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Do all girls give so many blowjobs?

I used to be "the slutty one" when I was in high school and at the beginning of my college years. I had one night stands every now and then and just a couple times when I was really drunk I gave a guy I just met a blowjob to completion. It was really not that bad, but I guess my friends were just rather prude. Most of them didn't have sex if they weren't in a relationship. If I look at my "slutty behavior" from back in the, and compare it to that of most of my younger friends and cousins now, I was actually behaving really calm.

Then I had a relationship for 10 years which ended almost a year ago. Now I'm dating again and well, things have changed. Back in the day, I only did those "wild" things when I really felt like it and initiated it myself. It happened like a couple times a year. Now, I feel that I have to put out a lot.

For instance, I have rarely gone on a date where they didn't expect a blowjob at the end. I first thought I'm not gonna give into anything, but I got some really weird reactions when I didn't give head and now I kinda just do it without to much thinking when they start asking for it. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not being raped. I actually enjoy blowing guys, even if I barely know them and probably won't go on a second date. But I do realize that i will probably have to give a blowjob after the date cause I feel like that's just "the way it should go" nowadays. I have blown more guys in this year than I fucked guys all the years before that. I even put a mirror in front of the couch where I usually blow guys, so they can stare at my thong while I'm busy. Like it's was a good investment. I only thought about how fucked up that is from my perspective a week ago that I actually spend money on that.

Is it just me or does everyone notice this? Women who have only recently started dating agin, don't you see the difference from 10 years back?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I am not single and haven't been in last decade. But I've sort of heard this. Faster sex has become more common, but for a variety of reasons, it seems like a lot of women don't want to have sex right away (understandable) and may perceive that it will be held against them if they have sex right away but they also perceive that in demand guys can get sex right away … so if they don't do something the guy might lose interest instantly. So blowjobs right away or almost right away have become more common.

    I'm so glad i'm in a sexless marriage -__-

    • thanks for the honest reply. That's what's been on my mind the entire time I guess. And well, you put it into words really well. Thanks!

  • You get what you attract. Me and most of the guys I know don’t go into dates expecting a blowjob. Wanting one maybe but not expecting it. I’m pretty sure this is the unconscious motivation behind slut shaming. If enough girls do this thing then this thing becomes expected of all women because if you don’t you’ll be passed up for someone who will. It also explains why women seem to get more conservative when there is less competition. Human beings are interesting.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It seems pretty normal i think. Like you feel you gotta keep up with what other girls are doing and since so many girls are cool giving blowjobs 1st date you feel you gotta do the same just to keep a guy interested enough for a second date

    • Do u usually give head on the first date?

  • I think most guys would like a blow job after a date, that doesn't mean it's required! But you should date guys who will take care of you too :)

    • @linds34 you like suckin dick after a date too lol?

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  • We all have different values and likes/dislikes. Have you tried handjobs instead? Guys love them also!!!

  • You really don't have to give a blowjob on the first date. If you actually want to then go for it but you don't owe them one for taking you to dinner. Taking you to dinner was a chance to get to know you and hopefully seduce you a bit, the seduction either worked or it didn't :P

  • i dont think anything has really changed but as long as you are having lots of fun i dont think it really matters anyway

  • I have seen both sides, and really, I confess it is really nice when a girl goes down on me voluntarily. I have NEVER ASKED, MUCH LESS DEMANDED, since that would be the Neanderthal approach to a woman and would NEVER be my style, and for a man to demand that I think he deserves a 'high five", WITH A CHAIR IN THE FACE!

    I have had sex, (different variations) from hand jobs, sucking, me eating them, or me just sucking nipples and rubbing their clitoris, and full intercourse, with a fairly large number of girls/women, when I was sexually active from my late teens to my later 30's and beyond, somewhere around 18-20 partners. That said, out of those numbers, probably less than HALF, have gone down on me of their own volition. Fact in point, after me going down on a virgin 19 year old from my work, she ASKED me what I wanted her to do? Only on ONE occasion did I ask a girl to suck me and even then she said: "You will tell me won't you? I mean you won't cum in my mouth? I said 'of course not"

    With all this blah, blah, blah above, I hope I did not put you to sleep, but I meant to qualify my answer, that I don't think a 'HUGE number of women like having a penis in their mouth, much less a lot of semen. At least that has been my experience, and of those that did do it were experienced and eager and were good at it.

    BTY, I REALLY like your reference to wearing a thong, and using a mirror, so your partner had a good view of your "thong-ed" butt. Great idea, and I WOULD have bought you several pairs, AND the mirror.

    You sound as though you have a great imagination, for sexual play. Good for you, and those lucky partners of yours

  • Probably depends where you’re finding these dates... most of the girls I’ve met of dating apps are pretty dtf... that’s definitely on the upswing over the last 10 years.

    So - after reading your post I gotta ask : do you enjoy it? Can’t really tell... sounds like you’re responding to a perceived expectation... and could say no (obviously). Nothing wrong if you do.

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