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Do guys mean it when they say "I love you" after sex?
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We have been dating for 4 months now and have been intimate recently He said "i love you" after we had sex last night Do guys mean it when they say it after sex?
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16 58No, they just think that's what we want to hear.
lol yeah. more than likely said it for the sole reason of him wanting more in the future.
It's different in my country. We just say 'I love you'. There's no neutral, liking and then loving process. It might even be considered odd if you don't say you love the person if you are in a relationship with the person.
Really depends on the guy. I wish I could give you a definitive answer : /. I know for me personally I've never said I love you to a girl that I didn't feel was true. Those words have deep meaning with me. But some guys do say it more flippantly. Now because it's been 4 months and i'm assuming you're in an exclusive relationship. If both those things are true, then I would assume he means it. But I'm curious if you ask this, because you didn't feel his words resonating as true. Or if you personally don't feel worthy of it/deserving of his love.
Any time a girl has said she loved me I never felt a need to question or ask if that were true. That's the only reason I'm curious.
I think so. My husband says it every time after sex. So I do think it's true after sex. Before sex it depends on if he's pressuring you to get into bed or if he isn't. If he isn't then it's real.
He is your husband though. Not some dude you met four months ago, have not live together and been throw tough times. To find genuine committed love is something that isn't found on trees.
the last thing I would say to any of my current sexual partners since I'm not in a relationship with any of them. so if I do say this then there is a major possibility that I would mean it.
I wouldn't believe it at all. I'd have to hear those words at a bus station or somewhere/something that didn't have to do with physical intimacy
But he does say it when we are out together too. Like after dinner we would go out and hang out near the bay and we would hug and kiss each other and he would say "i love you". And whenever we say goodbye to each other, he says it too. So its not only in the bedroom
Then he probably does mean it. When a guy is really into a girl, he will say whatever's on his mind regarding her, with pretty much no filter.
I love your nickname. Lol
Thats the dopamine talking...
😂😂 True
Men don't even love their new born children right away for christs sake. Its all chemical. For a man to genuinely love something it has to meet certain criteria for our logical brain to say 'okay this thing is more than just a sack of meat that giggles and leaks fluid." For a woman it has to be useful, it has to have some sort of value to us outside of reptilian-esque boobs and ass. For a child its more like 'wow this thing is 50% me, I need to make sure this thing survives for the sake of my DNA." Intrinsic love is foreign to us.
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But he does say it when we are out together too. Like after dinner we would go out and hang out near the bay and we would hug and kiss each other and he would say "i love you". And whenever we say goodbye to each other, he says it too. So its not only in the bedroom
After yes. Before you gotta confirm :D
He might. But you won't really know for sure 'till he proves it. Right?
noooooooooo. he said d it just because he just had sex
And if he would have said before sex then he might want to have sex right?🤔🤔
@bhushan_boudhankar mayeb is the same
Yes because sex is a very bonding and intimate experience especially for men and because sex is a strong and direct way to show love. There might be women like that too but i never lived a woman.
Sex attaches us to women. But that doesn't apply to fuckboys of course.
Definitely and I'll tell you why. When a guys horny he gets all loving and caring and thoughtful and sweet coz subconsciously he wants to screw his missus. Once he's finished those feelings disappear and you become an annoying pain in the arse again that talks too much lol. So for him to say it after he's came must be the real thing. Congratulations he loves you. Cue the violins and choir
Oh, it is case-by-case. Usually, they mean it. But there are sometimes it is just said bc they think you want to hear it...
maybe
Hi,
I guess it is mostly true. If said BEFORE sex, it's likely/possibly an attempt to initiate the act.
No he means he loved the sex
We mean it the most after sex.
It means girls overthink a lot.
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I was thinking the same thing.
Yes, I think he means it - he's just more likely to say it after sex. You've just done something incredibly loving with him. Of course he's going to be feeling those feelings.