Why does my boyfriend like to masturbate in front/on of me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have sex a few times a week. Lately, though, he just wants me to lay there while he jerks off on my body. There is no interaction other than him cumming on me. I feel uncomfortable watching him jerk off and have tried to look away, but the sounds of him groaning are no better. I feel like nothing more than a masturbatory tool and it's degrading. I need to talk to him about this, but I want input from the male perspective as to what might be going on first. He is a great guy and I don't want to make him feel as crappy as I do.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it is that unusual for men to want to masturbate on their girl. I'm surprised that you find it uncomfortable to watch. Personally, I love watching my guy masturbate-I'm still amazed that I can have that effect on a guy-he's doing it because of me, and I love the intimacy of that. When he cums, he's in a completely different place-again, because of me-how great is that? Since being in a long, steady relationship, I have come to realise that sexual stimulation is a very visual thing for guys-they like to masturbate looking at something that turns them on. I also think that it's cyclic-OK, there are times when it seems very one-sided and all for him, but my guy and I always get back to mutual masturbation or sex eventually.

Why don't you just ask him? If things are going wrong, sooner is better than later. If he's mature, he should be willing to listen without going all sensitive on you.

[Anonymous]

ya that's a little weird ha tell you to try something different or something? I don't know how to lay that one on him ha

[TwiztedTD]

I could see that being something like if you both did something to each other, and he somewhat finished that way... but just laying there and him jerking it... kinda weird. And I could also understand once in a blue moon, but all the time lately? That's weird too.

[lefty8]

I like to play with it in between us going at it. So, for me, it isn't instead of sex with her her. It's part of sex with her. I just really like playing with my dick. What can I say.

[JohnE]

Just strait up tell him that you don't want him to do that.

[here4you]

you should tell him that