Do you have/would you have friends with benefits?

Question

I see a lot of people my age having them. Thinking they're the "cool" ones. I couldn't do that. What about you?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I dont and to be honest i reall need one. So yes i would like to have one ,, I've had them before and i have alway felt really good with them for me it opens me up and i get to be the real me in a relationship you alway kind hold back with friends with benefits you let it all out out there thsts why i have always like them for me i hace tons of passion desire and i love to please i love to take it the distance and make it all about the girl i love trying different things I've alwzys have said i never want to have the same kinda sex twice with a friends with a. friends with benefits you meet you have fun you joke tease laugh make love fuck give take you do it all and with and for each other no strings and for me i love that and since its that way i give even more in a relayion ship it feel like there's alway a motive and that sucks and after awhile it gets old i think a friends with benefits relationship is more honest , when that hapoens you care more u listen deeper the bond becomes stronger yes right now i really would like to have one even a friends with benefits on line buddy i miss not feeling or giving that feeling to someone

AFellowWeeb · Accepted Answer

Disgusting, and one of the reasons why divorce rates are so high

JuneLady · Accepted Answer

Psychologically, they don't exist. The human brain sorts all other members of the other sex into two categories: Mates or Not Mates. Basically, in order to become friends with benefits, you have to change that mindset, which doesn't happen very quickly and certainly not without drawbacks. At the very least, you detach sex from bonding, similar to what pornography does

xolaurenxx · Accepted Answer

I’ve had 2 friends with benefits, which taught me that I am not meant for friends with benefits. I Got so attached and it caused me so many problems. The sex was so good but I really was attached and he didn’t care about me so I cut it off. I will never do it again

Emii_69 · Answer

I have them, and I occasionally get hate messages on here from prudes about it. lol

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yes and no,

I am friendly with a few of my ex’s and we still hook up now and then if in same country or area of country and there is no lockdown and they are single etc etc.

How to phrase this, I have some friends that know exactly how I am and know I do not want full time commitment but like enjoying life (this is pre lockdown).

so after a fashion yes but that would include things like doing sports or mountain biking together etc, not just simply hitting the sack, also they no I have specific requirements from them.

pajamasam · Answer

Tried it, its not for me.

PinkMichae · Answer

I have and would if I was single. Sometimes it's less complicated.

Singlechic · Answer

I had one but then he turned into my boyfriend

spartan55 · Answer

Couldn't do it. In my 20s I would have claimed I could do it, and then failed.

Mia-Wallace · Answer

It's not my cup of tea.

AndyOh · Answer

Yeah it seems to be a thing.
For me, I have had them, except I found that I like a little more than just to meet, get laid, then go home.
I like to have someone to go do things with, share some emotion, get close, and then go home and canoodle together.

Glenn603 · Answer

I have a friend with benefits and i really like it

David92506 · Answer

When I was in college I gave this girl a massage and she loved it. We did it again but this time I pushed the boundaries and she was okay with it. On the third massage I took off my pants and she told me she is in a serious relationship. I didn't care and we had sex. She came back for a 4th massage and I talked about us being together. She got really upset at me and reminded me that she is in a serious relationship. I asked her several questions about the relationship and she got up and left.

That's the extend of me having friends with benefits relationship.

SphynxUK · Answer

I wouldn’t.

eileen_ruth · Answer

Don't think so tbh

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I have had them. It almost always leads to trouble. The key is to end it before it starts getting 'complicated'.

Egirl28 · Answer

No I have had offers but I get to attached and will want more

123lucy · Answer

I haven't but I guess maybe

Stoner710 · Answer

I had it and won’t do it again, I get attached to easily

Agape93 · Answer

Yes and yes

DCooper · Answer

Sure. Why not?

exitseven · Answer

I had a really close female friend while I was dating somebody else. One night we got a little confused about how we felt about each other and eventually it led to the end of the friendship. Twenty years later I really regret this.