My boyfriend asked if I enjoy our sex life?

[Anonymous]

I have been with him for 2 years and we live together and things have been great! Yesterday we fooled around and after we finished he asked me if I was happy with our sex life and I told him I was. I asked him if he enjoyed it and he said it was good but I hide my body way too much and it is a total turn off. He said I won't do doggy style and some positions because I don't want him seeing me... I just don't like him seeing my tummy and my ass jiggle...does this bug you guys? I mean I am not fat at all I just know its all over the place lol I don't want him seeing that.

[aly-marie]

You're just thinking too much. I say this to people a lot, because that's usually what the problem is. You are thinking about it way too much! Way more than he ever would, I promise you.

He's been with you 2 years, he wanted to live with you, he LOVES you, everything about you. Guys always look favorably on the girl they're with because they love her, you're perfect to him because you're YOU.

Just think about it, does criticizing his body ever cross your mind when you're having sex? Regardless to how he actually looks, you love everything about him because you know him and love him, right?

Sex is not supposed to be a scary/nervous situation. You do it with someone you're completely comfortable with. And especially after 2 years, I can't understand how you could not be comfortable with him, especially knowing he WANTS to see your body more. Trust me, if you'd just try it and see how much he loves it (because he will), you'll enjoy it so much. He's supposed to be the one person that you don't have to hold back anything with.

[biannnnnnn]

Good answer!

[Anna19]

I can so understand you! I don't really like cowgirl for exemple cause it really underlines your stomach. I sometimes think, it's not pretty so I don't want him to see it, but yes they actually do mind. And you guys have been together for so long it really shouldn't be a problem.

But I totally see what you, it's just kinda hard it enjoy it, if your worried about your tummy or whatever.If you just try it once you will probably see, that he won't mind and you'll be more comfortable the next time.

[Asker]

I've tried but I wanna take it slow like no light and work our way up slowly....he wants the lights on and everything and I am not ready....

[Anna19]

Dimmed lights for once and tell him you thought about what he had said and you see his point and you want to work on it but your gonna need some time and go slow

[katiesmuff]

Relax and don't be so darn worried about what YOU think HE will think! Open up let him see it all. All guys like to see our pussies from the doggie position and our asses. Give it up and let him have it all.

[Tdieseler]

Looooool too raw. put it all out there huh?

[Asker]

No offense but you are kinda nasty

[katiesmuff]

Whatever you want to call it, It Works!! Don't have any complaints from the guys I am with and I figure if they don't like what they see they can go elsewhere, which is exactly what you should be concerned about. Eventually your boyfriend is going to want it and will find somewhere else to get it. Just a fair warning for you!!! He is your boyfriend and has already decided he likes the way you are or he would be gone. Doesn't hurt to be a slut sometimes with your partner

[Asker]

Just saying...

[Tdieseler]

Lol...aint no problem with being nasty

[Tdieseler]

You doing that is a total turn off for guys...it shows a lack of confidence. this is something that people who just started dating complain about...after 2 years you should be able to walk in front of him naked..plus I don't really think he's looking at anything jiggle during sex, I'm sure his main focus is pleasure, yours and his...i have proof...

He was upfront with you about the sex, it means he really does want you (tummy and all), many guys would have just left it at that and cheated..i suggest confidence exercises...before you lose a rare guy.

[Asker]

I get it but I don't know how! I can't stop thinking about it and enjoy sex....

[Tdieseler]

Ok here's the deal...you worry about your tummy and the jiggling, how about some exercises to get rid of the tummy and some to make your ass a little firm..(not to firm tho..jiggly asses are a turn on lol)

[Asker]

Lol I have been but it's not perfect..thanks for you help!

[Tdieseler]

You don't know if its perfect...leave it to your man to decide..and you're welcome

[l-hedoniste]

"Are you happy with our sex life?"

Translation: "What am I doing wrong?"

You're hiding your body from him after 2 years, it's starting to eat at him, and he doesn't know what to do about it. He's racking his brain, and out of ideas.

Don't worry that showing your body might be a turnoff; he's telling you, right now, that hiding your body IS a turnoff.

[martyfellow]

This is pretty common but if he is having trouble dealing with it, you need to stop being so shy. If you need help such as counseling for this, then go for it.

WE all grow up at our own pace.

[tsorfas]

u have to understand you have been together for so long... he likes you! He wants YOU! You must feel comfortable enough after all this time to enjoy him and let your self be completely free and lost in passion with him! Like the guy before me said he didn't ask you to do anything crazy! I say go crazy with him! Let yourself go.. after all trust is there, love is there... and we only live once...

[chiefnavarro]

a women holding back in the bed room is emotionally abusive. he's not asking you to do a threesome or anal he just wants u.

[toulouse]

How is that emotionally abusive- I'm not disagreeing that is just an interesting way to look at it..& I wonder why you say that?

[chiefnavarro]

Well men assume if a women likes us shell do thing for us in that regard.

[jignesh]

u have a living relatiion for 2 years and I can't belive that during that period he hasent seen you ful so why you rmking fool all of us here? and for a change dogy style is one of the best position to get satisfied make it that position and enjoy him a lot dear

[Asker]

He has seen me naked but not on a regular bases.

[brett212121]

it would bother me a little bit becuase doggystyle is a great position hehe. especially the ass part becuase seeing that jiggle can really turn a man on:)

[Anonymous]

He's trying to Comunicate with you asking if he's doing anything wrong he could fix for you and in turn he tells you what he doesn't like so you could fix it and don't be ebarrased by that that doesn't matter at all y are you worried he will see anyway yes it bugs us