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Guys obsessed with sex... or girls?
carlo Xper 6
So why is it that girls always say guys are obsessed with sex, then you ask around and is the girls who've had truck loads of different sexual partners (including one night stands) and the guys... well, we wank, apart possibly from a few that must be getting all the action? It looks like girls are 'not obsessed' with sex just because they get their share pretty much whenever they want, and then accuse the hungry to be obsessed with it. Girls say sex is not that important yet sleep around like rabbits.Double standards, innit? No wonder I've got the angel/whore complex, where did you think I got it from if not from you? Note: this dilemma is one of the reason I've got so much rage and disgust for girls, but I don't know how much of it can be perceived now that I had to tune down the original question because it was removed. Of course, I also heavily envy girls for that, I mean, they say they crave so much for love, they don't realize guys like me don't even get to have physical touch or a bit of intimacy, and that's quite common among males, and I'm reasonably good looking, educated, clean, good family, fun etc all that stuff, but I wanked myself to death, not for my choice. And my fault? guys are not allowed to have insecurities and shyness. So much for womens' rant and preaching which goes on and on about guys being emotionally dumb. If you're emotionally dumb, at least you get laid. The emotionally aware, well I'm embarrassed of myself, but I'm the socially retarded sissy who wanks. Girls,don't come and tell me 'one day you will find it' because it's bullsh*t. I don't want to find love one day, I want to get laid now. What are your views?
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I mean, when I hear girls (and I hear that) it's two months I am not having sex I'm really going crazy I need to have it. Two months? That's for sissies, try a few years then you tell me how it feels
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so the question being, are guys obsessed with sex, or would girls be obsessed just as much if they didn't get any? I've seen girls starved for sex, and they act just as desperate as guys and in need for just a f***
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What Girls & Guys Said
19 13Trust my advice when I say stop having any philosophy on this situation as you're repelling girls instead of attracting them, which is what you want. Take a new approach by seeking a hookup buddy. Believe me. I've seen enough ads on TV, Internet...there are a lot of women looking to hookup with you if you drop the theory of girls being tramps. Girls also don't find insecurity attractive...so don't mention it and you actually will have an opportunity.
i've sen your profile,so you know somehow where I come from. Ur metnioning exactly 1of my crosses:i'm not allowed to be depressed and insecure,coz aknowledging that means isolation from the girls,it's like if I'm me (insecure),i'm not accepted.I'm the equivalent of a fat ugly girl.ok, I'm tired of whining, thanks for your time.what's hookup?prostitute or casual sex?
That's something you need to work on first then. You can't date someone until you are content with yourself first. It sucks, there's no easy pill to take, everyone finds their own ways of getting out of personal issues. Once you get that underway..I mean dude have you never seen 1 pop up of like "local singles in your area" or something of that matter? W/e go to Zoosk.com it was advertised on TV as being a flirt website nothing serious
:D you've never been a guy before have u?:)I've tried it but it's like mission impossible to me.I know for you that may sound how can it be mission impossible? I can't explain it, only guys can understand (I mean, average guys like me, not the fairly limited amount of guys successful with girls, they don't have that problem).Is there anything you girls feel so frustrated we guys don't get about you and think only by actually being a female we could understand?Same here,getting a girl is like
a massive wall that can never be transpassed. Maybe things are changing now, you're still teen, maybe you girls now are being more proactive with guys so they get more pussy. BUt as a general rule, for guys is very difficult to find a girl.
i mean, I've tried internet datin and casual hookup, clubs etc. The fact is, when we guys are with a girl, we panic to lose her...not because we'll never find another one who can love us.. nono because we are afraid we're never gonna have sex ever again, lucky we're getting some! It's true trust me, there are many guys like me, in fact most of the ones I know! but so much for stop whining!
Dude, really stop with the philosophy I don't believe a word you're saying. Have you tried being a girl? Gender doesn't matter, it's your biochemical makeup, and yes I have been in the deepest hole I wanted to leave my life don't make false assumptions. It took me 2 YEARS to mentally fight anxiety, chronic depression, paranoia, bipolar, and I only take valium for panic attacks. It's hard as f***, but when you really want something, NOTHING is impossible. If you fight me on this I can't help u.
look, I don't know what is like to be a girl, but I guess the immense pressure on you to be pretty must be very soul distroying. Having said that, really, maybe you girls fear not to find someone who loves you ever again if you break up, but are concern is even before than that, even more basic, like really, afraid of not being touched by a girl at all ever again.I admire what you're done,sometimes though it's also a matter of luck, e.g. I think I'm getting out of it,but I'm lucky,albeit
insecure, depreseed, suicidal, lonely etc, there is a part in me which has will to keep going,which likes me and which says I'm great.But I believe I've been lucky for that in the sense I have a good family, my parents are good poeple,i've got a job which allows me to pay therapist and other things I'm doing..so yes, it's a part your will, but also luck.And it's also realizing that sometimes you just have all bones broken, no matter how much you want to run,u need to heal the bones first and also hope
the damage anyway wasn't to big to leave you on a wheelchair. Maybe I'm victimizing myself,partially I am, nut not completely.Give you a silly example,if your lost in a new city, you'll hardly find the station in time not to miss the train,but if someone local gives directions, chances increase.Sometime though finding the local is a matter of luck.
i must be geti=ting f***ing alzheimer because spelling and sense of sentences is decreasing quickly haha
thank you a lot for the advice of stop having any philosophy about it, it's good advice, I do fantazise a lot and need to get more real facts
I'm glad I could be of help. I can help give you tips and guide you to fight the depression but it has to come from you. Also...why is your typing so off? PS I am a philosophy minor and have had a lot of background experience. Plus I'm a deep thinker myself, if you need help with that as well.
First of all, this is coming across extremely stereotypical. I have PLENTLY of girl friends that are juniors and seniors in college who are virgins-not to mention, they're absolutely gorgeous. Don't group all girls into one category because you came across a few promiscuous ones. Second, it always depends on the person, whether guy or girl. I personally have a highly big interest in sex, and honestly, it's mostly my genes. I'm a science major and your parents greatly influence more than you would imagine. If you were to survey the US, I would say it'd be close to 50/50.
I envy you extremely deeply. I hate you too, I guess it's my huge sense of inferiority
don't take that comment home with you,it's me, so just leave it with me&don't be touched by my comment, sorry, I feel so crap with myself
lol no worries...I'm quite confused what you're even asking now. I kinda skimmed your post but what are you asking? Or seeking for that matter? The question was barely addressed..all I'm getting from your post is that you wanna have sex pronto? and envy me? Are you implying I'm one of the "Rabbits" lol because I am certainly not. I highly enjoy it with my boyfriend. Sorry no "truckers"
Well in my view is that girls are jst as crazy about sex, yet not obsessed because they can get it if they choose so (within a relationship and/or casual sex). guys don't get it not for their choice so become obsessed out of starvation, yet are accused to be the pigs who can only think of that. Of course,whatever you're starving from becomes your obsession.but maybe there's also a bit of DNA,I read somewhere girls in a lesbian relationship after the initial heat have less sex,not so 4 gays
yes I was implying you were a slutty rabbit. I realize that maybe I get so upset when I like the girls (from the pic you seem very attractive) so I feel 'betrayed' as if I'm being cheated on, if I don't like the girl I think I don't get so upset, I think sometimes I don't even bother. I do of course get envious of guys who f*** around too,but in different ways,I think with the girls there's the element of feeling betrayed.Now don't ask me about my mother because that's all my shriks are asking melol
Alright. If you want to have sex, and if you are the guy you described yourself as, then take a breather and calm the hell down (no offense but you're really not going to get any actual advice with your rage.) You'd be surprised how many girls find subtle masculine traits attractive e.g. playing the guitar idk. Re-read your tirades below, know that what these girls are saying is indeed the truth, and you really can find a girl fast by taking a different approach..as in..trying to find a hookup?
so the question being, are guys obsessed with sex, or would girls be obsessed just as much if they didn't get any? I've seen girls starved for sex, and they act just as desperate as guys.
How can you claim to not be "emotionally dumb" or "obsessed with sex" like other guys, yet the last part of your sentence says that you don't want to find love, you want to get laid now. LOL yeahhhh, I *really* want to have sex with a guy like that. A woman hating hypocrite. You're not better than the guys we're talking about.
where do I say that I'm not obsessed with sex? as for me not being better than the guys we're talking about, you're probably right. I do state though that I'm a social retarded, because it looks that 'the emotionally dumb' are not that dumb, if I'm wanking and they're getting laid, that's why I think I'm a retarded whiny brat, and it's f***ing frustrating, like I'd like to eradicate with violence a part of me from me
i mean p**** feels good there's just nothing else around
Girls are definitely more obsessed with sex. Most girls I know call it a dry spell if they haven't had sex in a month. While most guys that I know go years without getting any.
I have to agree with what you wrote in your opening post, almost all the girls I've seen at bars, clubs, parties, were there looking for sex regardless if they were already in relationships or saying that they were looking for one. The worst is the bachelorette parties now days where the brides tend to have sex with the hired help before getting married. If that isn't cheating I don't know what is.
Alot of girls are hypocrites that practise "do as I say not as I do".
It's okay, because I'm obsessed with sex & men. The only difference between you and me is that I don't actually have sex. I believe in waiting till marriage, but I'm constantly horny, in fact, sometimes I'm so horny, my whole body aches...
but you see that is your choice
Yes, I understand that is my choice.
Sometimes I get so horny that I cry.
"I've got so much rage and disgust for girls,"
"I also heavily envy girl"
"What are your views?"
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just proved my point
but it does look like you're too dumb to even realize that ha ha idiot!
you'll never get a girl talking/thinking that way. ok? you might as well settle for butt sex
ptciu, love you, get lost now
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