True Life: I'm Addicted to Sex?

[Anonymous]

*I' m not really talking about the show itself. It's more of a means to segue into my actual question.*

I watched this episode on MTV:

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At first, I thought it was kind of funny. However, now I kind of identify with one of the people in the video whose name is Isaax. To paraphrase, he said that growing up, he didn't feel like he fit in and was pick on a lot. Then he came across p*rn and he thought the p*rnstars looked like they were having so much fun and he wanted to feel that way. I can somewhat relate to that. I started watching p*rn at a very young age- since I was at least five years old. I've always been kind of lonely and in middle school and most of high school I never got any male attention. When I watched p*rn, I would kind of feel envious of the p*rn stars. I also was envious of other sex workers. They were desirable, pretty, and they just seemed really happy, which was everything that I was missing in my life. Now, I'm 21 years old and a virgin, and I feel really insecure about it. I feel like I'll probably be at peace once I have sex. I don't know if I should do this, but I've linked some of my other questions: link

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Is it bad that I feel this way? I'm going to try and have sex this weekend so I may not feel this way for much longer.

[HandsomeRaj]

You haven't ever had sex so it's bound to pile up. Not everyone is the same.

If you check out the symptoms of 'Bipolar' almost everyone will wind up identifying themselves as one :) and there are many such examples.

Further you are comparing 'acts' in p*rn movies aimed to attract people with fantasy to real life further complicating your thoughts.

WOW how did someone manage to give you access to p*rn at that age? And most importantly after watching p*rn since then how and why did you manage to stay virgin?

You seem stuck between society/religion and your desires - your undoing (I may have been judgmental with that statement but that's how I've perceived it)

You are connecting sex with romance - not abnormal but doing that is generally the undoing of all the excitement for both sex and romance.

You have fun this weekend but ensure to open your mind, don't expect what you see in p*rn and stuff all the while. Feel what comes to you, you will enjoy it better that way :) good luck :)

[Asker]

"how did someone manage to give you access to p*rn at that age?" My dad would do things like host wet t-shirt competitions. Plus he watched p*rn, so I would see his magazines and dvds lying around, which made me curious about it, so I'd watch the adult channel when my parents were sleeping. My mom even had to ban those channels to stop me from watching them lol. "why did you manage to stay a virgin" several reasons that all come down to circumstances. Like I said, I didn't get any male...

[Asker]

attention from middle school and most of high school, so I didn't date. Plus, I couldn't go out, because my family was homeless for part of the time when I was in high school, so I had different priorities and I couldn't tell anyone that I was homeless. In college, I got depression (partly because of what I had been through in hs) so I didn't go out much. "you seem stuck between society/religion and your desires" believe me I'm not.I wasn't raised in a religious household.I have a problem w/...

[Asker]

associating desirability to how much sex people are having, which is why I am envious of p*rn stars and sex workers and I feel undesirable so I've always had low self esteem about my virginity.

[HandsomeRaj]

Wow you've had a tough life phew I wish your dad was more sensitive about you while you grew up. Porn is a story just like any other comic book that's supposed to have a happy ending :) people watch p*rn for the eroticism & sex while you are connecting sex and romance / happy ending. Sad you are connected to those than romantic movies but glad someone sees romance there too :) Please for your own sake, don;t confuse reality with fantasy & sex with romance :) Good luck :) I wish you a great weekend

[primitive]

dont just have sex to have sex.

make it meaningful and memorable. that won't help a thing if you just give it up like that.

seriously.

[Anonymous]

have fun this weekend