Boyfriend dad said im a slut and his son deserve better why would he call me a slut?

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CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

Well, I for one am completely against slut-shaming, and I don’t believe any woman deserves to be called a slut, even if someone has first hand knowledge about the exact number of guys you’ve been with. But sometimes, it’s not about who we are, it’s about who we present ourselves as. I mean if you put on a police uniform don’t be shocked if people start calling you officer, if you put on a military uniform, don’t be surprised if people suddenly come up to you and thank you for you service, and call you a hero. You see, what we wear does a lot to shape people’s opinions about the kind of person we are. The guy in the unwashed clothes stinking of urine and cheap booze may be a multi-billionaire, but the world will only SEE a homeless person. The person in the police uniform may be an actor in a movie, that’s set in your city in modern day, and you are playing Cop#2, but when you go for coffee, people will THINK you are actually a cop. Or likewise you may be an actor in a film about the Afghan war, but if you leave the set to get a Starbucks, don’t be shocked if people THINK you are a hero. Similarly, if you dress like, or present yourself to the world as a slutty woman, don’t be shocked if people think you really are one. Not saying you did or are, just trying to extend a helping hand to a woman who asked for help even though you didn’t give much info for us to go on. It seems there is a lot more to this story.
good luck, Laura.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Maybe he's going on your physical display. The extremely plunging neckline that displays your giant maracas and the skintight bright red dress? The excessively long fingernails?

You could be mistaken for a "professional." But there are people who find your style fine. I was taught to dress modestly by a mom who dressed modestly. Maybe you had a mom who dressed like you do.

Your boyfriend's dad might be from more conservative people too. Has he said this to you directly, or are you hearing this from your boyfriend? If it's only secondhand, you might tell your boyfriend you don't want to. hear his father's putdowns. And what's your boyfriends problem that he can't stick up for you.

There's no need to be around his father, is there? And there's certainly no need for your boyfriend to repeat such insults. Ignore his dad and go about your dating. Nothing you can do about negativity.

Maybe his dad is jealous? Ever thought about that one? Ha ha!! Good luck.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

I mean look: you got the massive exposed cleavage. The fake long nails, the make-up the whole nine yards.

Now do I think you're a slut? No.
But then I'm a guy in 20's who knows this is normal these days.

But I can see how a boyfriend's dad would think that since the standard was very different back in his day.

As for deserve better: i think it has more to do with who you are and not what you look like.
Because you're a beautiful woman there is no denying that, still if you're toxic and put your boyfriend through hard times I can see the dad saying this. But I don't know you and can't tell.

alderoth · Accepted Answer

Meh, could be super religious, could be super jealous lmao! Older folks seem to eventually gravitate towards their own ideas of what their children need, or deserve, without taking into consideration that their kid is old enough to have a life of their own lol. You can hate them for it, but you can't disown them lol. The more you prove yourself, and he tells them how good you are to him, the more that idea will change. I hope it gets better soon!! Take care!

laraWM · Answer

Did he say that in front of your boyfriend. If he was there I hope he was supporting you because it is really inappropriate what his dad said.
Your boyfriend loves you for who you are and he should accept it

Chris_7565 · Answer

Maybe you had sex with all of his friends? We don't know you to have all the information.

Turtlewax1994 · Answer

Probably is just petty or wish he had something like you when he was younger. Who knows, maybe he’s bitter about a girl in his past  Mine please?

purplepoppy · Answer

Yawn another "am I a slut" question accompanied with a look at my tits toilet selfie.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Do you show that much cleavage when you are around his dad?

erandal · Answer

It's always a good idea to dress conservatively if you are meeting the parents. They will be looking for the perfect girl/boy (delete as appropriate) and first visual impressions count for a lot. You could have qualifications coming out of your ass and talk so eloquently that the Queen of England sounds common by comparison but show too much skin as they will automatically think "harlot". I've seen it, done it, and been there (on both ends of the stick).

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

Chances are he heard about your hoe tendencies- and that picture isn't really disputing these accusations.

ohshee · Answer

He needs glasses and a picture book dictionary

bubblegunnn · Answer

He is so rude but maybe he had his own point of why he called u that. in my opinion he prolly dont like the way u dress, like the pic u sent here.. um little bit advice of me, dress politely on ur age, dont show cleavage too much or very thight dress to show ur shape, bold makeup and sum like really slut u got me?
Try to wear casual outfit

normalice · Answer

Some men call women sluts when they want to fuck them. It is part wishful thinking and part spite for knowing they definitely won't be fucking them.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

I have no idea but if he isn't a child his father should not be saying shit like that to you. He has no right to be a prick to you and can't control who his son is dating. As long as you aren't cheating on him then what are you doing wrong?

Snsl153 · Answer

I have no idea. I would need more information about what's going on between the three of you.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

You have to be one of them the most boring trolls on this site. Same question, different random woman's photo.

slatyb · Answer

You look fabulous. What did you boyfriend say when his father said that?

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

You were going for a family meeting, not a party with your boyfriend.

This dress of yours was appropriate, you were looking beautiful even. But the dress was on a bit of the exposing side. Please take that into account when you visit him again.

HighValue · Answer

It is likely because you are dressed that way showing your breasts.

leighbee · Answer

He doesn't like you sorry that is probably never going to change

RavVid · Answer

He said that to your face? He is some judgmental and entitled son of a bitch. You have a sweet face and didn't deserve that

Ok you have largish breasts and a narrow waist. What does the Dad expect you to do - let some air out?

Really I think you should tell your boyfriend to tell his Dad where he gets off and to apologize to you. I know that is creating trouble but there is trouble already. You could hardly go to a family dinner where you are called a slut. And if your boyfriend won't stand up for you when you have been badly insulted it is hard to continue your relationship.

There are a whole lot of things that have been shut off by that a*hole insult.

Is there a mother as well?

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Why haven't you asked him?

SeekingVirginWife · Answer

Because sons are valued more than daughters.

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