Blowjob on first date? Yes Or No?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I hope you're kidding. And if not, then let me educate you: NO.

That makes you look easy and he won't take you seriously. Ignore the trolls and guys on here that are telling you to "go for it." If you put out that easily, it will make the guy think you're just after sex and fooling around with him, nothing serious. Meaning if you ever want to date him, he probably won't want to be with you. He has nothing to work towards, or prove why he should be with you, because you put out so easily.

[Woke51]

Nobody should have to work towards or prove anything. It's just two people deciding to spend time together.

[Prideful]

I'm kinda surprised at how many "first date sluts" there is. One more reason to avoid tinder and all that bullcrap

[pleasestopthis]

You probably won't be taken seriously. It gives you the image of someone who jumps straight into bed with guys you barely know.

[MrOracle]

If you are just dating for fun and looking for a casual relationship, fine. If you are hoping to be taken seriously for a long-term relationship with marriage potential, then you are working against your own best interests. The guy will happily take the BJ, but he'll also permanently downgrade you to "casual sex only."

[Asker]

Oh god, men are so weird.

[MrOracle]

No, men have a very good reason for this. If you do sexual acts on the first date, it shows that you don't have boundaries or standards, which means there's an excellent chance that you'll sleep with some other guy you meet while we're together because he's hot or because you're bored or whatever, and you won't give it a second thought because you won't deny your desires in the moment. Thus, you can't be trusted with our feelings or vulnerability, so we have no interest in being in a serious relationship with you. Men will still sleep with you, but it will only ever be casual sex, and that's definitely a lower status than a girl we'll be in a serious relationship with. Our requirements for casual sex are pretty low, but for a serious relationship, they're much higher. Too many girls think that if men will sleep with them, that they qualified for a relationship, but that's not even remotely true.

[MrNameless]

If you guys already know each other well and like each other, and then date and hookup, it can strengthen the relationship.

If its someone you never met, I dunno. More so not, but a lot of people have gotten into relationships after a hook up on the first date

[chrissykerdock]

depends on the date... if he's making out with you and your in a short dress it will probably happen... and/or he's caressing your thighs maybe even fingering you a little... typically a 1st isn't so relaxed... but i have definitely given blowjobs on a 1st date and they were always followed up with other dates each time.

[Prideful]

Don't ever tell me why you aren't settled in a long-term relationship if that's the case :)

[chrissykerdock]

@Prideful that's reality i've been in a 5 and 10 year relationships.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

It's a personal opinion regarding this topic. Some people are for it, others are against it. Only you can decide what's best for you

[charltonhestonsgma]

make sure you get head too girl, that shit needs to be recipricol

[Asker]

Lol of course. I only mentioned blowjob because it's easy to give and doesn't require a safe space. But yeah, if he invites me over OR if I'm comfortable inviting him over to my place I won't let him go without repaying the favor.

[normalice]

I would be cautious about why she didn't just want sex. But if the answer turns out to be because she loves to suck dick, I'm keeping her.

[rachel776]

that's why we did them in high school so we didn't have to have sex

[normalice]

@rachel776 oh, I guess I mostly meant "at my age." For younger girls who still attach vague notions of purity to sex, it is sad but it makes sense.

[Haru_chan]

Please no!

[slatyb]

Do what you feel. If he judges you too eager, he’s an ass and you haven’t lost anything worth having.

[Malwi93]

Yeah fuck them loö

[BlondeGoneWild]

I always give a blowjob (or sex) on the first date if the date goes okay

[Dargil]

Never on the first date. He will , label you a slut. But his eating pussy earlier, maybe.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Not for me cause I respect ladies

[helva]

Only when I know him already long before the date.

[exitseven]

If the date went well and you want to see him again there's nothing like a blow job to let him know.

[Malwi93]

Lmao

[karaspara]

Yes absolutely

[jb12358]

I’ve only had first date blowjobs a few times and it never lowered my impression of the girl. It felt right at the time so we did it and yeah it builds romance and intensity so from that point of view it made things better.

[Tunasub]

I am not one to bring up the subject on the first date but if by chance she says dump your swimmers down my throat I am not one to say no to such a request. If she is a wholesome woman that is of good moral composition... wait or is that oral composition or both? I'll have to look that up..

[Wise4myage]

B. Only if you are just after sex of any kind, otherwise its a bad idea.

[kellytheman]

If it was a good date and don't want to have sex right away that's a good alternative for both.

[neoagent1]

I've had them on the first date although not often. It just made me want to see the girl more.

[swettannie]

if you want to and you feel like it, do it

[Twalli]

It's her choice

[red_knight]

Best idea ever.. do it sis