Would you become exclusive with someone you haven't had sex with yet?

[MikeTheBartender]

[Anonymous]

I voted yes. I will not wait for marriage. But I would prefer that we are exclusive as in boyfriend/girlfriend.

Why? I don't know. Had plenty of one night stands. They're missing something. That something is the only thing I desire. I'm not really obsessed with sex for the sake of sex anymore. It was always a thing I was obsessed with not because I needed sex but because I needed to know that i was capable of "getting" sex.

But sex isn't the thing I have truly craved all my life. Truly I have craved the love of a good woman.

[Inbox]

NO. Sexual chemistry is just as important as an emotional connection.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Do you ask them to get tested by a doctor if they've had previous lovers, if they're even honest? 😂😉

[itsclearlynicholas]

STIs, etc herpes hell 👀👀👀🧐

[Inbox]

@itsclearlynicholas We get it! You’d rather be somebody’s pussy boy. If that’s the best you can do (your face says it all)…oops, sorry, I mean if that’s your preference 🤣, then blue balls it is for you! Hold on a sec………………

[Inbox]

@itsclearlynicholas Sorry, I just realized you were just trying to be humorous. I tried deleting my comment, but to no avail. No, I don’t get them tested for obvious reasons - you might as well get a legal background check as well. That’s a sure fire way to make a girl not to see you again.

[itsclearlynicholas]

@inbox you do you inbox 📥👌🏻👌🏻😋👀

[itsclearlynicholas]

And I'll do my preferences : after all, you're right, single here, yet I can always dream what I would be doing lol or could be doing ☁️☁️☁️ daydreams

[TheSpaceGnome]

"Sexual chemistry is just as important as an emotional connection." Thats a silly problem, sexual chemistry is decided before sex occurs. Otherwise no one would fap to porn. Look at them naked, if its arousing, there is sexual chemistry, problem solved.

[Inbox]

@TheSpaceGnome Who the hell looks at you naked, but have no sex? Getting turned on doesn't solve it because what happens if her pussy is dry or massive? The size of her tits also matters to me.

[TheSpaceGnome]

In general its normal to see a person naked before even deciding to be in a relationship with them, and since sex happens much later in a relationship, couples generally know what eachother looks like long before sex happens.

[Inbox]

@TheSpaceGnome omg…looking vs feeling are two different things…..

[PBandJ_Nerd]

You can commit to someone & be exclusive before you even have sex. Communication of sex & sexual activity goes a long way. And I'm not just talking about marriage here either when I mean commitment & exclusivity, those things can exist in any healthy romantic relationship long before marriage exists.

[Xia1994]

Yep I subscribed and signed up to the no sex before marriage club.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Amy would approve 🎵🎶

[itsclearlynicholas]

Lol anyways, there's a movie out

[Xia1994]

@itsclearlynicholas even if Amy didn’t approve I do what I want with my life cuz it’s mine and mines alone 🎵 ha my song sounds better than yours I win 😝 lol!

[itsclearlynicholas]

Lol lucky you fellow 1994 born year lady. It sure is shocking to me to be 30 nowadays I'm 30s - no longer the prime 20s I ain't anymore lol 😆 aging 😅

[Xia1994]

@itsclearlynicholas I’m 23 but you can give me some years off your age any day if you ever feels like doing the 20s again 😂😭

[itsclearlynicholas]

Hahaha uhh what do you mean sorry? 😔😑

[itsclearlynicholas]

@xia1994 ohhhh 😮 I get it you're actually not 30 lol your 23 lol

[Xia1994]

@itsclearlynicholas so your 30 if you wanna be 23 you can give me 7 years off your age and you’ll be 23 and I’ll be 30 😎😂

[itsclearlynicholas]

Lol 😆

[TheSpaceGnome]

Is this an actual club or just a play on words?

[Xia1994]

@TheSpaceGnome it’s a play on words here in my case 😂

[TheSpaceGnome]

Unfortunate 😂

[Xia1994]

@TheSpaceGnome oh well now that you pointed it out I also wish it was a real club 😭😂

[TheSpaceGnome]

Make it 😂

[Xia1994]

@TheSpaceGnome lol I’ll let you know first if I ever create such a club 😭😂😂

[TheSpaceGnome]

The club needs pizza.

[Xia1994]

Yesss bring that pizza I’ll bring drinks 🥤

[TheSpaceGnome]

Bring mountain dew, orange soda and chocolate milk. O-O

[Xia1994]

@TheSpaceGnome awwww I love that there’s no alcohol on the list 🥹 I’m on it 🫡😂

[TheSpaceGnome]

Alcohol is disgusting garbage. 🙂

[JHAYES317]

@xia1994 but what if the guy has a small dick, you’re gonna get married to a guy you don’t know if they can satisfy you sexually?

[Xia1994]

@JHAYES317 I’m not marrying a guy just for sex, I’m marrying him for love, his character, how compatible we are as couple. I don’t think having sex is rocket science either to be honest I could be wrong tho but it shouldn’t be hard for two people inlove to figure out how to please each other sexually and there’s so many resources out there too to look into once you cross that bridge as a couple so really I’m not even worried at all about the sex part I’ll cross that bridge when I get there. What worries me is picking the right guy in terms of his character, how compatible we are. Being married to someone you’re actually not compatible with and who actually has a bad character and personality and reveals that much later on after you’ve fallen in love and have married each other is worrying to be because it happens to so many people everyday and it’s sad.

[Xia1994]

@TheSpaceGnome agreed!! It boggles my mind why people drink it to me it tastes vile not my thing lol.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@JHAYES317 A woman can look at an erection without humping it, and then just use a dildo of the same size to get that answer without risking pregnancy or STDs or emotional confusion. I really don't understand why you think sex before marriage needs to be done to calculate what would be pleasurable enough, it simply isn't needed.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@xia1994 Agreed, especially beer! it smells like old urinal piss.. 🤢

[Xia1994]

@TheSpaceGnome yeah and I really don’t think sex is rocket science, and it’s okay to wait for marriage before doing anything sexual at all I’m not the first person to do it they’ve been doing throughout history and time it’s nothing new and it made for happy marriages since even research suggests that virgins who marry tend to feel more fulfilled and happier in their marriage than people who’ve had multiple sex partners before marrying that in itself says a lot.

[Xia1994]

@TheSpaceGnome lol 😂 I mean you do have a point beer is horrible 😭💯

[TheSpaceGnome]

@xia1994 Yeah people who have had multiple sex partners almost always get divorced later, (assuming they even get married at all). The STD risk alone is cringe worthy... 🤢

[Xia1994]

@TheSpaceGnome you have a point perhaps that will help @jhayes317 see why some people stay virgins, and the ones who didn’t stay virgins often learn how serious sex is and they learn to be a lot more careful in future to not just have it with anyone and to not have it with multiple different people.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Based on his comments I doubt it will make a difference, for some odd reason he thinks dicks are invisible unless you hump them.

[zeitgeist057]

I refuse to be exclusive, even with people I'm having sex with.

So no, it would be out of the question to be exclusive with anyone, regardless of if we've had sex or not. That said, I'm totally open to dating people without a sexual component or if they take a long time to feel ready to have sex. I'm not depending on them for my needs.

[DishLady]

Yeah. I called it getting married….

[JHAYES317]

@dishlady most people have pre-marital sex these days

[strawberrybaby3]

No I wouldn’t

[SarahP080106]

Same.

[petitedollbabee]

Yes, I don’t show interest in more than one person at a time.

[Mr_twoface]

Nope. I had to make sure we are compatible sexually before becoming exclusive or form a relationship.

[Samantha36]

Hell no. That's a big risk. If he's not good in bed then it won't work

[SarahP080106]

Agreed

[Billlewis]

Oh, absolutely. Not only is it typical for me to remain 100% faithful and exclusive to the woman I'm dating/serving, this is always a strictly one sided arrangement, in that she always enjoys the freedom to date other guys whenever she wants, with my blessing, encouragement and even financial support, as well.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Yeah, I only want to sleep with someone I love

[TommyMountainFigure]

Tough one.. Exclusive yes. Married no!

[PeachyPie93]

Yes, I wouldn't want to have sex if we weren't exclusive.

[JHAYES317]

@peachpie93 but what if he sucks in bed?

[PeachyPie93]

@JHAYES317 It can be taught. As long as he is open to communication and pointers lol I only been with virgins they both sucked but got better.

[dustybiker2]

Is that the moment they decided? Close call.

[marshmallowcream]

This is what I would consider normal tbh , I rather not be intimate until things are official

[itsclearlynicholas]

Would marshmallows or cream feature on any exclusive dates with the lucky date? 🌹 Just asking for being curious 🧐 lol 😆

[marshmallowcream]

I don’t really understand the question... If you mean would I exclusively date one person then the answer is yes (once I know they’re not messing around )

[itsclearlynicholas]

Would marshmallows or cream accompany the date? 🍦🍨 👀 👅

[zeitgeist057]

I think he's asking if you are open to involving food play (putting food on bodies and eating/licking it off sexually) as a cutesy reference to your handle.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Or even just as a prop that goes unused it's just meant to be playful banter lol ; I for one no wouldn't lol 😆

[itsclearlynicholas]

Aka first date *brought along a packet of marshmallows and cream, just for giggles* to eat not for bed lol 😆 as a dessert or walk between snack outdoors or on city night walks lol 😆 without being robbed lol

[marshmallowcream]

Loool 🤣🤣🤣 thanks for clarifying. If it’s eating I don’t see why not , defiantly not licking anything off bodies during a date though

[JHAYES317]

@marshmallowcream ok but what if the guy has a tiny penis and you become exclusive and then find that out?

[marshmallowcream]

Then you break up, is not like you’re married

[itsclearlynicholas]

@marshmallowcream do you want to be gifted marshmallows by a second or third date by a man if he knew or was told by you, you like cream or marshmallow?

[JHAYES317]

@marshmallowcream that’d be petty as hell…better to reject a guy on the first couple dates for that then give him hope of a relationship

[LaurenM1997]

Sorry the pic made me laugh 😂😂

[Xia1994]

lol 😂

[LaurenM1997]

@Xia1994 I don’t know what to say 😂😂

[Xia1994]

Your comment made me laugh 😭😂😂🥂

[LaurenM1997]

@Xia1994 thanks ☺️ 😂

[Ms_Facesitter]

That's what happened to me. Of course, as soon as we said yes and became exclusive, we went at it.

[laly520]

I am already

[Drumlin2001]

Yes. But sexual compatibility is very important. I wouldn't wait till marriage, and if we didn't click it would be a heavy conversation

[exitseven]

I went with a girl for 4 years and did not have sex with her. She was saving it for marriage. I would never do that again.

[itsclearlynicholas]

As a germ-freak, I often think I couldn't date a woman who's already "done stuff"

[itsclearlynicholas]

@mikethebartender I'll have a Pepsi thanks, (sir this is a bar) 🍺🍻 "Mike, here's a tip - Pepsi me please" just friendly banter get it. I obviously don't go to bars, when I find vending machines or elsewhere for my Pepsi fix mmm 😋 🥤 soda

[TheSpaceGnome]

@itsclearlynicholas thats not being a "germ-freak" thats having common sense about infections.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, being exclusive would need to happen before having sex with her, otherwise its too risky.

[SotiCoto]

I wouldn't consider myself picky, but I'm not committing to anything without knowing what I'm getting into first.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Hey I'm picky also ;) ;) lol