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Go anonymous if it makes you comfortable. Explain why you did it or if you regret it. How do you think it affected the person life afterwards or if you even think of that. Were you ever close to raping someone? Please, only real answers. Ill include a poll for you people.
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33 31I remember when I was really little a cousin of mine used to have me lie down and he'd just kind of explore down there. He never inserted anything, just looked. I never had any trauma from it or anything. I didn't think it was weird when I was little and now it's kind of an "oh that's what he was doing" thing.
Did he ever do anything beyond "explore"?
Nope. He just used his fingers to look around.
In a way, I think that's normal for kids to do - just explore. My brother and I did sort of the same thing whenever we took baths together as kids.
that's cool when girls aren't afraid of boys
i have and never will rape someone but i was raped
I haven't raped anybody, but when I was 13, and I had become ultra-curious about sex (and wasn't aware of how to relieve myself by masturbating), I touched my sister when she was asleep. I don't think she suffered any psychological damage by it, but I still felt terrible about it and went through therapy afterwards.
Long story, but I had a very close friend overpower me and have sex with me against my will. He was high on methamphetamine (which I didn't figure out until too late) and I don't even think he realized what was happening. It was so bizarre I almost couldn't make sense of it until later.
Why didn't you stop him from doing that? If someone is high on meth he will most likely be in a trance and physically frail.
He was a lot bigger than me and definityly not physically weak.
My 2 step brothers sexually abused me, for 8 years ,
Im extremely sorry to hear that.
No never raped. A couple of girls tried to force me into it when I was really drunk but they didn't manage it.
I know 5 girls that have been raped. 2 were my ex s one of them was raped twice 2 different guys 1 was a friend of my ex 1 my sister and 1 my sisters best friend. all raped by people they knew be careful girls it's usually the people who you trust that will take advantage of you when you're drunk. Which was the case for all 5 of these girls.
The #1 way women get raped, but still highly disregarded by most girls. Simply because they feel safe around friends and believe nothing will happen. What could go wrong right? My friend once threw a drinking party at her house with a bunch of her friends and strangers. Blacked out waking up in her parents bed all wet from her pee. That is poor judgment and decision making here, and if it wasn't for out close friendship, I would've said screw her. I'm not being friends with someone that careless and impulsive. She still doesn't know 100% if she wasn't raped that night. She was raped 2 times in the past. First time being completely out of her control, second time because she was careless, and this time cuz she was reckless and fucking dumb. She's a good person and does not deserve any of that, but this opens my eyes to make believe 70% of the time it's the girls fault for getting into that position to get raped.
I agree they're naive with the " it won't happen to me attitude" young wild n free.. turns out to be tears worst experience of their lives and depression. Which could have been avoided if they hadn't been so reckless. No girl should be raped but the reality is that it happens and young girls need to take that into account before getting so trashed that they can't even stand up and are left vulnerable
Its like walking down a dark alley in the middle of nyc. It’s a 50/50 chance you'll get mugged, either you do or you don’t. You’re pushing the limits by doing that. If you talk to most party girls they’ll mention that at least one point in their lives they were sexually assaulted and possibly raped. But the hardcore party girls are the ones that move on easier because they acknowledge that’s just the party life in womens world. Expect to at one point to get raped if you constantly drink around strangers and people you think you trust but only have known them for 2 weeks.
I rape every day. #lifeisshort
I was sexually assaulted at 16, but I fought back so he was never able to rape me.
I'm glad you did fight
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Me too.
i was raped nearly 2 1/2 years ago and he gave me an incurable STD. i haven't had a relationship since
Oh damn :(
Just so you know there are support groups for people with diseases that can help you get back out there. Just Bc you have it doesn't mean you can't have a normal life :). A friend of mine had something similar happen to her.
no, I have never raped anyone, but I've dreamed about it; I've always wanted to touch a girl.
there are other ways to go about touching a girl. it's called "consensual"
@been_waiting with that age range I wouldn't be surprised that someone was starting to give that idea up.
@Mesonfielde Good point
Do you not grasp how selfish that is?
@Bysshe it's an evaluation of plus and minus. I direct you to the second paragraph of my opinion, even though I partially disagree with it myself.
@Mesonfielde I have actually thought about that type of thing myself, I get what you mean (I think). Rape victims are often traumatised or otherwise injured, and the rapist only gets brief gratification from the act. Selfishness is valuing ones own needs disproportionately over others, which is what this is.
No, I haven't raped anyone and never will. One time I made out with a girl at a party and her ex boyfriend found out the next day and she told him that I molested her. Which is just absolutely ridiculous because she kissed me first and I didn't do anything else with her and then I had to deal with her fake ass tough guy ex.
hahah fake ass XD If my girlfriend ever came to me saying she was molested, first thing i would do is question "why were you in that position to get molested?" sucks dude.
I was drugged and raped 16 months ago.
I am extremely sorry to hear that. I hope you're feeling okay. The best thing to do is to see it as a form of building a stronger you. Mostly everyone goes through tough moments in life but when you conquer those emotional feelings afterwards you feel a lot better about yourself, than the time before the scenario. Everything happens for a reason.
I'm okay now. I was tested and offered therapy. At the time, I was very practical and matter of fact, and they said to me I would probably grieve the experience once I tried to get into a relationship (you normally either grieve at the time or when trying to get close to someone apparently). I found getting into a relationship very tough but my boyfriend was extremely good - he never pushed me into anything, and he's quite protective of me
Mentality, yes. In Football it was common to dehumanize your opponent or other players by dominating, talking down to them in their face, rough housing them, beating them to to the dirt and such.
I would never do that behavior or the physical act to anyone else, though.
Im not comfortable talking about this much but i was raped 11 months ago now it was late and i was walkinv home and this guy up an ally grabbed me and i was eaped up an ally. This guy is in prison now thankfully and im struggling to forget it and its really hard and in all fairness i dont know why im still here
Cmon dont think that way. Rape is horrible, but it should not be a reason to look a life through a dark window. If anything it should be taken as a character changing event. It matures you, you gain a stronger sense of who you are. Its the hardest moments in our lives that really count for how we are as a person dear.
thanks you. he's was an idiot and i dont feel me properly but im becoming stronger than i was before x
That is very good. Now think of this way, who would be the better person now The you who continued on the walk, having nothing happened Or the you who was taken advantage of. I feel like this will really make you realize how much you've grown/advanced from the time it happened.
yeah im not like i used to be but i have managed to find a really nice lad that tells me he loves me and doesmt pressure me into things. He knows what happened and isn't affected by it x
I happy for you. That’s the best kind of boyfriend, one that can understand and comfort you through the feelings. Im sure it helps.
Thanks it reallt does help and i dont know what id do without him xx
I've really moved forward with him and i have a 15 month old son that is still getting what he needs andi am now 21 weeks pregnant with a baby girl as it is something me and my boyfriend have really wanted to start our own little family even tho were only young
Thats sweet. I hope you do live a good life together. I may i ask you, is that 15 month old son your boyfriends or someone else's?
Thank you. No he is someone elses unfortunatly but that night was a huge mistake and my boyfriend is like my little boys dad coz he loves him like one and his proper dad doesn't give a shit about him and has never even met his son ( nothing to fo with me) but we hust want a proper little family and my son doesn't need to know he will have a different dad to his sister xx
Well i think he will figure it out on his own once he's older. They usually do anyway unless theyre just dumb lol. My personal opinion is you should break it to him before he goes out into the world. Its important for a man to know where he's from, regardless if his family loves him very much. Maybe he wants to meet his biological father one day, you never know.
yeah i just domt want him anythinh like that guy i want him a hell of a lot different and i love my boy so muvh that only when the time is right to tell him he will know but id rather him not know till he's old enough to realise he's biological father is useless and didn't even want his own son and that he doesn't need to be anything like him. Have you got any children? x
You have a greater purpose in life sweety
what do you mean i have a greater purpose?
did you think about kicking/attacking/squeezing his balls?
My sister obligated my ex to have sex with her, she was twelve, he was over eighteen.
Hmm, but he chose so no rape.
She knocked him out and tied his hands to the bed.
what? sounds like he let her. 18 getn knocked out by 12 year old elementary girl?
My sister knows how to fight, and she used a paddle. You get distracted and you might end on the ground...
poor guy, im sure he was okay afterwards. Maybe not directly but most guys can deal with rape a bit easier.
My mother punished my sister, I don't know how, but she was punished...
more rape i suspect?
No idea, but my she (my sister) got pregnant.
how old was she?
who?
Your sister
thirteen when she gave birth.
Just read this, I don't know what to say :/
Im still unsure if it was rape or not. Its a confusing situation. I was black out drunk however i hold my boose quite well and id like to know how 2beers and 3small mixed drinks caused such a patchy, dark night.
You don't know if you got raped cuz you blacked out or you think you did but aren't sure if you consent to it?
Not sure if i consented to it, i feel like maybe i started it half heartedly because i was in and out of like a dreamy state and once i realized what infact was going on i tried to stop it and he was persistant so from then on i just slipped away (blacked out) again so i didn't have to deal with it ya know. I remember hearing him call me baby and my stomach was turning it just made me sick and pissed. But i must have started it and if i did well then did i desirve what happened? Sometimes i wonder because i did have a bf at the moment so where was my head?
Lesson learned as i always say. When you go out drinking there are consequences. Maybe this was a life test for you to distinguish were your values, morals and mind are at. Definitely life changing, and it can be considered a good thing.
I feel like it was a set up sometimes because of who they guy was he was my bf's bestfriend and they had been arguing so i figured going to the party would help them patch things up, but i guess ill never know the truth. Im still with my boyfriend so im just glad that he was willing to continue our relationship after that hopefully he knows im not that type of person, and that even the best fall down and are hoodwinked sometimes.
I agree. We go through very confusing times at one point or another. But the main point should be where you know your heart is.
I do, and i take my life experiences as they come good or bad there's always a lesson to be learned. Life shapes you to better protect you to educate you.
EXactly. To better protect you and others. If the lesson was learned then you can now pass down your knowledge and wisdom.
Best advice i have is (trust your gut) i am not effing playing if your not feeling comfortable or something is just off get the hell out of there run just leave!
its human instict, all of us have it. Its just today in our society we tend to ignore it because we all believe everything is all fine and dandy until something shitty happens. Good advice.
I've never raped a person before. It's really uncomfortable and disgusting to me. Even watching pornography, if something resembles rape, it is something I just can't watch or feel excited about.