Do you know the difference between a "Stag" (husband of a "HotWife") VS a "sissy cuckold" husband?

[CheerGirl38139]

Most people here will likely say that there is no difference. The "cuck" bashing here lately is as bad as "slut" shaming has been since day one.

It's not OK any longer to bash on gays or transgender people - but it's pretty en vogue to "cuck" bash apparently.

For anyone making ASSumptions, I'm not married, engaged, nor am I in a relationship at all. I cannot in all honesty say whether I would ever consider it this I was - as I have no point of reference. But I don't understand the viciousness of the attacks on people that choose to do it.

And I don't believe most people understand that there is a difference in the two types of "cuckold" husbands/boyfriends - because people are so quick to JUDGE and try to throw their own version of "right and wrong" at others.

I don't really expect anyone to read this, and I'm sure I'll get lots of shade thrown my way for even posting the question - to those here that are familiar with me - you are aware that I give no fucks about that. I'm posting this mainly to get it off of my mind because of all the BULLSHIT I've read on G@G about it over the last year or so.

For the vast thousands of you that are confused, here is the definition of the word "cuckold":

a man whose wife is unfaithful
—cuckold
transitive verb

That's it. Period. Nothing about a "sissy" or some dude that "wants to watch his wife get fucked by other men".

SIMPLY PUT: A man who's married to a woman that isn't monogamous.
Maybe he doesn't even know. Maybe he does. Maybe he's a "manly man". Maybe he's not. He's still technically a "cuckold" husband. Period.

So, out of pure curiosity, I began to educate myself on this subject.

From what I've read and been told, the "HotWife Lifestyle" has two basic types of men in it - and by association - two different types of women.

You're Welcome.

[wannabecuckold]

Great topic!
Myself am more of a sissy cuck. I've never been or wanted to be a manly man.. the women I've been with have been fine with it for the most part.. my current wife prefers her men more manly than I care to be.. she is "ok" with my feminine personality but often trys to butch me up.. I'm not very well hung at all (4.5inches hard) and I hate wearing men's clothes and underwear.. men's underwear are waay to big in the front to be comfortable for me and I much prefer to wear panties.. I have given her my blessing from day 1 for her to sleep with real men when she has the want.. she has openly told our friends (at our stag) that I'm happy if she fucks other guys.. one of our friends put me on the spot infront of her and asked if it was true and why? I looked at her and him and said "I want her to be satisfied and have anything she wants" he said Wow!! That's awesome.. I was soo internally turned on it was amazing!! She has taken a Man or two since we've been together on her own. She told me about one situation when she thought I was asleep.. I asked her about it another day and she said I imagined it... I told her if I did it was the best dream of my life so far. She blushed and said I'm an idiot.. lol.. we have 2 kids together and she is the hottest most amazing woman I've ever been with! I have a bit of a hormone disorder and produce less testosterone than most men and produce more estrogen.. I love that fact!!
She is amazing to me I just want her to feel satisfied and have who ever she wants!!

[brendon76]

I’ll be honest I didn’t know there was term for it or that there were variations of it. Although I suppose like all things there is no one way or simple answer. Nothing is ever just black and white. There will forever be shades of grey... and yes there are more than 50 shades. 😉

[CheerGirl38139]

Good point. I say that a lot. I'm not much for absolutes as a rule of thumb

[brendon76]

Thank you for selecting my opinion as MHO.

[CheerGirl38139]

I didn't. The system did. But hey good for you. 😎

[brendon76]

Oh I didn’t know it could choose for you if you don’t make a selection. I guess I’ll stop thanking people because they probably aren’t picking me either... haha.

[CheerGirl38139]

The notification. System tells you if it was the asker or not

[Lexiwho]

Hmmmm good post! I’m married and have sex with other men while my husband is completely faithful to me. Although I don’t like referring to him as faithful and not myself as that implies that I’m being “unfaithful.” (I never know if the period goes inside or outside the quotation mark lol). Anyway, I don’t feel like I’m being unfaithful because he always knows, sometimes watches and i 100% in favor of my sex with others. But to your post, I guess my husband would be called a “cuckold” but he’s definitely not a sissy. He’s the dominant one in every other area of our life.. its just that with sex, he’s more passive and not really “built” in the manliest of ways. So it works for both of us. i still have sex with him... a lot! But its just not enough, or he’s not enough to completely satisfy me. Anyway, good post!

[Kelly6]

I think we both have same type of husband lol

[Ozstag]

@Kelly6 you both sound like fun girls! I had to convince my wife to do, I love when she returns home to be reclaimed 🤤

[SamyJo]

I think the difference between the two are like night and day. And I do see a lot of cuck bashing on here. And gay bashing, and transgender bashing, slut bashing... etc. Sometimes I think people focus on the sexual behavior questions, just to bash anyone, for anything.

So after reading your question, this is what popped into my strange mind:

Do you think both of these conversations would happen, or just one?

#1
Bob: What did you do last night?
Steve: My wife and I had a threesome with another guy.
Bob: Holy crap, I never knew you were a cuckold!

#2
Bob: What did you do last night?
Steve: My wife and I had a threesome with another girl.
Bob: Holy crap! I never knew your wife was a cuckquean! :)

[CheerGirl38139]

quite frankly, there are a lot of immature, insecure, dingle berries on G@G

[SamyJo]

I once read a question on here involving, scat, and about how the guy was hoping to find a girl who was open to it. I was absolutely flabbergasted at the amount of positive replies by both girls and guys. I expected a ton of bashing, but there was very little. So I'm usually confused about stuff on this site. So maybe Forrest Gump was right?
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[SarahsSummer]

I don’t tbjnk either of those conversations would happen.

[MlleCake]

I just don't have a lot of respect about what cuckolding and hotwife is all about. It's very male driven and the woman seems almost like an object or a means to an end, and not regarded as a whole person.

Plus when you start getting into some of it, it can be very racist and sexist in practice.

certainly not always, but as a polyamorous woman, I still see no real appeal in this lifestyle.

[vegasgotlights]

you're just looking at it the wrong way... to us it's the opposite, we see the womans needs above our own and want her to be pleased 100%. Most of us are small, premature ejaculators, submissive, or all 3 ( in my case) and we aren't enough to satisfy women sexually so that's where the fuck life comes into play

[CharlieBadger]

It's a lot less black and white than portrayed in the image above.

Cucks don't have to be sissies and they can join in.

The main difference I have seen is that the stag is usually in charge in their relationship while a cuck either lets the wife lead or the bull.

Cucks tend to be more submissive while stags are more dominant.

[CheerGirl38139]

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[WesleyParis]

Huh, never heard the term stag before. I like it. I have a half open marriage (monogamy for me, open for her), but I've never fit into the cuckold community (they wear panties, beg to be humiliated, sometimes even chastity). I've spoken with some women in the community and most of them are uncomfortable with their husbands' request - marrying a guy like that tends to not be what they signed up for.

I think it takes maturity and strength to be cuckolded, you have to have the confidence that your partner won't leave you. I guess I'm a stag.

[scottalanmiller]

Definitely a huge difference. Anyone who thinks that there isn't has to really not have any comprehension of the concepts of dominance or submission. I can only imagine that the shaming comes from people who fear being in a camp that they aren't proud of for whatever reason and lash out as a defense mechanism.

[Funnygirl1500]

I'm not married but my boyfriend allows me to have fun on the side. A lot of fun. He is amazing for it and isn't a sissy or a beta. He doesn't like the term cuck, so maybe I'll have to use stag. I respect him so much for giving me the opportunity to explore my sexuality apart from him.

[Nm8787]

Amazing! Does he ever get jealous?

[Darkholler]

It's awesome and I love being cuckolded

[LongWhiteBeard]

Stag is like 2-3 step away from a cuck then.
Anyways I get you. Thank you for educating me. Now when is cuckqueening going to take off?

[jcoldstream]

I never heard the word "stag" before. I sleep with other men more often than I sleep with my husband and I have always thought of him as the cuckold.

[Romeo0071234]

If he eats another man's cum out of your pussy or likes humiliation, to name a few he's a cuckold. If he is manly but still enjoys you fucking other men, he's a stag

[Romeo0071234]

Never done it yet, but i like the idea of being a stag

[maryjetta]

Does your husband satisfy you when you are alone Why do you do it? My boyfriend more than satisfys me.

[Goodwifie]

You seem fascinated by the Hot wifing lifestyle, is this something you'd like to do when you get married?

[CheerGirl38139]

I'm not fascinated by it. I read up on it after getting fed up with the "cuck " shaming

[Goodwifie]

So what made you get fed up with it?

[CheerGirl38139]

I can't stand shaming in general and so much of it goes on here toward various things that other people don't understand. The " slut "shaming is another one that wears me out

[Goodwifie]

Yes shaming is wrong and I’ll never do it. But two people having sex being the only two people involved is completely different to a person sharing a partner around. I’ll never understand some sexual behaviour kinks and don’t really want to either, but that’s just me. I’ve always been a one man kind of woman and if my husband suggested anything regarding to adding another person in the bedroom would be hurtful to me.

[CheerGirl38139]

I get that. I dont understand same sex attraction... But just because i don't "get it" doesn't somehow make it "wrong". I also think adults getting turned on by wearing diapers is weird as hell... but I wouldn't shame them for it... call them names... try to make them feel bad about themselves.

[charlie90]

It's a must for me

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Well, that isn’t how the word manifests itself to be honest. Most men who like to watch their women have sex with other men identify as cucks, and everyone else would identify these men as such. I believe it’s bashed because it’s such an unnatural, weak, and disgraceful thing to do to oneself and usually stems from something within the person’s mind. Perhaps the man is so confident and sure of himself that he doesn’t mind seeing other man have sex with his wife OR a man is very insecure. It can be both. I personally think this behavior is rather odd and while it’s not going to cause WW3, i believe it is so pathetic for a man to do. I think men or women who actually do this are weak. It’s not natural biologically and I don’t believe it facilitates a healthy LONG term relationship

[CheerGirl38139]

I hear what you're saying but you make it sound like your position is backed by science (biology and psychology) and it's absolutely not. It's societal. Anyway. Thanks for the thoughtful answer.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

It most certainly is backed by biology and science. It’s not normal or natural for a heterosexual man to want to see his wife have sex with another man. Most importantly, I don’t think a relationship can work from this as well, knowing that you just watched and let another man, most likely a stranger, have sex with your woman. I couldn’t live with myself if I had allowed this.

[CheerGirl38139]

Study up on your anthropology. Marriage is a late invention I'm the evolution of humans. As is religion. And the two go together. I'm not going to debate this all day with you. I don't even personally endorse it... because for reasons different than yours... i agree with you that it doesn't work for most people. I just don't agree that for those that it does work for... ir makes all of them "weak" and I loathe shaming of any type. See ya ✌

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Marriage/monogamy might be an invention, but it’s in accordance to biology. It’s extremely effective in child rearing for example, which is why it is the primary mating system in the world now. Religion might be an invention, but it stems from biological processes as well, and gave those who believed in it an advantage in the past, as compared to those who didn’t. All of these have biological underpinnings.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

I shame it because it’s overall unhealthy behavior and not conducive to a healthy society in my opinion. Men shouldn’t want to see their wives have sex with other men and vice versa. I don’t think that’s good for relationships, and I don’t think that’s a good mentality to have. I think it stems from some feelings of inadequacy and insecurity

[CheerGirl38139]

Or maybe it's weak that you can't handle the thought of it. And you shame it as s defense mechanism for your own feelings of inadequacy. Just playing devils advocate here. But as I said, I'm not going back and forth with you all day. I've seen you do that with other people on here. We aren't going to get anywhere. I understand your feelings on the matter. There is zero need for you to keep going on and on.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Shame as a defense mechanism for my own feelings of inadequacy? I already told you why I shame it. I believe if we give more men confidence and a bette feeling of themselves, they wouldn’t want to watch or engage in this type of behavior of choosing predominantly random men to have sex with their woman. Don’t you think that’s at least unsanitary? Lol.

[CheerGirl38139]

Of course it's dangerous with all of the serious stds about now. Anyway. That's enough. You made your opinion clear. Shaming of any sort rubs me the wrong way. But there are lots of self righteous people that believe it's fine to do. I submit those people lack self awareness. Anyway. Have a nice day. 👋

[PoliceLivesMatter]

That’s because you don’t know what shaming really entails and it’s benefits to stop undesirable behavior lol.

[CheerGirl38139]

That is utter bullshit. Stop now. Please.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

“That is utter bullshit” beautiful intelligent response. Beautiful

[PoliceLivesMatter]

I can sense my blocking about to commence

[PoliceLivesMatter]

I have this effect on people

[CheerGirl38139]

Yeah. Is that your goal? To annoy people with redundancy until they block you?

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Redundancy? I prefer hard facts and beautifully written dialogue lmao

[CheerGirl38139]

You make your point and then you say the same shit over and over because you like to argue. What's the point of hearing yourself say the same things over and over? You somehow think that solidifies your position or has a chance at changing the opinion. Of someone else?

[PoliceLivesMatter]

I might be narcissistic and like hearing myself over and over again, sorry. Can you blame me though? I’m pretty awesome

[CheerGirl38139]

Yeah. You're awesome. Keep looking in the mirror and telling yourself that. To be fair, I agree with *some* of what you posted, bit not the majority of it. And you have no scientific "facts". You remind me of the troll that posts about all women being bisexual... and his "facts" are backed up by porn hub search data... and his own slanted hypothesis. Anyway... Please say bye now. Unless you prefer to be blocked. Of that's yoir goal... I'll grant your wish.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

If you block me, I’ll take that as an act of love.

[coklovingwife]

We've been married 16 years and she's been fucking men since day 1

[SissyElla]

I know the differences between a cuckold and a stag and I'm very much a cuckold in every sense of the term. Feel free to ask me anything. We do exist and are very content in what we do, as are our partners :P

[CheerGirl38139]

It's the stag that people don't think exists ... But they don't seem to understand either variety.

[SissyElla]

Yea, most people dont understand either almost at all. Stags definitely exist too. A quick search on tumblr and people would find thousands

[NiceDave]

I think you're exaggerating a little with all due respect :)
Both with the "harsh attacks on cucks" and with the whole "cuck stag" thingy, even so called "stags" by definition call themselves cucks (how do I know? go on kik you'll find enough real cucks xD) so is it really worth your time knowing what a stag or cuck is? Nope :) and what harsh attacks? Didn't see one example of an attack.

[CheerGirl38139]

I don't know how long you've been around here but every time it gets mentioned it's "he's a cuck" ... "cuck cuck cuck".

[NiceDave]

What's attacking about that? is it insulting?

[CheerGirl38139]

You'd just have to read the context dude.

[NiceDave]

You act like calling a cuck, a cuck is attacking/insulting him for some reason. I've seen some of the cuck related posts going around and nobody is attacking cucks

[ravedave]

It is 100% insulting lmao, I've seen plenty of guys shit on other guys using that word. It's become the new "gay" for when a guy isn't "manly"

[CheerGirl38139]

I'm not "acting" - a word is only a word until you put it into context. Which is why I posted the definition of that word. The word simply means "A man who's wife if unfaithful" - so technically - ANY MAN who's ever been cheated on, has been "cuckolded". It can be used as an insult when intended to be one. FYI... Im not here for the drama, so you can debate with yourself as you see fit. :)

[NiceDave]

@ravedave She's talking about insulting actual cucks *I think*

[CheerGirl38139]

I'm talking about BOTH. Like it's the new cool thing to call guys that you don't think are manly enough.

[ravedave]

She's talking about when guys use cuck as an insult to shit on other guys, which by association, is making fun of and demeaning actual cucks

[NiceDave]

@ravedave Oh shit ok I get it now yeah that's BS tho Im pretty sure actual cucks dont care but I got your point now xD

[CheerGirl38139]

Dave, you don't "get it" - because not all males that are "cucks" are the sissy type that want to be called "cucks" - because it's become a slur instead of the original definition of the word.

[NiceDave]

Ok here comes practical experience and theoretical experience xD No but seriously I talked to a ton of cucks since they flood my Kik and what's the driving force of wanting to be cucked? it's feeling humiliated, ok so maybe not everyone but 99% of the cucks love slurs thrown at them. *Just speaking from exp*

[CheerGirl38139]

and your vast "experience" as a 16 yo on kik is for sure exhaustive scientific research. ;) You yourself have used the word as an insult the entire time you've been posting. "99% of cucks" ... bla bla bla. No different than calling a gay man a "fag". OK, done with this mulberry bush.

[boggboss]

Read this from start to finish but don't see how I would still have any respect for any type of cuck behaviour

[CheerGirl38139]

There's a ton of info on it, but unlikely to change your opinion.

[boggboss]

That I agree I don't feel there is any amount of info that would change how I see it a man getting enjoyment from watching his girl get fucked people must be crazy

[CheerGirl38139]

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[boggboss]

😅👏🏾

[Celtero]

Another woman trying to glorify cuckoldry...

If you want to watch someone else fuck the person you claim to love, or fuck another while your loved watches, there is something wrong with you, you are depraved, I don't care what you call it.

Why is it so important to some to fuck as many other people as possible? Goddamned animals.

[CheerGirl38139]

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[CheerGirl38139]

Whew... can you post some links to your opinions on all the threesome questions that get posted here a hundred times a day? I bet that is fucking fascinating reading. :)

[Celtero]

What's that supposed to mean exactly?

[Celtero]

I don't care that people do it, I just want it to be clear that it's weird and dysfunctional. I'm not gonna be the cuck police and shame every cuck I see, but it aggravates me seeing other people try to glamorize it.

[CheerGirl38139]

I see. And the threesome questions that get posted here over and over and over? Are they "goddamned animals"?

[Celtero]

It's just another form of sexual greed, is it not? What value is there in such indulgences?

[mike5150]

Any form of allowing your spouse to fuck someone else is idiotic. I don't care what context or if it helps you cum, if you love someone your not gonna be fine with allowing someone else fuck them

[CheerGirl38139]

@mike5150 so swingers are "idiotic"

[Celtero]

Of course. It means your marriage is dead, and the only reason you're still together is to save face.

[CheerGirl38139]

https://youtu.be/g4bftQ4xxFc

[Celtero]

It just goes to show the only reason you have relationships is to get off.

[CheerGirl38139]

me? Did you read where I said Im not in one? Nor did I date in high school or college. Try again Dr. Phil

[mike5150]

Swingers are twice as stupid since two couples are ruining there relationship.

[CheerGirl38139]

@mike5150 that's fucking brilliant. Absolute genius.

[Celtero]

Sure, but these are your values. If you think it's okay to sleep with other people for the sake of sexual gratification it reflects how you view intimate relationships.

[CheerGirl38139]

Dude... there you go ASSuming again. I never even took a position on whether it would be "OK" for me personally. I don't condone nor condemn it. I do take offense to the shaming of it.

I'm just not so sententious as to believe I know what's "best" for others or "right" or "wrong" for two consenting adults.

So have your last say so I can block you. I have no patience for people that can't be at least open-minded enough to have the insight to realize they can't possibly know everything, or that there aren't "fit all" answers to most situations.

Make it good.

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[Celtero]

You don't condone it? Pfftt... Do you have a spine? Take a stance or don't bother posting. Cucks are not good for society, they're not good for families and children. It's a bizarre fetish as a result from some negative past experience that people are better off suppressing, much like beastiality or paedophilia. People have fetishes in which they like being shit on... is that normal too? Is that a sign of a well-adjusted individual? Where do you draw the line? People shoving worms in their dick? Whatever though, if you wanna fuck other men in front of your boyfriend, that's fine... just don't try to promote your lifestyle to normal people. Maybe the reason you're single is because men can sense you want to cuck them? I don't know how you can think men are better off being emasculated,...

[t-8900]

damn this post just couldnt have the anon option huh? Thats a shame I could have said a lot of things on the subject too.

[Funnygirl1500]

Just say it. Be completely honest. We are all friends here.

[t-8900]

@Funnygirl1500 the true so called "Alphas" dont share their women but rather have women sharing them. If a woman is being shared in the relationship it means she's the one in control of it. Sharing her out is an act of submission to her and the stronger males are able to dishonor the man and take her for free while he endures the hardships of life with her. He takes care of her, protects her, more like a disposable asset to protecting her. This man will also risk potentially raising the alpha's children, eliminating his own chances for reproduction. A strong male doesn't allow this, on the contrary he breeds with as many as he can to keep his lineage alive. And then he has a beta provider pay for it all so he is free to keep his resources for another woman or multiple other women and children. Thus an Alpha man doesn't share, he takes.

[t-8900]

whats going on with us is completely different from this subject. The person this OP is referencing is sharing his woman and exclusively in that vein. They dont mention anything about the male also getting multiple women or the male choosing who/how/when his woman can go have fun with other guys. Nor is the man she's talking about enforcing terms of reproductive exclusivity. That's a huge difference.

[Funnygirl1500]

Well I will definitely only reproduce with you babe! ❤️ You are always my alpha no matter what happens.

[Zeus_66]

My wife and I ha move been hotwifing in a "stag/vixen" relationship for seven years now. We've been married almost 20. So there is a deep appreciation to it for us. We made the decision together. And it is about us. Only thing I'd point out is I believe the chart is somewhat incorrect. There are many stags that don't engage in any sexual contact with the other man, especially during MMFs (myself included). But many (like myself) will eat the other man's creampie. This is typically a personal choice between the hubby and wife, and brings her intense orgasms. She's long term with her guy, and all three are committed to just one relationship, it is safe (we always get tested to keep it honest). Nothing says eroticism like her bringing me home a creampie to clean up. Hot!

[ravedave]

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ People love to judge other people's kinks when they don't understand

[Andres77]

Quite aware.
Stag all the way.

[audaciter85]

As a sissy cuck, I can honestly say there is a big difference.

[herguy]

I'm a stag (or rather, I will be once my girlfriend gets comfortable with exploring her own desires which she's currently not acted on). Definitely not a cuck in any way shape or form.

[CheerGirl38139]

I believe you. But most of the guys here will take the "blah blah blah cuck cuck cuck" position.

[herguy]

Yep I see that a lot. I am a daddy dom to my girl, there is no way I could ever be a cuck lol, but a lot of people are just so naive they can't tell the difference unfortunately.

[LegateLanius]

Thanks for the info. I still would not do it.

[Waffles731]

A stag has a good rack
I can't believe you of all people missed that one
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[Anon_af]

Oh deer, he looks horny!