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My boyfriend said my vagina is not his preference

he said my vagina is not his preference, that he prefers the innie type of vagina and mine is an outie, he also said he would look past it cause he loves me. We were drunk when he said all this I don't think he would have brought this up if he was sober, anyway its been a couple days and my feelings are pretty hurt I'm really pissed off and don't know how to react to this information?
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we have dated for 3 years so this is crap, 3 years or "your sexy" total lies
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  • You are (or at least sound) more pissed that he actually said it then what it was that he said. Truthfully he said nothing wrong. Granted it was not something that you wanted to hear, granted it was not the right time, yet none the less, the words stung.

    This is not any different then preferring small boobs over large ones, or men that are circumcized versus those that are not. Thicker over thinner penises. Longer over shorter. Quick, picture the perfect **** for you. The length, the thickness, veins or not? Is it circumcised? Long or short? Perfectly straight, bent, curved. Is it the same one that is attached to the person that you love?

    I love small boobs, trimmed to hairy. Longer clitoris, someone that gets REALLY wet. I prefer that the outer lips do not hang down 3/4 of an inch - that they look small, even flat (yet puffy). That the clit look more like a penis then hard to find.

    My wife knows this. Just as I know what her perfect **** looks like. Yet we also know that a relationship is built on more then just cup size and 'measuring up". Evenlit said that no one should settle, and I agree, yet life is nothing but compromise. Be it the above subject matter or education, work, housing, car...not all of us live in a mansion on a private road on the coast of Hawaii with a private leer jet and a Lamborghini and jet boat.

    Preferences are not must have. Did you ever think about talking to him about what he said? Catch him when he is sober and ask him if he likes your p**** then ask if he likes how it looks. You can not hold something someone says or does WHILE drinking, against them. Alcohol lowers ones inhibitions, thought response, and actions.

    No this does not mean if he is 'drunk' that it is okay to fall into someone else's vagina.

    As with anything brought up on this site, communication and some common sense seem to be lacking...and they wonder why the "adults" say that kids should not have sex before they can mentally, socially, and physically handle sex and everything that it entitles.

    If you want that PERFECT spouse - go back and read another fairy tale. In real life one is not normally the other.

    • this answer I like it made me stop to think, yes his d*ck could be bigger. I do have to argue though that men look around more than women they are more visual, wears women is more emotional connection...he will continue like most men to gaze a p*rnography several hours a week, constantly staring at his perfect puss, I will be so warm with emotion I will see no flaws in him.

    • Sweetie, play him the same way. Sit on the computer looking at other men's cocks and tell him that he is not your preference either. No one is 100% what their partner wants. Settling or compromising is something that we all do. My wife says that she is happy with my size although most people that I have been with agree it is less then average in length and acording to her the biggest she had. Yes she would like to have tried bigger before marriage. Does that mean that I should divorce her?

  • Beat him to death

    Then demand an apology

    • ya I feel so lied to how can I evr let this guy in between my legs again, I don't meet his standards I know I meet other guys standards F*ck this shiit he can f* ck the dogs ass next time he's horny

    • That sort of comment is meant to assert control. You are deficient but he is so magnanimous that he can overlook your flaws. End result: you are worth less as a woman and owe him for "overlooking it". Love your p**** and share it only with people who love it as well.

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  • I totally get why you're pissed. You said it. You've been together 3 years. THREE BLOODY YEARS THIS HAS GONE ON. And now he tells you he's settling for your lady-parts. I'd be royally pissed too. We girls have enough body issues created by ourselves. We don't need our boyfriends making us self-conscious too. They're supposed to make us feel beautiful and desired.

    But alas, the mind cannot operate rationally when one does not communicate.

    I REALLY think you should talk to your boyfriend about this. After all, 3 years you've been together... you should be able to talk to him about this. Tell him how it upset you. I'm sure it could only get better with talking, even if you end up fighting a bit. No communication just makes things worse and as long as you keep your feelings in, your head will be exploding.

    I hope you work it out.

  • Did you ask him or did he just blatantly say it?

    If you asked, don't ask questions if you can't handle the truth...and he shouldn't have felt a need to say this, but our partners usually never match our preferences 100%

    It could be anything from hair color, eye color, body shape or some personality characteristic. He shouldn't have said it, but it's just another PREFERENCE(not standard) that you don't meet.

    I'm sure my boyfriend prefers straight hair, but I don't straighten my hair, like ever...unless it's for special events. I'm not gonna boohoo over it though

    • no he just said it while we were in foreplay, it did kill the moment, we fought and I left his house

    • perhaps I should not boo hoo over it as you put it...I am just so mad

    • If you've been with him for 3 years, I think I'd try to let it go...you're over thinking it

  • It's natural that you are hurt- it was a pretty insensitive thing to say. I would be very hurt if a guy said that to me, and to be honest, I don't think it's really something I could get past. I wouldn't want to be with a person who would say that OR think it. I would suggest talking to him about it and letting him know how you feel. Hopefully discussing it with him will help you sort through your feelings.

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  • He isn't into your vagina. Really nothing you can do about it. Just talk to him about it. Everyone has a preference. I do agree he shouldn't have said that to you and I'm sorry he did. Just communicate with him

    • dont you think its kind of essential that he is into my vagina as you put it or how are we going to have a sexual relationship?

    • He did say he would overlook it because he loved you. I mean you have been with him for 3 years so he has to be into it.. maybe not his preference but he still is fine with it

  • It was a d***ish thing to say. You have every right to be upset. He was a complete dumbass and just kept that preference to himself.

  • You have to give him some break because of honesty - the real truth is better than a pretty lie... although I've noticed that being totally, completely open and honest to girls not always is the best way, as some struggle to handle it

    Also when you met the first time he couldn't really have a chance to see your vagina, as otherwise it would be extremely, totally awkward

    • no honesty is great just wish he told me 3 years ago and we could have parted ways and I would have not wasted 3 years of my life, he could have found his innie and I could have found a dude who appreciates what I have to offer

    • How long have you been together when he saw your vagina the first time? Were those 3 years?

  • You're right to feel hurt, especially as your vagina 'type' isn't something you can control. It's almost as if he's telling you, "I'm settling for you". No self-respecting woman or man would want to be 'settled for' or second best. If a girl told me that she didn't like my penis (even if she was drunk), I'd dump her and give it to a girl who does like it. Many guys prefer 'outie' vaginas anyway.

  • I have to agree with one of the anon posters below. This is what women do a lot... white lies. Women seem to think this is harmless while dispensing it, you should also think it's harmless while being the recipient.

  • Your bf is gay. Pussy is pussy to a guy no matter of it's an innie or outtie. It all feels the same and pink inside.

  • Sorry but every one has a preference... so is his penis the one you always dreamed of?

  • Do you think his penis is the perfect size?

    I don't care if you like what he's working with or enjoy it. Is there any part of you that thinks if he woke up with slightly bigger junk do you think you would enjoy it more? Maybe thicker? Maybe longer? Maybe if there was less hair?

    If you would change anything about his penis you're just as guilty as he is. You're just focusing on what he said and not what he's been doing. Obviously if he's been sleeping with you for 3 years he doesn't care about your vagina.

  • He'd have to find someone else to have sex with if it were me. You don't say some sh*t like that and expect to get the p**** again.

  • So there's one girl that understands d*** criticism now.

    • explain how this relates to my Q please

    • I didn't answer your question, but it relates quite well.

    • ya I guess if a girl said a guys d*** was not good enough for her it would piss him off too

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  • He should not have ever said that. I don't think you should dump him right away. Let yourself calm down and think abut it for awhile before you make a decision. Ask him why he said that and what it means to him. Tell him it made you feel like sh*t when he said that.

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