I hate sex… it hurts like hell during and burns after and I always end up crying alone in the shower for an hour afterwards while my husband scrolls on his phone or plays some game on his computer… he doesn’t like it because I’m in pain the whole time and feels like his whole family and religion “lied” to him saying he would get soooo much sex after marriage… and I willingly give it to him when I can but it isn’t often that we have the energy and he doesn’t want it if I am in pain…. I told him I may never be able to make the pain go away and that, if he needs to, I’m okay with him seeking sex somewhere else… but he said no and is still kinda holding it against me… he isn’t saying it, but he shows it. He’s been snippy the whole last week since I said I might never be able to give him what he wants… he has been saying he really wishes he had had more sex with lots of people before he met me. I was a virgin when we were married and he had had 2 or 3 sexual partners prior. Idk….
I work 50-55 hours a week (about 10-20 hours more than him depending on the week) and am struggling to not just keel over let alone get chores done or tend to his needs… and he is getting really impatient with my trauma response of being in pain… like I can somehow help that it hurts… keeps saying I need to “get over” being raped when I was 4…. I’m not even the one who brings it up or anything—I just deal and ignore it. Not like there’s much I can do other than just move on but apparently that’s “bad” too. Like, I’m giving him sex when he asks—how exactly is that not “getting over it?” What exactly does he want from me? What should I do?
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