Do you prefer to be dominant or submissive?

Question

I prefer to be submissive in the most of the time but I didn't like BDSM.

Sangita93 · Accepted Answer

There is nothing like submissive or dominant in love and sex. I like being taken in every ways possible and even like to obey to the orders of my husband, because we love each other. The answer is the same every time you ask what women like. Some women like being sexually dominant. Some women like being submissive and dominant. All men and women are different and like different things even at different times. We need a loving partner in bed, not a dependant. Men are naturally dominant and women submissive, but that is not only during sex. It is mainly because of natural design, his hormones – testosterone, and cultural practice for the centuries. Exceptions will always be there. I enjoyed the dominance, the feeling of power, the thrill of manipulating my body at my will. But slowly, it lost its charm, as I had to do all the hard work while my husband simply enjoyed. After marriage for first few years, I did everything, even if it was trying a new position. Now I am a recipient. I no longer consider myself as a dominant. This really depends on what turns the men and women on during sex. Some men prefer submissive women; some are turned on by sexually aggressive women. Most men in their sexual life enjoy having submissive women for sex because it fuels their feelings of masculinity and dominance. It is an altogether a different experience to be a submissive and just lie down and have all the pleasure. I also love to follow all the nasty orders of my husband for pleasure, even the ones that normal people could not think of. These things are of so much fun sometimes.
Some women do not really share their kinks with their partner because they are embarrassed or are self conscious. And some of their partners do not really deliver when it comes to reaching that, mainly because they do not really know how to achieve that, and that can make their sex life as a couple, frustrating.
Usually men pretty much know what they like. They will move to please the woman first, but some may move to please themselves in bed first. This makes them dominant. If you have things you want to do with your partner to explore your love life, tell them your ideas. Remember, pornography is nothing but acting, there is no intimacy. So when it comes to reality, submission, is adjusting your needs in bed to benefit each other equally, your love life is about dominating each other's needs. So communicating what you want is key, and be specific that will probably make your partner feel hot by that.
Remember not to let lust confuse yourselves with love though; feel safe to communicate with your partner about what you want. Make sure you make the space to keep the relationship healthy. Intimacy is much more than sex. Main point for pleasure is - be creative.

Obella22 · Accepted Answer

I prefer to be dominant with guys and submissive with girls.

kaylaS91 · Answer

I'm a bit of a switch. I like getting things started and being a massive tease but once sex is on the table... I'm 100% sub.

Being_a_good_Indian · Answer

I am switcheroo.

chrissykerdock · Answer

submissive i love getting on my knees... love the mini dresses... love giving a massage... love a spanking they can be arousing... and of course giving a nice sensous blowjob always works for me.

loves2learn · Answer

Submissive. For sure.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I’m Dominant  also BDSM is far more than just spanking and tying up, that’s porn and movie stuff.

InventorofWarp · Answer

In my everyday life I'm more of a submissive person and sort of enjoy contorting my life around someone else's (not to say I don't also have my own I just enjoy being introduced to things and doing things someone else likes even though I also enjoy showing someone stuff I like).
Sexually? I think I'd almost definitely be more dominant.

ohshee · Answer

I want a girl that who is submissive kind of innocent and shy I want to be able to take her there and slow-motion make her feel something that you never ever felt before I like being romantic I like being passionate and I love touching and making her feel something deep I love submissive girls because when they start to open up a little bit they become the best lovers ever