Yeah, I'm not a girl, but done right having someone else's fingers down there feels GREAT. As does having his mouth or penis. They ALL belong down there! It's just like for guys. We can (and do) use our own hands, but it's great when we have a hot girl touch us instead.
You're boyfriend either has some sexual hangups or he's a selfish douche. If it brings you pleasure he should be doing it. And if he doesn't want to, there are LOTS of guys who do!
The last part you basicly just said cheat on your boyfriend because he does not finger her. Dumping someone or cheating on someone just for that is just wrongm
*wrong*
@SeanshterMonster I agree that cheating is wrong, but dumping someone for not being a giving lover is absolutely legit. No one needs to stay in a relationship where they are not sexually compatible.
I'm not sure what his hangup is. Not just penises are meant to be down there. He has to get over that
All in all I think having foreplay with someone is best because it's something you are doing together, enjoying together & IS part of sex, but there are certain times when you do it to yourself you can hit the spot at the right time, pressure & speed
Tell him that it's called foreplay. Guys get off a LOT faster than girls and they need to be willing to do what it takes for the girl to get warmed up in order to have sex. If he's not helping you get aroused, he's being selfish.
If it's a religious thing, tell him that if he is going to have sex before marriage that foreplay is a form of love that brings you closer to him.
And what is he's new and does not know how or was tolled all his life that it is gross.
it feels slightly different wen your boyfriend does its more enjoyable for you get him to try it he will enjoy it as much as you do but if he won't then try different methods like using a shower head or in the bath or usin a pen or hairbrush just experiment
or maybe try a banana squash, a couple zuchini, or 2 liter Pepsi bottle. Variety is the spice of life you know
He's a wussy. I'd tell him I wasn't gonna touch his penis - at all - because penises are meant to go in vaginas. You're obviously OK with this, so whatever floats your boat. Just sayin.
But yeah, it does feel better when someone else does it.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Your boyfriend sounds selfish to me. Fingering and oral sex are the two things to turn girl on and wet down there. If you're not wet enough than sex is going to be painful. Get finger by someone else is amazing and pleasurable then you do it yourself.
How is it selfish. I think he's just new to it and nerves on the inside. Also he may have been told all his life it's gross, I have been told all my life that.
@SeanshterMonster umm no one ever says sex is not gross?
you need to let him know you like it,and both of should take your time slowly lead the way,and nope self medication doesn't always cure you,going to the doctor does..
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Get your boyfriend to actually try it, and if he sees that you enjoy it then he'll be more likely to continue. It could be a confidence thing though, he might doubt himself if he can't get you off... Try giving him some guidance, tell him what you like and what you don't. It can be a bit daunting for a guy the first time around, it's not like you've got a set of instructions tattooed on your thighs lol.
He doesn't want to
Your boyfriend is a douche. Foreplay is awesome. Second, what's with all these sexually repressed people! jesus, Let your freak flag fly and just be a little perverted! Hell, I have probably gone to far! I had sex with a midget, I had sex in an ER room. I had sex in a hot tub in the middle of the day!
I'm sexually repressed because of so many people saying it's wrong and you should never think of a girl sexually or masturbate or have sex for pleasure.
Also her boyfriend might be new to all this.
If he’s refusing to make you happy down there does sounds like he is not putting needs first.
I think you might want someone whose willing be more open. That’s easy say and hard to do
If I were you I wouldn't do those things to him either if he wants it down there on him. But that's crazy. It's about doing it for your girl. I'm sure it feels different than you doing it just like having a handjob from a girl would feel diff than me doing it to myself. I love the way that it feels when I'm doing it to her and I love seeing the pleasure on her face and morning and grinding as well!
u are not serious...r u? Vaginas are not gross and fingers, lips & tongues all belong there...at least when I am involved...
I mean there privates and ment to be private. They are gross.
It's a totally differend feeling when I do it or when somebody else does.
Difficult to explain what it feels like.
You boyfriend sound a little immature. Fingering is a major part of foreplay and if he refuses, he's not really thinking about you. do you want a guy that only thinks about himself? or one that thinks about you?
What if he does not know that and it's his first relationship. I would be nervous as all heck to do anything.
@SeanshterMonster Maturity come with experience for the most part..
Isn't maturity like respect and manners and kindness.
Mouths like his are meant to be down there...
It can be great if done right
If he doesn’t have m to finger you or give you oral foreplay return the favor and don’t give in blowjobs -
it feels nothing the same. You can't get the harder/deeper thing going just doing it yourself. I have to say that's kinda strange that he feels nothing but a penis belongs there does he also feel his penis isn't meant to be in your mouth or your hand isn't meant to be wrapped around his penis? Are you guys having sex?
Really? That's weird, my guy LOVES it! Well, not everyone is the same..
And yes it feels WAY better when he does it as opposed to when I do it.
omg it feels amazing when a guy touches you down there any way! get a boyfriend who is willing to and doesn't think its wrong.. you're missing so much!
I'm not going to dump him over something this stupid
no but try to make him see its not wrong or unusual
I'm not gonna pressure him and it's his preference but thanks
Well it's more fun and more of a turn on when some one is doing it for you.
It feels so much better and you get wetter too!
Think of when you tickle your self vs someone else tickling you.
When someone else tickles you, it feels more intense right?
Same idea
Your boyfriend sounds very oldschool/primitive!
lol
If that's the case, make sure you don't touch his penis either!
A-hole!
Sorry
I have never tickled myself hehe but thanks for answering my question
That's a great analogy, tickling yourself.
ha ha well my sister and I always used to wonder as children why it didn't have the same effect. lol But umm OK try a massage. If you reach over your shoulder and massage it, it will feel different from someone else doing it for you. Best of luck!
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