of a show, so I do that for him sometimes. He always cums a ton, so I'm pretty sure he's fine with it.

[yohomiegee]

i don't give handjobs. guys can do them better themselves

[Asker]

What if he asked you to ? Why WOULD A guy want service , if they ARE better themselves..... {Maybe he wanted something else. {Sorry random} - Hmm Thanks!

[Subotai]

Well we can get ourselves off faster and in some ways better from jacking off than even sex. But you will meet few guys who then conclude they never want a sexual relationship from a woman and just masturbate their whole life. Guys could also just give each other blowjobs but most men would be mortified by that idea lol. Its sort of like how you can't tickle yourself try it you cant. It feels better for someone else to do it.

[Bruce]

You are right about that

[hellothere]

I think its more enjoyable if a girl helps out :)

[Asker]

Ok, Ok. I think you guys are saying that minimally a guy would not be too upset if you stroked his c*** for a while + or minus more? Also I was wondering, how do you guys feel about totally loosing control while your girlfriend is just sort of standing there.. I guess you don't mind since you don' mind hj ect.. I'd be more then a little self conscious probably for myself & I am sure a bit if he did- I have LITTLE experience, if t is not already apparent.. Thanks for the info. Always helpful

[Asker]

Would you let just any girl give you a Hand Job,if she was your age & clean? Or would you a have to know her & or like her ? Don't know why I just asked tat I'm curious tho, how intimate a hand job is for guys?

[Subotai]

Honestly yeah I probably wouldn't say no and I am single right now. Hopefully I would say no if I wasn't. It can be intimate if its with someone you have a relationship but I have gotten some random ones that weren't intimate. But also from my first girlfriend and that's a nice memory "Massages" usually come with them. I don't see that as prostitution really its just sort of a touch thing.

[Asker]

That was VERY helpful & kinda sweet.. How did you know I was wondering about the prostitution element of it.. Well. That is what I worry most about. That either It would feel degrading,or that he would think of me in a derogatory way..NOT INTENTIONALLY, on either part.. Just those annoying thoughts that come uninvited :-) I know he respects me now, & I would not want that to change...Do guys ever think diffeernetly {Not deliberately} of girls {negatively} after they give them bJ/ or HJ ?

[Subotai]

Im glad you think my massage parlor stories are sweet. No I don't think men will think of you less for doing a hj or bj unless it seems like some tactic to get him to do stuff which it doesn't sound like. If its not like the first date and its part of a relationship its not like that at all and it is at the same time. Its hot to think a woman is like a hooker pornstar with you only not with anyone else. I wouldn't marry a woman who never gave blowjobs and I love to "eat out" as well

[Asker]

So, your saying it'd a bit trashy but in a good way? lol. I was saying it was kinda sweet that you had good memories & I do not pretend to know... That's between you the & the sheets. :-) Do stuff? You mean like favors.. Oh no. Not me. If I want something I hope I'll get it don't expect to & ALWAYS ask no strings attached. BTW. I am not even at the point initiate one.. I was just wondering what he would think if I actually did anything. if he asked.. This is likePg 13....- Well for 2010:-)

[yohomiegee]

Back to the first comment... if it was boyfriend maybe but guys can give handjobs 10 times better than girls so why not just go for a bj. I'm not a slut haha just I feel like if its ur boyfriend you can do whatever you want with him without being looked at as a slut. but everyone has different opinions like I personally don't like handjobs which is why I wouldn't give them to anyone

[Subotai]

My good memories were from my first girlfriend not the massage lol. I try to just think of the good parts of that first relationship anyway. If you don't think its too soon which is really up to you he won't think any less of you. I think a lot of guys assume that the sexual relatiionship will progress slowly through stages kisses touching nudity ect. And don't expect it to happen all at once the hj is a good step not slutty if its a real relationship and tends to trigger fond memories of high schoo

[jaydee84]

it's a massive turn on. I tend to come fast anyway so if a girl was short on time and wanted to give me a h/j I would come really fast, under a minute, maybe 30 seconds

[Asker]

Wow.. Well, that is good to know. Really, thanks ! :-)

[Anonymous]

I think it would be a waste. There's always time for something better. If all your gonna do is give a hand job, don't. If that's the only action I'm gonna get, let me do it myself. I've done it more than you and I'll do a better job.