Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Am I right for getting upset that my boyfriend jerks off to pictures and videos of his ex girlfriend?
Jessriley Xper 1
We have been together for 2 years and we have an 8 month old son together. I found out that when I was 8 months pregnant he was reaching out to his ex. He was telling her he missed her and reassured her that he would still have time for her even though he was having a baby. A week later I caught him jerking off to old pictures and videos of her. He said he would delete everything. A month later I caught him doing it again. I told him it was a deal breaker and he apologized and said they were gone. He did tell me I only care because I am insecure. He said he can jerk off to what he wants. I don’t care if he does it to be I girls he has never been with or watches porn but it really bothers me that he does it to someone he has been with. He has pictures and videos of me and I don’t expect him to use them. I get that he wants to see something different but I am not ok with it being his ex. He did apologize and told me he would stop. I chose to believe him and forgive him. We were doing really well. Recently he has become distant and secretive. Some days he is really into me and other days he seems not interested at all. I said to him the other day I wasn’t accusing him or asking him if he was still jerking off to his ex but I wanted to remind him if I ever found out he is still doing it I will walk away for good. Well he told me he was looking for something in his phone and all of her pictures and videos reappeared and he does not know how to permanently delete them. He admitted to this because he thinks I have his iCloud account info and password (which I do not) I don’t even know why he thinks that. But that makes me feel like he is still getting off to his ex. Am I being Irrational for ending our relationship over this?
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What Girls & Guys Said
9 27Yea you are
He’s probably still hung up on his ex, im guessing she dumped him and he wants her back
Its not cool but not exactly the worst thing in the world to masturbate to an ex im sure we all have fleeting thoughts of past lovers but looking at her pictures while doing it isn't right and definitely not texting her
I think it’s the combination o the two that really gets to me. I get hit on all the time and just turn everyone down because of him. Aubrey I will explore my options I just wanted to make sure that it wouldn’t be a continuous pattern with guys. I was with the man I was married to before him for 11 years before he passed away and I’m a very honest and loyal person
I would be.
haha full exploitation
yeah
Absofuckinglutley, he's lucky he's still your boyfriend
Yes you are right
It’s not unreasonable, u recognise he may want to masturbate. There are over 3 billion women on the planet, u have said don’t want to 1, seems fair
Yes you are
As in, not irrational (the last question in the end of the paragraph)
Thank you. It sucks but I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t being crazy
No never
I think he needs to go back to his ex.
Yeah definitely, that’s really rude and no regard for your feelings