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PLEASE HELP! I got my girlfriend pregnant - how can I stop her from getting an abortion?
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It really was a mistake. The condom broke and now she's pregnant. She wants an abortion but I don't want her to. I'm willing to be a father or put the baby up for adoption. She just refuses. I really need help with this. I believe it will ruin both of our lives if she goes through with this.
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Please take a look at those and note the anger and bickering
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Thank you for not doing that.
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This has reached terminal size. I must end the discussion now. This has been a social experiment. My desire was to show that people who are together trying to HELP somebody else, will have a more meaningful discussion. A well as a feeling of camaraderie
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Instead of an antagonistic attitude. Did you feel the difference? I was genuinely touched by the outpouring of sympathy. I was not trying to make a point about abortion. I have my own views which may or may not mirror the person described in the question
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The difference here was that your desire was not to convince the world. Or to shout down all the stupid people who disagree with you. It was to help someone in need. And that's beautiful. I apologize to anyone who is offended by my duplicity it was all in
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good faith. I constructed a dossier on the fictional subject of the question. Including his age, employment, hobbies. I created a real person. And then went into character referring to my document to insure that I did not contradict myself. This person
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does not exist. He is purely my invention. I would appreciate any comments on my method, story, or anything else related to this thread. If you are pissed off at me feel free to vent. I anticipated at least a little anger which is why I am anonymous.
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What Girls & Guys Said
24 7I'm totally sorry! that's so horrible. I would just explain to her what's living inside her. It's alive and human. And nobody would hurt a baby on purpose. So I think it will be pretty simple and she'll totally understand.
I think its up to both of you. Don't pressure her into not having an abortion. If she is the type of girl who wants a career, it is likely she will not want the baby. It is nothing personal, in my eyes. And how will it ruin your life? If you really love her, you would respect her decision. She has her reasons.
Furthermore, she might be afraid to have the baby as she might become attached to it and no longer be able to put it up for adoption. Ever thought of that?
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Let her do what she wants with her body.
I'm sorry, but I don't believe you should have much of a choice in the matter. It's her body. If she wants an abortion she can have one because its her decision and it affects her life. She could die in childbirth. Do you want her to die because of you? Think about these things. It can happen.
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I read it a little and started typing, then finished reading. I just decided to post because I still wanted to give my opinion. Sorry about that. Interesting experiment though.
Oh okay overreaction just a bit frustrated.
abortion won't reach anyone's life. if anything it'll help you guys
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If I was the girl, you d have to start off by convincing me that you would stick around and not run out when things got tough. it seems like even a lot of well intentioned guys run out on their responsibilities as far as parenthood are concerned.
Do you have any idea what its like raising a child?
would you be willing to be a single father if it came to that?
good luck.
Yeah I would be a single father. But in my experience that hardly ever happens since the courts barley (can't spell) ever award custody to the father. Unless the mother is some sort of psycho. I really don't see us breaking up either way, we are a great couple and very close. This is really the only big disagreement we've had over the past 2 years. I'm not going to leave no matter what happens. So if we end up splinting the child will go to her cause she wanted the split
Which makes being a single father a non issue. The main fear I have is for the baby's death. I've always been pro-life, and I didn't really think it was really responsible to have sex. But it was just one of those things y'know?
Well, like the anon said; Start by convincing her that whether she aborts the baby or decides to have it, that you WILL be there for her/, with emotional and financial support. Make it VERY clear, because as you probably know, she will be confused and scared about everything that's happening... That's probably why she hasn't booked an appointment yet -- because she's terrified of the surgery, yet not sure if she will be able to raise the child, or if you will help her...