like if i slide my finger from clit to pussy in downward motion it feels ok but like if i try to poke randomly without sliding then it hurts. is that just bc im a virgin or is that normal for girls.
Oh wow umm yeah that makes sense that it would hurt if you just like poke around randomly down there since everything is really tight and sensitive at first being that you're still a virgin. I've heard from other girls that fingering yourself can definitely be uncomfortable at first until your body gets used to having stuff in there. My advice would be to just go super slow when you try stuff, maybe use some lube to help things slide in easier at first, and don't force anything if it's painful. Some gentle rubbing and circling around the outside with your finger is probably less likely to hurt than just jamming a finger in.
The good thing is your body will start to relax and loosen up over time as you get comfortable with touching yourself. Maybe try just focusing on what feels good like around your clit at first before you try actual penetration, so you can get turned on and aroused to help things open up. Don't be afraid to use a vibrator on the outside too if that helps take your mind off any pain. And most importantly don't feel like you need to rush anything. There's no timeline, just go at your own pace and stop whenever you need to. I'm sure with some gradual experimenting it'll start to feel better. But if it still really hurts, maybe even talk to a doctor just in case. But from what you described it definitely sounds pretty normal for a girl who's still new to all this. Just take it slow!
Go to a proper Gynecologist..
Some women can have smaller Vagina with tighter walls ( inaccurate description)
It's a medical condition.
If it hurts, don't poke it!
And be a bit shameless, when visiting the Gynecologist, talk properly. Also tell him/her that you face trouble in self pleasuring.
Don't hesitate, everyone should be able to self pleasure. Apart from medical needs , gynecologists are supposed to help you with that too, and if the issue is outside the area of Gynecologist. They will send you to a sex therapist or a surgeon.
vaginismus you mean?
No , I don't mean that. And stop self-diagnostic, not going to doctor and self treating is a sign of mental illness.
im a doctor lol thats why this question is very dumb on my behalf lol.
So, first things first, if you watch porn then you should know everything on there is a lie.
Women have to be in the mood for anything sexual. If you aren't relaxed and wet, even inserting a finger will hurt. You can't just shove it in, you need to be pretty wet. This is why foreplay is very important.
I'm also a virgin, this is the stuff I learned from self exploration and from sexually active friends.
i was wet tho my ex would finger me and there's only a certain position feels like it feels ok in. was thinking maybe still have part of my hymen and it is blocking part of it or something like i feel like my hole is really small only certain position of finger feels good.
That's normal. Were you relaxed? Tense? Nervous? A little wet or a lot wet?
i was rlly wet not tense. my ex and i were together for a long time i was super comfy with him
It should never really hurt, but it does feel uncomfortable at first.
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Are you giving yourself time to be ready to finger yourself, if your rushing it and your not wet enough it's going to be uncomfortable. If your not getting wet enough maybe you need to add some lube.
My girlfriend sometimes just needs a little lube to get things going once started her body can usually get wet enough to take over.
It may be worth using a small toy something with a smooth hard surface so it slips easier than your finger?
Maybe dry and need lubricant? Use toys to practice with?
Yeah I believe that is normal for a virgin girl but when you finally have sex or use a dildo it might hurt a little at first but then it will feel incredible afterwards even when you slide yours fingers in.
i think you lied about your age
lol no i didn't why
i was in a long term relationship and was hella horny with my man but whenever he would just finger me the latter way it hurt like hell
like it feels like there's a certain way i put my finger in that feels ok. not sure if its like part of my hymen still intact and that gets irritated when finger is put in a certain way. does that make sense
it is pretty normal try playing with your clitoris
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