Why does my boyfriend want to shower with me?

[Anonymous]

Okay so here's the deal. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and we have only made out. He has stated that he isn't very attracted to my body but says tells me that I'm beautiful. (I'm guessing it's in the face. 123 lb 5'5.5" The only curve in my body is my wide hips and butt.) He has also stated that he doesn't really want to have sex with me. (I don't either, I'm only 18 and that's just too far for now.) These all sort of make sense up until he started talking about the possibility of us showering together. I'm really nervous about this idea but he's really into it. If he doesn't like my body and he doesn't want to sleep with me then why does he want to shower with me? I don't understand!

[bunnahies]

ive heard this a lot from guys I've dated. they know I'm a bit umcomfortable with sex and dislike going fast...so they would tell me they wanna wait too. they tell me they aren't ready too and everything your boyfriend is telling you. theyve called me ugly and said thier d*** would be too small for me anyways LOLOL they make it sound like they don't want sex so you don't think that's not all they care about! I'm not saying it is...but if you took off your clothes I'm sure he'd get a boner and he wouldn't be able to control himself. so he does like your body and he does want to sleep with you! why would he date a girl he isn't physically attracted to? so if you shower with him...chances are he's gonna sweet talk you and slip it in :/

[butterfly_girl]

I'm more concerned about you're with someone who's told you they're not very attracted to you and doesn't want to sleep with you? It's not about sex and I can understand if he's not ready etc but he actually said he's not very attracted to you? Find someone better hun x

[Asker]

He says that he does not find my body as appealing (flat chested and whatnot) but then he goes and says that I'm beautiful which confuses me...

[kewkewsie]

He stated he wasn't very attracted to your body..You should leave him now, get some confidence, or at least self respect. That is so depressing.

[Asker]

I agree.

[wanacot]

I have a very hard time believing "he doesn't really want to have sex" with you. I think perhaps that's the line he's towing because of your view on sex. The only two reasons I can think of for him wanting to shower with you are 1) he's a typical guy and just wants to see you naked + have naughty shower fun time or 2) he's got some super weird "clean freak" fetish. Personally, I'd put my money on #1.

[Asker]

Okay that sort of makes more sense. He has literally said that he doesn't want to have sex because he "found it boring" when he lost his virginity with his ex. The clean freak fetish is possible...lol

[Asker]

Also he denies ever having an erection when we've made out. I think this is kind of odd. Maybe he's gay?

[wanacot]

Either your boyfriend isn't being very truthful to you or something really weird is going on...

[fnfnfnfn]

Even if he was very nervous, was afraid of becoming a dad too early... he might not have an erection when you made out. Being brought up on a strict dose of morality, I had a lot of self-control even in my younger days (teenage and 20s). At first, I would stay away from women -- because I was simply not prepared to take on the responsibilities of a relationship. When I got involved (and subsequently married), I would be very strict with myself, and could retrain my self-control ...

[DonMichelle]

Is he a clever lad? Does he show you signs of affection?

Something doesn't add up, I think he may be trying to trick you?!?!

[Asker]

He is really smart. He does initiate stuff like hand-holding/kissing/cuddling. None of the things that he says add up...I'm starting to think that this is all some weird elaborate plot to drive me insane. I don't understand...

[DonMichelle]

He's trying to make you think he doesn't want you for sex... when he clearly wants something It's a trick, how can you not see?

[Vasillilaw]

I don't understand something either...why are you guys dating if you aren't physically attracted to each other. It's kind of important.

[Asker]

I'm physically attracted to him. I asked him the same question and he said that he does find me attractive. I am also confused by his answer because he's spouting two different things.

[Vasillilaw]

I would break up with him if that's the truth. I know phsyical attraction isn't everything, but it's still somewhat important.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure it's very strange, even if the cultural pressures to have sex are strong in the USofA. I myself was not prepared for sex before marriage! We did it afterwards...

[Asker]

I don't want to have sex with him. sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Find a guy who actually loves every part of you.

[taster]

Good Advice...Wise woman...

[Opinion Owner]

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