Girls: How would you feel if a guy told you about this fetish?

[Anonymous]

I'm mainly asking the girls here because I was sort of curious regarding the average female reaction to my fetish. I know it would depend on a lot of things: how long you've been together, how comfortable you are with him, how much you love him, what mood you're in when he tells you, and so on. There are plenty of things that could possibly alter this reaction. For the sake of this question, let's say it's in a serious relationship, the two of you love and care about each other deeply, and you're in a good mood when he decides to tell to you about it; these parameters because they're when I'd plan on coming out to a girl. I'd also like to say that I'd consider myself to be at least a decent boyfriend. I don't mean to sound like I think I'm God's gift to women or anything like that, but I consider myself to be romantic, affectionate, honest, loyal, above average intelligence (admittedly maybe not by much), and caring. A lot of girls also seem to think I’m funny and nice. Again, I’m not trying to brag, but I know I have a few qualities girls in general seem to like in romantic partners and I definitely want more out of a relationship than just sex. During high school, however, I tended to avoid relationships for a couple reasons. For one, high school relationships rarely seem to work out, as teenagers usually can’t tell the difference between true love and mere cases of lust or puppy love, though there are obvious exceptions to this rule. For another, I was afraid because my high school was in a somewhat small town. Virtually everyone knew each other and that meant if I told the wrong girl about my fetish, the whole school would know and girls would think I’m a freak or something and I was worried of tarnishing my reputation. College is a different story since it’s in a city and girls are more mature, thus relationships involving love are far more likely and girls have probably grown more open minded about things like fetishes. What I’m getting at is that I consider myself to be at least a decent boyfriend and in relationships, I definitely place love above sex. Realistically I’ll still crave my fetish every now and then. At this point, you’re probably wondering what it is, so I'll tell you: my fetish involves girls’ flatulence. That said, I actually find it attractive when girls fart near me. Here’s my question: if you were dating a guy you loved that had a personality you admired, what would you do if he told you he had this fetish? Would you start farting near him when you need to since there’s no physical harm, perhaps thinking it’s kind of funny that you wouldn’t have to worry about holding it in anymore? Or would you be put off by it because you think is gross no matter how much you loved a guy? I’d like to thank anyone in advance who actually took the time to read all this and look forward to your answers. I’d like to think there’s still some hope for me and it would be nice if any of you can confirm there's still hope for me.

[QueenKatie]

First of all, you sound like a great boyfriend! You're clearly really sensitive - you know what makes a good relationship, you understand the need for trust, love and care, and you've grasped the all-important fact that a fetish like this isn't just about you: the other person has to feel comfortable with it too, and the context and manner in which you talk to them about it will be all-important in creating that sense of freedom beetween you. Personally, I'd do pretty much anything to turn my guy on, if he asked me to - and I sometimes wish he'd ask me more often, because it makes me happy to see him aroused.

I believe that sharing something like this, in a strong, longterm relationship, will make your partnership stronger, building trust and freedom between you. Far from being horrified or grossed out by your fetish, I think it's quite amusing and really quite cute. I suspect that when you find the right girl, she'll be more than happy to indulge you! (In fact, as you say, many women are morbidly afraid of farting during sex - it might even be a bit of a relief for some women that they can let themselves go!)

[Asker]

I can understand that you'd find it amusing, but I had no idea something like this could be perceived as cute. Out of curiosity, what do you think is cute about it? Is it because girls are normally mortified when they fart near their significant other, so a fetish for it shows that I actually like it, thus making her comfortable with it? Like you said, though, when I find the right girl, she'll probably have no problem farting near me and might even think it's funny or cute. Thanks.

[QueenKatie]

Well, as far as fetishes go, it's quite a tame one (certainly compared to scat, or snot fetishes!) I guess I find it cute because it's really about being very close and intimate with someone else and trusting them... and it doesn't involve a huge mess (which for me personally is a turnoff).

[Gooseman]

@QueenKatie - Amazing response. I wish more women were as open and understanding as you are.

[Anonymous]

Tricky, at first I would probably laugh but honestly it doesn't sound so bad. You sound like a nice guy and decent guys are sometimes hard to find. If someone told me that and I valued them so much I don't think I would change it may just make me more comfortable around them. A lot of girls are self conscious about farting around their partners but if they were told that it didn't matter and that it was more of a turn on, not a turn off I think it would bring them closer as it would be one less thing to cover up.

I think that if you want this relationship to be a long term thing then telling her would be a good thing to do. After all she may laugh at first, but it will probably be a bit of a relief for and it may also bring you closer. You can be comfortable around each other. Relationships are built on trust and honesty and at the end of the day what is the worst that can happen?

[Asker]

You're probably right. After all, like you said, since girls are usually nervous about farting near someone they like anyway, telling her I think it's cute and a turn on would probably make her not mind doing it near me and she might even start to enjoy it since like you said, it kind of brings us closer. Besides, in a serious relationship, I highly doubt a girl would break up with me over something like this since there are far more extreme fetishes out there. Thanks for your helpful answer.

[Izzy_M]

i honestly thing its okay I mean if you have been in a relationship for a long time. I have had boyfriends and friends who were guys that tolled me about their fetishes. some are serious fetishes some are the kinda normal stuff I won't say what they were but yh...i think its actually a good thing seriously then the girl won't have to worry about holding in for to long...

with that let her tell you her fetish as well I mean it might make it normal after a few akward laughs haha but yh

it depends on the girl as well so don't just go with my advice and yea it well be okay I don't know that for sure. but for myself and couple of girls out there they won't rlly care if they love you they love you!

hope I helped dude.

t.c

[Asker]

Thanks for your answer. Hopefully when I decide to tell a girl about it she'll have an attitude similar to yours and think it's good that she won't have to hold it in near me anymore. Like you sort of implied, I doubt a girl would stop loving me just because I have this fetish. Sure, it might take a little bit for her to get comfortable farting near me, but if she loves me, she'd probably be able to put up with a fetish like this. Especially considering it's not a harmful fetish or anthing.

[Gooseman]

I have a very similar fetish. I get called names all the time. The women that do give me a chance and really get to know me, end up liking me for the person I am. I do everything possible to not become annoying or make a woman feel uncomfortable because of this. It is a very embarrassing fetish to admit to and discuss with a woman because you never know how they will react. I've met women and got along famously with them for weeks and as soon as I trust them enough to tell them about my fetish, they turn on me and run off. It is very disheartening.

[fleeble]

I'm betting a lot of girls would exclaim "dats nAsty!" and mock you before leaving with all your money in a lawsuit.

The ones who are convinced they are open-minded would be weirded out, then later make up another reason to dump you and take all your money in a lawsuit.

[gabbsv586]

hmmm... it all depends for me. at first maybe ill be like damn you freak, but it all depends on the factors you said like if I'm comfortable with the guy or something like that I would consider it and think about it.

[Gooseman]

A lot of girls think guys are freaks for liking when girls fart.