Can a relationship continue with horrible sex?

[Anonymous]

I had decided to give this guy a chance, I’m not too sure anymore. He does weird shit in bed like sticking his tongue in my nose (it was the oddest thing and caught me completely off guard), playing with my armpit hair (I was in between waxing). I had to tell him to stop and got completely turned off. He is not well endowed down there, a bit shorter than average. I’ve had average and my past partners had always been on the longer bigger side, so maybe I’m not use to his being on the smaller side. He also last less than 1 min and states that the pleasure gets too much for him causing him to ejaculate so quick. I’m at my wits end. I feel like I’m not receiving any pleasure at all and I feel no desire for him. I’m very communicative and am open to teaching my partner how to please me and I have but it’s not giving.

I’d get turned on when he presses it against me while we are in bed but I start to think about how he won’t be able to perform and won’t last long and I immediately get turned off again. Is there anyway to help him with this or leave it for what it is. I prefer being able to have a healthy sex life with my partner and this is just not it.

[patrick994]

Sexual compatibility is very important, there are two things:

find a compromise, satisfy his fetishes in the relationship and teach him how to give you pleasure, I reiterate that he should not only focus on these, but should give you pleasure in other ways as well.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Sex is a learned skill. Most people do shit that they think their partner will like. But it’s up to you to let him know you don’t like it. I kissed a guy once that kissed like he was trying to win a pie eating contest!! I had to let them know that wasn’t ok and that I don’t want to break off my front teeth.

[Dargil]

Sex is an acquired skill. Work on it to make it better.

Lovers in the night
Poets tryna write
We don't know how to rhyme, but damn, we trySooner or later, it becomes poetry.

[godfatherfan]

So much for women saying "size doesn't matter" lol...

[godfatherfan]

You honestly should just end it. If you are not into what your partner is in to, it won't work. This is the main reason I tell women you are fucking nuts to "wait until you are married". Worst mistake you can make going into a marriage. I broke up with a woman due to sexual incompatibility. She didn't want foreplay. She didn't want oral. We would be lying in bed watching TV, then boom she wants to get with the humping and pumping. If I performed oral on her, she would on me for like 30 seconds to 1 min, then want to jump on. No, that is just not how I want to roll. I don't need my way every time, but it needs to be a balance. I got to the point where I didn't even want to go to her house. I was just done. we were only together around 5 weeks.

[Asker]

lol I use to think like that but after this… I’m not so sure anymore. I don’t need big but definitely not this short or unskilled.

[Asker]

I absolutely agree. I don’t believe in the wait until marriage because this is an important part of a relationship, speaking for myself. He seems eager to learn but I want penetration just as much as foreplay and I don’t think he can improve in that department or it may take a long time that I’m just not willing to sit around waiting for.

[Billlewis]

How do you think he'd react if you asked him whether he'd be okay with you dating other guys?

[Asker]

That’s one thing he said he doesn’t want to ever happen with someone he’s in a relationship with. I thought about bringing that up but it’s not in me. We’re both not into open relationships.

[slatyb]

No, it cannot.

[Jersey2]

What is good about him and how does he stack up that way compared to others? Is he great in other ways? Then its a matter of is it worth training him.

[Alex-Snow]

Sounds way weird to me. I would move on. How often is he doing this and how often are you two having sex?

[Luckycharms12]

Why you with him

[Pterodon]

You’re going to have to tell him to step up his game or you’re going elsewhere

[JayBones2469]

Married 18 years. She's had a great sex life but mines been trash.

[Bobby88t]

You need another guy i think

[CubaPirate]

Probably not