I know sometimes accidents happen, but why do so many women have children with me before they get married and have a legal committment? I am not talking about morality here, I am talking about common sense. IF you have kids with a guy befoere you know what he will be like in a committed relationship like marriage, you put yourself AND, more importantly, young children in a situation that may leve them without support. I have seen it so much. I wish I know why women do this so much nowadays.
0 0 0 0Stick a fork in this mess. It's done. Start putting things in motion to move him out and get your child support in place. Get a great lawyer so he'll have to pay the max. It sounds to me like the abuse will only intensify so save your kids and get him out of your life.
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I know this will hurt but he sounds like he has lost interest in u. I know it's easy for me to say but, either go into couples counselling and find out what's up or leave him before things get bitter between u two. it's important for the kids that u guys get along even if u aren't together.
0 0 0 0I just hope your kids didn't see you working out in your underwear... sounds like you should start paying attention to your kids instead of this guy who sounds like a total douche and you let him walk all over you...
0 0 0 0Best advice is to save a day for just you two. Have a family member watch the kids and spend a night to reconnect emotionally and physically.
1 1 0 0I fully agree with her. Its more than obvious the attraction is fading due to stress.
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1 8Send him to S. A.
Tell him it is over if he does not lay off the p*rn and act like a man with his g/f. He not only watches p*rn but he is masturbating like a jack rabbit to it as well. So of course, nothing left for you.0 1 0 0I'm sorry to hear about this...
"I'm afraid he's going to cheat "
I think him cheating at this point is the least of your problems. The love is gone. For whatever reason, whether it's kids, or just the relationship has run it's course it sounds like there is little to no love in the relationship. I think you need to communicate your concerns and desires to try and improve things. It may require lots of work on your part and probably some sort of relationship therapy.0 0 0 0He is a total looser. I know the kids complicate things but he is not even being a good father to them. You should not have to do all the work raising the kids! His lack of sex, even when you want some and have gotten back in shape is disgusting. Talk with your parents/friends, come up with a plan ( get an attorney so you can get child support) and then dump him!
0 0 0 0The relationship is over. You need to start making plans to get out, figure out custody/support and find your own place.
1 0 0 0Y'all have kids involved and a grocery list of problems. Have y'all talked about seeing a relationship counselor?
0 0 0 0I'm sorry to hear that, especially due to the fact that you now have two kids caught in the middle. Like someone else said, all you can really due is tell him to wake up to the fact that he's now responsible for a family of his own, like it or not. If he can't deal with it, that's the final straw.
0 0 0 0That is pretty fast for living together. I would do as those below have said schedule a date night. And do them fairly consistently. If after while there is no real improvement I would seek some form of directed open conversation.
0 0 0 0Uh... that sounds like a relationshit, no offense. I mean, unless you two go to counseling and some miracle change happens...
I'm gonna take a wild guess and say you two weren't planning on having kids?0 0 0 0He sounds like an idiot. Seek professional help. I know it must be hard with little ones but you deserve love and respect that he is not providing.
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