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Girls - Is Getting a Lap Dance with Extras Cheating?
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Girls - Is Getting a Lap Dance with Extras Cheating? I have been dating a girl for 4 years. She is expecting a ring on her hand sometime in 2014. She will do anything with me but won’t go all the way because she “doesn't want to make the same mistake again”. I’m getting tired of the current relationship and not thrilled about the expectations of having lots of sex when we are finally married (Yawn), and starting a family down the road (scared). My dad suggested that I go to a strip club in the better part of town with some buddies. It was not at all what I expected. I thought it would be a disappointment but I had the best time of my life. The 5 dancers that paid attention to me where close to my age (23). The 5 dancers were pretty with amazing bodies. I was told “you’re cute” by the 5 dancers and got a kiss on the lips from all of them which pissed off the older guys by the stage. They said I should come back because they would like to have more cute younger men sitting by the stage and to lap dance on. Having younger men their age makes their job more enjoyable. \ Here is what happened. I got kissed on the lips by 5 dancers while sitting by the stage. I got a face full of bare tit by 5 dancers while sitting by the stage. I was headlocked by their legs with my face in their crotch by a few dancers while sitting by the stage. I got 3 lap dances with 2 of them by the same dancer. During the lap dances I got grinded with only my boxers on, kissed on the lips and neck, face full of tit, and hand jobbed on the last lap dance. The last lap dance was free because the girl said “Don't worry about it, I like you, this one is on me”. I was worried that I would get kicked out but I guess you won’t get kicked out if you keep your hands to yourself and let them do all of the touching. The same girl from the second and third lap dances texted me her number and wanted me to come back after her shift was up. I didn’t go back that night and I regretted it. But I texted her everyday this week and said I will be there this Saturday night. Girls-do you consider what happened to me cheating? Should I lie to my girlfriend about the details of what happened?
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I went to see the same dancer again after texting her all week. The second experience with her was just as good as the first time!
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What Girls & Guys Said
24 4Sounds like you really love your girlfriend. See all those old single lonely guys by the stage that the dancers don't like ? That's going to be you someday if you don't want to ever committed to your girlfriend. Making a commitment and settling down and having a family, sure it's scary for any guy but that's called being a real man. That takes more balls than going to The strip club and paying girls to pay attention to you.
I think a real man sees an opportunity and decides to go for it. I kept in contact with the dancer all week, went back to the club, had another amazing time, and stayed the night at her apartment. we are now seeing each other. I saw the opportunity and went for it. Now I just need to break up with my girlfriend.
You sound like real winner in my book. I'm sure any girl would by lucky to have you. NOT
I think I'm only going to break up if the dancer is pushing for it.
WHOA! nice experience! Did the last girl jerk you till you came? How hot were these girls body wise? When you were getting a face full of bare tit, what kind of tits were they? Real/fake/small/large?
BTW, your girlfriend fucked other guys before but won't fuck you till you get married? Sounds like a sham to me.
Yes my relationship is a shame. No I wasn't jerked until I came. She was just using the hj to tease me more. The tits were natural and the 21 year old bods were beautiful they spend time at the gym. The older women are the ones with the implants.
Nice, nice! So was she reaching into your boxers and stroking bare cock, or was she rubbing you through your pants? This sounds like an AWESOME strip club experience. The best I had was a stripper putting her lips on my hard on over my pants. I hope you didn't tell your girl about any of this. . .
She reached into my boxers but didn't pull it out. She did the hj because she gave me 2 lap dances in the same night and felt comfortable with me.
That's awesome, but why didn't she get you to cum?
They never make the guys come in the club. It will create too much sticky mess and they still have to finish their shift. Plus the whole bodily fluids thing is unsanitary.
Fair enough, I guess. Still that would be pretty damn awesome! Now if only you could see her outside the club she could finish what she started! :P
She asked me to comeback after her shift last week but I didn't. I regretted not going back.
Yeah, you totally should. Grab a drink with her after her shift sometime and see if you can take things to a more complete conclusion!
@update: Did you just see her at the club, or did you get some alone time with her? Was she still reaching into your pants?
I saw here again this weekend. The second time seeing her was just as good as the first time. I spent the night at her apartment. We are going out for coffee this week.
So full on sex? How was it?
It was amazing! I'm still thinking about it. She is so cool to spend time with.
Time to make a change then, huh? So how did it happen? This sounds like a pretty awesome story!
The first time met her, I couldn't come back to the club to meet her afterward because I felt like I was going to get caught. So I told her that night I will make it up to you and keep in touch through text this week. Then on Tuesday I took her out for coffee and set a date for Saturday night.
I just got lucky that she broke up with her boyfriend 2 weeks ago and I was the right guy at the right time. Timing was the whole difference maker. We agreed to keep seeing each other. She likes coffee and has similar interests to me. I'm going to ask take her to a nice dinner sometime soon, she is really wanting to eat someplace nice.
Nice! And sex with a stripper--everything you thought it would be? How awesome is she in bed?
Yes, it was amazing because we were so compatible to begin with and we naturally knew when to give and take. She was tight. I didn't have a vision on what I wanted it to be. In real life, the first time with someone new can be good or awkward depending on compatibility. The only way that this this working is because we treat each other like good friends.
Cool! How long had you been with the previous girl? And she hasn't had sex with you the whole time? When was the last time you had sex before the stripper?
I've been dating my current girlfriend for 4 years. We have oral sex frequently.
Got it. So she sucks you off but you haven't had full sex for 4 years until this stripper? Wow! That must've been pretty good, huh?
if your girl goes to a strip club and gets lapdances by 5 diffferent guys and gets kissed by them do you consider that cheating? if you do then what you did is cheating, if you don't think your girl would be cheating then you are not, let me know what you think about my reasoning.
Youre a girl and I need your opinion. Is this cheating? Would you dump me if you knew the details?
answer my question first, if your girl did the same thing do you consider that cheating?
I don't care about my girlfriend because I've given more to the relationship than received. Since I don't care about her then I wouldn't care if she did the same. If I did care about her, which I dont, then I would care if she did the same. Now would you consider me cheating if I was your boyfriend?
so here's my answer: if your girlfriend cares about you, then yes IT IS CHEATING...if your Girlfriend doesnot care about you then NO ONE F***KING cares what you do. If you were MY boyfriend, then I would go to a strip club get the same lapdances/kisses...you got, THEN dump you... if you were some guy I'm just going out with then I would NOT f***cking care what you do.
so YOU pick which guy you want to be !
I am seeing the dancer now. So I've chosen my path. I just need to try and find the right time to break up with my girlfriend.
Wow dude that is horrible, I really hope in the last hour your girlfriend
Girlfriend?
dude just break up with your girl already...
I think I'm only going to break up if the dancer is pushing for it.