Can men ejaculate when they want to? can they controle it?

[Anonymous]

[RavVid]

To a degree I can control it. I tend to be triggered by the vaginal spasms in her orgasms and if I have been working her up and keeping myself laid back then that is not a good time to ejaculate for me because it will be weak. I prefer to enjoy her orgasm then build up my head of steam for mine.

I do this by clenching my pelvic floor.

What I cannot do is to insert and say to myself I'll give her a shot now. I doubt any man does.

What I do do is build up my head of steam by thrusting probably hard fast and deep. I like to get the base of my penis bumping into the girls pubic bone because there is something at the junction of penis and torso which is stimulating. Then at max steam I sprog.

Don't know if you would regard this as controlling ejaculation.

Now if I am failing to keep myself laid back and I am getting close to involuntary ejaculation i. e I am so close that if I move a milimetre I'll cum then I will pull out.

I will look to the girl for help in stabilizing me. The technique is for her to squeeze the tip of the penis or to flick the tip with her finger nail. It just somehow takes away the desire to ejaculate but leaves the desire to fuck untouched. An early girlfriend was very good at this. I would thrust away get close pull out and ask her to squeeze me then do it all over again. I was edging myself but didn't know that word then.

Damned good skill for a girl to have. It is a premature ejaculation technique but very useful in edging. I guess I could do that myself. But I don't think it would be as good as having the girl do it. And it is pleasing to have a girl minister to my tip.

So ejaculation can controlled in that way.

[Paul_in_Indy]

I can control it …when I am in control. Does that make sense?

I can slow down and speed up my climax so long as I am still in control of my headspace. It isn’t perfect control—more like a steering influence.

But once I lose control it is a runaway train, and I am just along for the ride.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Depends. They can feel it coming just like a woman can feel her orgasm coming. However the reason men masturbate is to help with controlling their ejaculation. Like for me I know what will make me cum and therefore I usually steer away from such types of stimulations just because I want to last longer.

[Agape93]

If both parties are good with it, yes. And yes they can control it, they just choose not to.

[ShiftingMonke]

They must be aroused, and if practiced, can hold it back to some degree. But to orgasm/ejaculate without stimulation any time he wants, I've not heard of it.

If a guy DID figure it out though, he's probably dead from dehydration as he likely hasn't left his house in weeks.

[rachel776]

some assembly required

[SnowedIn]

I can hold it to a certain extent but not indefinitely nor, necessarily, for long. And I can't ejaculate on command, either.

[WellGreetingsISay]

Up to a certain moment we can control it. But when it's about to blow it will blow

[Ms_Facesitter]

They can to an extent, if you are in control that becomes next to impossible. If you're in control and they are about to ejaculate and they don't want to, but you Do? There is nothing they can do, it's going to happen.

[Chazmatazz269]

Yes. Most men don’t because they’re lazy and/or ignorant.

[Dargil]

There is a point of no return. Before I pass it, I can use my all stop! to delay it. But once I get that Ahh. I made it. I'm gonna cum. feeling, I can't prevent uploading.

[bowenw]

To a certain extent.

[Shedzij567]

Some are just very weak at controlling

[Kayla0126]

Some can apparently

[tfan1]

For me - by masturbation 😉👍

[Rizwan_khan]

Yes we can control it but at some point of orgams if we will reach at full orgasm then we can control it when bullet will fire from the gun. But before that we can control it. And for that control i m doing kegal excercise.

[Nikki1989]

Experienced men can control it. My husband can hold it or cum on demand sometimes.

[LiamJHayden]

I can definitely hold it. Just as definitely cannot release on demand.

[kellytheman]

Yeah but it does take some practice to control it. They just need to focus a little bit.

[AimeeKyle]

With practice, absolutely.

[Shamalien]

We can control it much better than women on average, but it’s much like having a lion on a leash

[AngryCarl2]

We can influence it but the degree of control isn't so much like driving a car, more like piloting a supertanker.

[PatriceONeal]

Bruh this woman is late 20s and knows nothing.

[OddBeMe]

Not starting out, but more experience you get more control. Now I can hold off hours if need be.