Girlfriend had sex with a random guy before we met, cant deal with her past?

[colombo21]

im in love with my girlfriend. she's the most amazing person ever. however, before we met she had this one night out where she got drunk and had sex with some random guy. and it was her first time too! so when she told me I got mad and I couldn't even talk to her Because she is so sweet and caring that I didn't even expect to find that out about her. at the same time she gets sad every time I bring it up Because she wanted her first time to be special and it was ruined by some fat, drunk guy. so how do I deal with that?

[TheAnswerer]

Like "knowmeyourself" said, people make mistakes.

You never tripped and fell? Never broke a window? Never swore loudly? Never hurt someone's feelings? Never killed an insect? Never stepped on someone else's foot?

We all do small mistakes, all tthe time. So what if her mistake was a little bigger?

The fact that she never did the same mistake again, and the fact that she thinks "she ruined everything" shows that she feels really guilty about this. What can she do to make it up to you? Travel back in time?

The only thing she can do to make it up to you is not to make the same mistake again, and she hasn't done it again.

Just move on, because it's in the past and neither of you can change what has happened.

[SenselessNoise]

Years before I was dating my now ex-gf, she was raped by her first boyfriend. That was her first time.

How do you deal with it? You stop talking about it. If you don't like it, move on; you're not helping her by constantly showing how disappointed you are in her. People make mistakes; I'm sure you've made a few. How would you like it if someone kept bringing them up?

I'm sure she's not too thrilled with what she's done, but it's in the past and it's over... either support her and help her, or leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

First of all, people make mistakes.

Secondly, it's OK that she did something against your beliefs, culture, approval or was a surprise for you...but you better get over it soon if you care about her.

Finally, instead of getting mad at her support her. Probably she's mad at herself already that she doesn't need anymore drama. If you love her, be by her side & make her feel better.

[Elisha22]

^ Best advice right here ^

[TheAnswerer]

Agreed. Best answer material here.

[colombo21]

yea I think you're right.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks :)

[SkinnyBuddha74]

I could see if she's still doing it every weekend... But it happened once. And it was before you. You're just mad because she has a sexual past that didn't include you. Get over it. And she gets sad every time you bring it up? Simple! Stop bringing it up!

[Gregs]

I pretty much expect women to be just as perverted as guys are usually stereotyped to be. guys talk big on threesomes, but it's women who are usually having them. I even knew this one girl who would have anal sex only because she wanted to be a virgin for the guy she would marry

My advice, don't be that guy that want's a complete angel, live in reality and you end up having a better relationship

[Cptnjjim]

That really says a lot about her character, she sounds pretty stupid and if I found out my girlfriend did that id dump her.