I get fingered and now he won't talk to me?

[Anonymous]

this guy who I've known for eight years and just recently started talking to him again, came over to my house on saturday night long story short, we start messing around and he starts fingering me and feeling me up and whatnot there was a lot of kissing involved and a lot of my bare chest involved he knew that I had never done anything below the waist before so I don't know what that means... anyway before he came over that night my text messaging just quit working (which he also knew about; I can get them I just can't send them) about an hour after he left I get a text saying "night cutie" ... and the following day I get a text saying "ur phone alive yet?" (both from him) and before all this happened we would talk everyday and he would say nice things about me and tell me how beautiful I am... blah blah blah but the past two days he hasn't said anything to me... i replied to his texts on facebook saying "no my phone isn't alive yet...not for three more days" then he leaves me a comment saying "yea I've noticed" i go back to his profile and say "yea... its not like I'm ignoring you or anything though" two hours after I do that, I notice that all my comments are deleted from his profile and he didn't say ANYTHING back to me what the hell is going on? did I do something wrong? or is he just a total asshole and got what he wanted and is done?

[AdviceGiver0405]

Ok. Answer this. I'm in the same boat as you but it is role reversal. I fingered a girl I had known for 8 years and she is literally just ignoring me. As in she's not acknowledging my existence. So why is she doing it from your point of view?

Sometimes the answers you give are the best answers to yourself. And if it isn't at least you wouldve helped me out because I'm stuck and i really like this girl

[Honest-Matt]

He probably used you, sorry to say. Maybe there's something weird going on, I'd try talking to him.

[katiesmuff]

Good going girl! You gave him his prize and he needs you no more. When will all you young girls wake up? Don't feel too bad 1000's of other girls are getting the same treatment.

Use this as a learning experience and remember it the next time a Mr Cool comes around, he will be wanting to stick something other than a finger in you!

[here4you]

U don't have to be so mean about it

[katiesmuff]

I'm not mean just honest! I hope you are one of the guys in the minority that would accept your girls wishes and enjoy her for her and not the horizontal hula

[Asker]

That's the thing, he didn't get anything out of it that why I'm so confused and I'm not just some young girl.... thanks

[Red_Arrow]

He got to finger you. That is enjoyable for a guy.

[Adam-UK]

Things might turn out ok given time - hang in there.

[l-hedoniste]

Whisper in his ear: "When a guy fingers me, it leads me to believe that we're on speaking terms. So what's up?"

[Asker]

Haha thanks

[Anonymous]

He used you. Next time, be more aware of what ur boyfriend wants in ur relationship.

[Asker]

He's not my boyfriend and he didn't get anything out of it except seeing my boobs

[Opinion Owner]

Obviously he wants to f*** you, nothing much after that

[Asker]

Yea that's what I figured =/ I'm just p*ssed that he lied about everything "im not like other guys"... yea right

[Opinion Owner]

Listen to me, anyone can act. and in dating/meeting people there's always some acting going around. guys tell you all the "right" words, the right things to say and do, and make you believe that he cares about you... and then after giving him a bj or sex, he turns into the real him whos a player/asshole and tells you to get the f*** off his bed. and bam, uve been used. This happens ALOT, in many different forms, shapes and situations.... sometimes people don't bother to think about that kind of thing

[Asker]

I thought that knowing him for 8 years I could trust him.. guess not i feel like I can't trust anyone, I hate boys

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I hate girls sometimes. lol. we both got our differences and things we hate, but sure guys are worse in most cases I guess being that women are seen as sex objects and not as people anymore, not to mention that promiscuity at young age is VERY COMMON these days..... Its like stealing candy from a baby.

[Asker]

I think I've done very well in my almost 18 years alive... no sex, and no oral... not many people my age can say that

[Opinion Owner]

Lol very true. and you should be pressured to anyway, its not like if you have sex you suddenly become cool or become an "adult" or a "woman".. sex isn't what defines you. its sad that kids think so

[Opinion Owner]

Shouldn't/**