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Why are so many girls slutty? -or- Why is it hard to find girls who aren't?
Anonymous
I don't want this question to come across as accusing women of all being sluts, or saying that I disapprove of a woman being able to have the freedom to have as much casual sex as she wants in a free society. That being said, what the f*** is going on these days? Why can't I find one, just *one* good girl who doesn't want to sleep with me on the first date and hasn't lost count of how many guys she slept with? It's like every girl I meet has a history of being abused by guys, of being tricked into sex, or otherwise allowing herself to be abused and turns around and *expects me to do the same*. Hell, I recently broke up with my girlfriend because she was unable to form a relationship that extended beyond sex. I have friends in their 30s who have this problem too. Our culture has degraded women into thinking they have to act this way and it disgusts me. It's not the acts themselves that disgust me, I don't expect anyone I meet to be a virgin or pure or whatever, I'm totally ok with girls who've slept with their boyfriends and whatnot. What disgusts me is the weak will these girls seem to have. These "sluts" (for lack of a better term) always say overall they don't enjoy having so many partners, but I've had far too many girls who I am just friends with crying on my shoulder about how bad they feel about how they act, but week after week they repeat it: hooking up with guys because they think that'll keep them around, when really all it does it tell the guy she's an easy girl who he can f*** a few times and leave. I don't know what I'm saying here, but it's the biggest turn off in the world when I find out the girl I'm with sleeps with guys in vain hope that somehow he'll find that attractive and stick around. It says so much about the self-esteem and world view of the girl I'm with it prevents me from having any confidence in the relationship because in my experience, that kind of girl doesn't stop that behavior and inevitably cheats. So what's the deal ladies? I'm guessing a lot of you aren't the kind of girl I described, so why is it that it's so hard to find girls like you? I have some theories, such as the good girls are usually in a relationship while the slutty ones are bouncing around from guy to guy, and statistically, I'm likely to come across sluts. But then I think that doesn't account for the shear volume of sluts that cross my path. I feel like there are no strong women out there anymore, that in the process of liberating women from the chains of the past, modern society has exploited them (just look at almost any ad, many use sex to sell) and our sisters and daughters have fallen victim.
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Forgot this one thing: A huge factor in me being turned-off girls who act like this is the self-confidence: If a girl thinks she's not worth more than a sex object, I feel too guilty to be with her because I feel I'm being used.
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23 8because most girl think that's what all guys want
NON-SLUTTY GIRL HERE: Because that's what most guys want. I think sex is an emotional act that you should do with someone you love and trust. Do you know how many guys run when they find out they won't get some from me? I can't keep a relationship longer than 2-3 months because the guys I've dated get frustrated that I don't want to get sexual. I'm not waiting until marriage, I at least want to have deep feelings and have the guy care about me before I have sex.
Enough talking about myself, but I'm really answering your question. A lot of girls are doing what they feel will make them accepted. And it does. Most guys do not think like you, they actually get turned OFF because girls wait too long.
But you're in luck, good girls are not hard to find. Hint: we are not the bleach blonde party girls who show skin all the time. We might not be that outgoing but we are worthwile
Wish I could meet a girl like you
The first thing I have to ask you is where are you looking for girls? If you are looking in a bar, of course you are going to find trashy, slutty girls. It also sounds like you are going for looks over personality. If the girl looks slutty she is, Why are you agreeing to go out with her if you don't like sluts? Seriously, its common sense. Look for an intelligent classy woman instead of going for all of the desperate trashy girls. Plus, why would you want a girl that has to reveal a lot of skin in order to feel sexy? Isn't it a lot better to find a woman who looks sexy in classy non-revealing clothes? You act like you are so innocent, but you aren't. You are the one agreeing to go out with sluts. My advice is if you don't want to date a trashy girl, then don't date one. Its that simple. Don't involve yourself with someone you don't want to be with.
Wow. I honestly know what you mean. Today's society is crazy. I am in high school now, so of course the whole "I had sex" thing makes you think you are above everybody else. I don't understand it. If you are just going around having sex with random guys, (in my opinion) you'll never understand the true feeling of being in love.
Your theories are right; and I think over self-confidence in the way that you think you are the hottest girl and everyone should like you plays a role in it too. If you think this way, you are most likely going to be bouncing around from guy to guy. I don't understand it, and maybe it's because I don't believe in that, but it really is ridiculous.
Also, I honestly think there are fewer girls that aren't sluts out there than there are sluts, but when you meet the right girl, you will know. You will go through different girls and I say just wait until you have the right one and stop worrying about the previous ones!
Amen! WOW! Well said and I won't add anything it because to me it seems like girls (most! ) have lowered themselves to this level. Many without even realizing it. Like if a guy doesn't wanna f them, they think there must be something wrong with them. Soo sad! The fact is that the few that don't follow this mad culture is so far above the rest that it's too hard to even measure.
I think you should wait around a little bit and just causally date until you find some1 who meets your standards. Some girls are slutty but I'm sure if your friends first or just get to know people better you will find what your looking for.
Most girls are slutty either because they have low self esteem or have nothing else to do :(
Girls who are not slutty are hard to find because they don't give out vibes as freely as those who are. They are shyer and need more of a push.